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Cori J

It would seem that your BF is concerned enough to try to help. It would be good if you could manage to go to the women's centre for him and it will help. They are good at dealing with secrets so it will still be a secret won't it. It is not like you are standing on the corner shouting it! I want you to be free also so I hope you can do this. You could talk about some other smaller issues and save the big secret till you are more comfortable, you will have to go a few times before it starts to take real effect. The first few times are usually used to get you used to going. I think you will leave there after the first time with such a feeling of relief that you will be in a hurry to go back. It will be much like coming here only one on one with some one who understands and wants to help.

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14 years ago 0 1665 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi CoriJ:   Good for your bf, he sounds like he really cares about you and tuned in. I know it's a bit scary to go for your first visit, but I sure hope you go to just try it out if nothing else. Is it one-on-one or group? 
 Family secrets, sweeping things under the carpet, it stays in the family, protect the family name, etc. all these things I have heard.  The counselor is not there to judge, but to help you.  If you feel uncomfortable at first, take it slow and easy until you feel you can trust the counselor.  You can mention all your fears re: how you feel about disclosing.  It's like going to the doctor for a physcial, they've seen lots of patients, nothing surprises them too much.  And they are confidential.  Wishing you the best taking that first step....good luck.  Let us know how it goes.
14 years ago 0 2606 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Cori J,
 
It is great that you have found out about the resources in your area. Do your best to take the time to check it out. It is also nice that your boyfriend looked into it for you!   

With this new found information, what is your action plan?
 

Samantha, Health Educator
14 years ago 0 30 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
well my bf was running some errands with a friend, and they stopped at the womens' center. He talked to the lady there for me and got some information. She said they do free counseling there, so being broke, that works for me. I think I get a day off mid-week, probably wed, or thurs, so I'll try to go then. I know it'll help, but I'm scared to death talking about "the big secret". I still hear my mom's voice in my head saying not to tell. I just want to be free!

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