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11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 2508

Hey Hugs...

Just wanted to let you know I miss my classes and the contact with others too..I had to miss most of last semester and have not be able to sign up for classes this semester either due to health reasons..I didn't realize how much the classes helped me till I was not able to go...I hope to find some kind of class that I can drop into once I am well enough to go again..If not I guess you will just have to put up with me being here more than I usually am. LOL LOL...

Till next time.

Red..

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 2508

Hi Hugs..

I think I know what you mean about the big city folk..not being to friendly..There seems to be a epidemic of cold indifference out there and the condescending attitude seems worse the ever now..I think it is the" ME ME ME First" type of thinking that seems to be becoming the norm these day..I find it is getting to be a real Tough world in the Big city now..

Reminds me of the ends days that's for sure..

You know a class may do the trick and you might find some nice people to talk to there...If not you can always come here and talk to us. All is not lost.

We are a real nice group of caring people if I say so myself and I always enjoy the and your company...

Red.....

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 177

Hi Hugs,

Some people are just cranky. All. The. Time. Haha :) There's always those grumpy sales people and receptionists. A few days ago, when my parents went grocery shopping, there was no more of the eggs left on special. My Dad asked one of the staff if there was any more, and the guy said there are others there for that price. So he hobbled back to Mum on his crutches (he broke his leg a few weeks ago in 3 places) and told her what he had said, and she knew that there definitely wasn't any others on special. So she confronted the guy and he replied "Oh I just told him that." What a thing to say to someone on crutches!

The only thing you can do is accept there are people like that. Although they shouldn't take it out on others, maybe they were just having a bad day. Or maybe that's just who they are. I've come to realise that's just their decision and we shouldn't dwell on it. After all, you'll probably only have to see them briefly.

As for seeing people, maybe that course would be a good thing. Or you could invite someone to come visit you :)

Kaitie.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 4027

Hi Kaitie,

I could register without going. I'm too much hooked on being sure too.

Davit,

I spend far too much alone, and could use a bit of time with people. It doesn't take much. I almost feel guilt bothering others with my fears.

But I've come a long way. I remember feeling so shy, I'd walk by a cousin without saying anything, since I felt so uncomfortable. When I worked, I was around too many people.

I suppose if I was in close community, it would enough to talk to sales people. In the big city though, people have this "driven" attitude, so even courses can be disappointing. In cooking courses, people suck up to the instructor as though they're going to be celebrities. My optometrist's secretary showed her controlling side by wagging her finger at me this morning, as she spoke to another patient, since she apparently gets interrupted often. If she's that controlling at 10 am in the morning, I'd be afraid to see her after noon! Then again, the optometrist has commented on her "new staff", so I know I'm not the only one who notices this behaviour.

Of course I was never perfect

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 177

Hi Hugs,

I get what you mean now, gosh I'm silly ;) Can you enrol in a course without going to the Open Day? I'm not sure how it works in America. Why don't you do something purely because you enjoy it? I've heard of a lady in Brisbane who runs classes to teach people portrait sculpture in clay, and I know it is something I really want to do so I'll work towards it. We don't have to be serious all the time, and I'm sure you'll get more out of it if it's something you actually enjoy :)

As for taking risks, I have another good quote. "if you wait to do everything until you're sure it's right, you'll probably never do much of anything" I know myself I crave certainty. I like to be 100% sure. But how many things are certain in life?

Kaitie.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 6252

Hi hugs.

Sticking my nose in here. Just curious so you don't have to answer. You seem to attach a lot of importance to social situations. What about "me time". Having to involve other people can be as bad as not wanting to be around them. There needs to be a balance. Now me, although I'm very social and can converse with anyone actually prefer my own company which is why I can spend a lot of time alone. Yet if someone shows up I can drop what I am doing to be social. I just don't go out of my way for it. I have one fault (maybe), I like to figure things out on my own. A product of my accumulated life experiences. I like a challenge, but not the same one over and over.

Davit.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 4027

Hi Ashley,

I think it would have been good for me, since I really didn't connect with anybody yesterday. I did go for a walk, though. What would have been disappointing was that I was going to go to a store, which only has an office in my city, and ships online.

There was a lecture, and I think it might give me a clue regarding what I'm missing - activity with connection. As I search for a social group for a few weeks to ground me, I remember liking exercise too, so maybe I can consider a hiking group, although it's very cold.

Sitting around isn't my idea of fun, but I fall into this trap of wishing to dedicate all my time to caregiving, and then I get depleted.

Because I tend to be scattered, I wondered what you thought about a project management course. It would give me structure, self-discipline and grounding because it would be in a group. I would feel inadequate though, since I'd wish to apply it to caregiving. Caregiving is a huge project, and it must be transformational for parents for each child they raise.

What I don't like about courses is that I tend to get uneasy over "performance", and then lose my way forgetting that the course is an aid, not the end goal....

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11226

Hi Hugs,

It sounds like you weren't interested in going to the talk and that's ok - What do you think would have been different if you had went?

Ashley, Health Educator

Here to help :)

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 4027

Thanks for replying Katie,

I think I was close to having a meltdown at the beginning of the week, with too many demands.

I really like that quote. I believe I'm afraid of just taking a risk sometimes, but I've taken some odd risks. Life would have been boring, no matter how much rejection I experienced, if I didn't take all those risks with career, broken hearts, consumer items I had to return. I don't know what I was doing, for example, taking dance lessons, in the past! But I did, and even have college credit, which I can't believe. Maybe I'll ask for a transcript. One of the American Emmy winners stated that she wished to treasure her prize as an antidote to self-doubt. That was so inspiring since the actors seem so confident, poised and perfect!

An "open house" is something I guess I used improperly to describe a "welcome day" at a university, where they were recruiting for the winter night/day continuing education. Trying to get out of the winter inertia is hard, but I'm forced to do stuff that has to be done, and sometimes the momentum carries me somewhere. eg. today I felt tired, did some exercises, and continued with the energy. Some people might have an energy drink, or coffee or fruit... but I forgot the value of some exercise

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1665

Hi Hugs: If I wasn't that interested in what is being discussed and I decided to go it would be for the following reasons: a) I might learn something new; b) I'm killing time for some reason which is o.k. at times. If I didn't go, it would be because I choose not to waste my time with something I don't want to do anyway. I suppose mood comes into it because if it doesn't appeal to me then I am not excited about it and I figure it would bore me being there so why go?

I don't know if this helps or not,

Sunny

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