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15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3043

thank you panda, it is exactly what I need tonite
(see my "miserable black hole")

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1288

Panda, What a lovely poem! Thank you for sharing with us! Members, if you would like to share inspirational messages that have either helped you or if you think they could help others, please feel free to share! Sylvie, Bilingual Health Educator

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 34

This is a poem "The Guest House" by Rumi a 13th-century Sufi poet.It was in a handout from my Mindful Meditation teacher.

This being human is a guest house.

Every morning is a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,

some momentary awareness comes

as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!

Even if they're a crowd of sorrows,

who violently sweep your house

empty of it's furniture,

still treat each guest honourably.

He may be clearing you out

for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice,

meet them at the door laughing,

and invite them in.

Be grateful for whatever comes,

because each has been sent

as a guide from beyond.

"If our thoughts persuade us that our lives will always be like this

("This is just how I am") , then what started with pain or tension

or sadness is going to give rise to even greater suffering.

But if we're here for this moment, and in this moment, with these

thoughts and feelings and body sensations, and now in the very

next moment the mind's patterns are changed in some way, and now,

changed again in the very next moment, events have a chance to

unfold in an entirely different way."

I have to read this over and over but it says to me that we can change

if we can change our thinking.

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3043

wildcat,

you are a hero - some of your ideas, insights and imagination are fantastic! You are a hero to me!

Goofy

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3043

as a kid did you read those awful books you-are-the-hero? and you chose either go left at the fork in the road and turn to page 7 or turn right and turn to page 11....

I meant it a little in this sense as well as in... you are reading a medeocre 20$ book (like I am now) and the after 100 pages you know what is going to happen in 5, 23, 102, 300, 407, 529 pages? and you give up? well I take the the story idea and become the hero, the main protagonist and develope the story line so it is more interesting. Dora the explorer does not just jump over the crocodiles to get away from the wicked witch. I fall into the swamp after escaping from the mutant laser eyes witch. I cannot combat alone, I need help. So I run from from her in the late after noon as the sun is setting. Time is running short, night is dangerous here. As I think this, I can sense something in the water waiting. Close. Waiting. Hungry. ROAR. Corcodile. Snap. It is so close I can feel it exhale in my face ....

you get the idea,

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3043

Hi Wildcat,

Thank you very much for sharing your strategies with me/us. Really interesting and I'd like to learn them too..
I just did n't really get how you mean you're the hero..(?) Can you explain that a bit more?

And of course, you're right. There is always a lot "food for the imagination" as you say... I just have to accept that I will always find things to worry about if I decided to go the way of worrying. And if I decided to go the way without worrying, then I have to be consequent and not constantly looking around for some "horror-stories" (citing you again ).

Thank you for your appreciated input!

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3043

hi perth.

I was not too sure if i should jump in or not... sometimes I think yeah I understand that but I am way out in foul-ball areas.

There are days when I leave my littles at school (it was worst at daycare) and I get on the anxiety express!!! I hope the educators will be extra vilgilant today. If a pedophile were to touch my litle angles I would.... then I go off into a million and one horror stories.

Or what if that construction zone near my husband's office hits the gaz line again. The fire department has cleared the area twice in 5 years if this time the area blows up .... more horror stories.

I work in the commercial area near the airport, so some plane cause vibrations in the building ... food for the imagination. And Planes landing 2 or 3 kilometers up the road also is food for nasty thoughts as are all the trucks and cars and crazies in traffic.

So I think I understand how the process of anticipation builds the anxiety. I have been taugh to channel all this creativity into better story telling. I rework or continue the story of the books I read and the fictional tv shows I beg to watch (my kids usually let me get fantastic 4 and x-men). Otherwise i kareoke? in the car or at the office-photocopier. The copier and I have a steamy thing going on ...

I like the stories where I am the hero, because I have to make the ending a positive one.

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3043

Breanne, thanks sooo much. I'll print out this whole duscussion and will read it each day to be able to concentrate on all the good thoughts that are listed here.

Thank you everybody! I guess I react very sensitive on this topic.

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1693

Perth,

Like you said, it seems like you are concentrating on all of the negative potential happenings, as opposed to the positive ones. This makes sense, as it seems like you are preparing for the worst, but, it is exhausting! Try to focus on the positive. You are so helpful toward your family, so focus on the good times to come. Plan events, or a get together, give yourself something to look forward to. You are right, nothing ever seems to go as planned, and a lot of unexpected things can occur. But, you just need to learn to take these occurrences in stride. You have control over your thoughts, so when those negative thoughts about the future creep in, challenge them, and replace them with positive thoughts of the present and of what's to come.

We're always here for you Perth

Breanne, Bilingual Health Educator

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3043

Hi Rose,

You are so nice - thanks very much. I really appreciate your thoughts. Yes, I'll investigate what makes me feel better and more relaxed

really wish you all success on this getting-healthy-trip!

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