It sounds like you've taken some important steps forward recognizing addictive patterns with other risky behaviours. You mentioned finding a support group through the SCA. Have you also sought help from a health care practitioner?
What did you find helpful in quitting drinking? What similar strategies can you use to break other addictive habits?
I have not posted in some time. I have been sober for quite a long time, somewhere in around 8 months I believe.
I have some new concerns however as it seems that I might have gone a little far in the other direction. In an attempt to change my lifestyle completely I stopped drinking and began eating better and working out. This is all great, I lost 60 lb and I look/feel fantastic. In my quit process I left my ex and moved in with a family member who is a raging alcoholic.
I dont stay home a lot to avoid his drunken stupidity so I'm out running or 'clubbing' all too often. Although I'm not drinking alcohol and I'm not doing drugs I do find myself often part taking in other risky behaviours like casual sex (6+ people per week, often up to 35 encounters a week-not always different people). I have never really dealt with feelings or emotions because I initially did drugs, then I drank to mask them... I feel like now perhaps I'm 'emoting' via sexual activity rather than really feeling emotions. I made the mistake of discovering Toronto's hidden on premises sex clubs... so although I'm sober I'm doing other risky behaviours... luckily I also recently found SCA (Sexual Compulsives Anonymous) and I'll see how that goes. In the meantime I'm going to start avoiding swingers clubs and all of the swingers that I met through said clubs.. and will be doing everything I can to say no any additional advances (sadly since losing weight and looking fabulous I get hit on even in supermarkets and funeral homes).... I will not leave work in the middle of the day for sex and I will not take days off of work for sex. Here I go again starting yet another quit cycle...
Yay! for sobriety and I suppose its also a good sign that I recognize the need to pull in the reigns a bit on the other activities.
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