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Hi Ashley,

You struck a chord when you mentioned Facebook.  There's a new show on t.v. in the U.S., called, "Catfish" and it's about people who have online relationships/romances with other people on Facebook.  So, the host mediates the meeting between the couples.  And, unbelievably, most people lied about their age and weight and they basically created the life they wanted to have, not the life they actually have.  So, if anyone is comparing to Facebook, you may be comparing to fiction and something that is not real.  Along those lines...also comparing yourself physically to models is also impossible.  Photo Editors spend 24 hours on air brushing and shaving off inches on thighs and other body parts, so no one can live up to it, because it's not real.  Just food for thought.  Good thread, good conversation starting, and thought provoking.

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Has an illness, addiction or other left your self-esteem in the gutter? In the weeks to come, we will be exploring various strategies to help rebuild your self-esteem:
  •  Do not dismiss praise or recognition from outside sources. Say thank you. (This gets easier with practice )
  • On the flipside, DO NOT accept put downs from others. This is a non-negotiable. Constructive criticism is now the accepted norm for you!
  • Accept that not everyone will like you. It’s a fact of life. Some people just aren’t meant to be friends or lovers. Find people you do bond with and build relationships with them. 
  • Stop comparing yourself to others. You are unique. You are special in your own way and you have your own strengths. Change the focus back to you every time you feel yourself falling back into that old habit of comparison.
  • Stop looing at Facebook! People on Facebook only post their best pictures and items they want to share. Having a perfect looking life on Facebook doesn't translate to an actual perfect life so there is no point in comparing!
Ashley, Health Educator

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