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Quote of the Day:
Remind yourself regularly that you are better than you think you are. Successful people are not superhuman. Success does not require a super-intellect. Nor is there anything mystical about success. And success isn't based on luck. Successful people are just ordinary folks who have developed belief in themselves and what they do. Never - yes, never - sell yourself short.
- David J. Schwartz
 
I like the idea of reminding myself of how ordinary I am.  I've noticed that many ordinary people are successful, but what separates me is some "condition" and a stigma.  What's dangerous is comparing oneself to others sometimes, but it's hard to separate the times when it's okay and when it's not

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Quote of the Day:
Disciplining yourself to do what you know is right and important, although difficult, is the highroad to pride, self-esteem, and personal satisfaction.
- Brian Tracy

To resume the thread, what I found hard about the quote  yesterday, was that I have to face the everyday tedium and distaste and struggle and, most importantly, the anxiety, and accept it as I do what has to be done, acting as if "failure is impossible". 
 
Imagining if failure was impossible was difficult since I'm used to thinking negatively, but being successfuly could become ordinary and natural
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LOL! 
Every day I start with medication! ( beta blocker and antibiotics then after breakfast anti inflammatory ) And hope some one will give me the incentive to do something. Be it God or good friends.

Davit.
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Quote of the Day:
Disciplining yourself to do what you know is right and important, although difficult, is the highroad to pride, self-esteem, and personal satisfaction.
- Brian Tracy

Everyday I start with meditation, hoping a higher power inspires me to make the most of the finite resources we have to savour every day, and share them with those close with us, following what I try to interpret as "right and important", in my own slow, clumsy, limited wayusing as much patience as possible
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Hi loves trees:  Good to hear from you.  I agree, I think we are wired to be alert for food and shelter, basic needs.  Makes sense to me.  So much easier when the treasury is full.  Ah well, there are good times and there are bad times.  Attitude helps a lot too eh?
 
Your friend, Sunny
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Believe and act as if it were impossible to fail.
- Charles F. Kettering

This is similar to the suggestion that we fake it until we make it, as William James popularized his school of pschology, and inspires me with confidence
 
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Hi Davit,
 
re: may 4 post re financial squeeze. 
 
I honestly suspect we are hard wired to worry if we think we are not going to have our basic needs met. It makes sense that we would, in an evolutionary sense. Not to discount that it happens but that it stands to reason that there is a logic to it. I lived at different levels of poverty and abundance throughout my life. I find that as long as I know that my food, clothing, shelter needs are able to be met I am fine. When I start to feel like they are under threat, I feel anxious.
 
Money that I make on top of what we need to eat and be warm in winter etc.. makes me feel good, but it feels like a game at that point of "oh what will we do with this money we have left over after we've eaten" sort of thing. I am not expressing this very well this morning. My understanding of the research on this is that once people's basic needs are met , income doesn't increase our happiness level. I have experienced that first hand. 
 
Your post reminded me of that. You are working the earth to obtain food, and that connects to a very primal aspect of our humanity - the ability to eat and feed ourselves. If we worry we don't have the means to do that, it is hard not to feel anxious.
 
I consider myself lucky actually that I lived hand to mouth and poor for some years. I know people who never had those experiences and they feel anxious if they can't go on a trip next winter or something. Not to judge, just to say that for me, as long as there is food in the cupboard, I don't panic about finances and I consider that a gift of living poor in that I got back in touch with my basic needs and my understanding that all those other things in life we think we "need" are not needs at all, just wants. I guess to answer your question, I stay in touch with the feelings around basic needs. I am very lucky these days not to worry about food, clothing or shelter needs not being met. I wish we lived in a more communal culture so we could help each other with those things and relieve the anxiety for anyone who ever has to feel panicked about those basic needs getting met. It would be great to live in a world where no one every worried about being warm, safe and fed each night. wouldn't it? our culture is causing a lot of undue anxiety. but that is drifting into another type of thread i think :)
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If it is self inflicted, fine but if it is a requirement of the job then get a different one.

Davit.
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Quote of the Day:
Having once decided to achieve a certain task, achieve it at all costs of tedium and distaste. The gain in self confidence of having accomplished a tiresome labor is immense.
- Thomas A. Bennett


 Tedium and distaste are something I will have to be aware versus worry and anxiety, since the former make me "normal" while the latter, on an ongoing basis require a different strategy.
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If a person is having a life full of failures could it be because they are trying to do what they are incapable of. Aim high all right, but not impossible that is just stupid.

Davit.

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