Congratulations making it through the 4th, holidays can be tough. You mentioned feeling good this morning, remember that feeling this afternoon and tonight when you want to drink. I heard something once that was so true for me. I don’t remember exactly what it was but something along the lines of...there is a difference in waking up and coming too, falling asleep and passing out. So, so true.
Good luck today!
It sounds like you have a plan for the day, that is a good start. I was not an all day drinker either. I preferred to drink at home so no one would see how much I was drinking. My wife has only a few drinks a year so she never paid attention to how much I was drinking. She was usually asleep when I finally stumbled to bed. When I decided to stop I found myself dreading the thought of not drinking later in the day. Waiting for that “Ok” time to drink was awful. Knowing I had something to do made things better.
My initial plan was similar to yours. I wanted to be able to have a few drinks with my friends and stop. I set a goal for a month and then reassess. It was Ashley, one of the Health Educators on this site, that suggested abstinence for 3 months. She advised that addiction counselors suggest a 3 month break then reassess. I almost feel out. That was not in my plan. At all. As the days turned to weeks, the weeks to months, I realized that life was so much better without alcohol. That was almost 3 years ago and sometimes I think it would be nice to have an occasional drink. I may be able to stop at 1 or 2, I may not. I now find it’s just not worth the risk to find out.
I understand your disappointment in your husband not joining you last night. His actions are not innocent but maybe he needs time to see that you are taking a serious approach to your problem. This sounds like a tough time for you and I admire your courage to begin taking care of yourself in the midst of your marital struggle.
I have not been on this site in a long time, it does not appear to be as active as it has been in the past. There are a many helpful and knowledgeable people here and I will continue to check in and offer any help I can.
Stay strong!
Lynn
MurphMom,
I hope the morning finds you well. For me, the first few days were scary. Change is hard and I had not gone without alcohol for more than a day or two. Having a plan in place for when cravings hit is a very good idea. Your journey is day to day, but what is your goal? Initially you stated you either wanted to cut back or stop completely. What do you feel is best for you?
Lynn
MurphMom,
I hope the morning finds you well. For me, the first few days were scary. Change is hard and I had not gone without alcohol for more than a day or two. Having a plan in place for when cravings hit is a very good idea. Your journey is day to day, but what is your goal? Initially you stated you either wanted to cut back or stop completely. What do you feel is best for you?
Lynn
MurphMom,
I hope the morning finds you well. For me, the first few days were scary. Change is hard and I had not gone without alcohol for more than a day or two. Having a plan in place for when cravings hit is a very good idea. Your journey is day to day, but what is your goal? Initially you stated you either wanted to cut back or stop completely. What do you feel is best for you?
Lynn
