Davit,
I glossed over your response, and want to mine it for more meaning. Why is pushing back "aggressive". For example, police forces are under great scrutiny, internationally, as their use of "force" is criticized, so it must be hard to be in that profession.
I'd also add that I had situation with this that just irritated me 4 days later. I'm just slow(Forrest Gump is a genius compared to me..and a sprinter).
I was in group, where we had to talk about a classroom topic, and there were 3 of us. When I discussed the subject of time, one person stated I was a "stern taskmaster". Since I had just done the exercise with another, and there was inattention to time, I stated that if we continued without attention to time, someone would be left out. I'm really happy with this response, since I was so tentative, and poised.
What irks me is her constant mentioning that she works on a project for the government, and my experience with governmental agencies is generally inefficient, unproductive and bordering on unethical because of nepotism.
Any comments are welcome, and even those just reading make me happy, since it supports that someone out there is struggling, but not ready to share
You could say I do not agree with what you are saying. That would be assertive. If you really wanted to push it you could say, "what you are saying is idiotic." That, however, might be aggressive. But as a rule of thumb all insults are aggressive and usually counter productive.
