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7 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1562

Hello TS,

Thats so great to hear. Eckhart talks about accepting the situation and acting upon it. I am not sure if your pursuing meetings associated with AA or some other program, whatever it is, have an open mind. Explore and determine for yourself what is best for you. The reason why I am saying is, its unfortunate, even in the fellowship of AA, there are some who depend on the fellowship. They don't change. For some, we will have to take a harder look at ourselves. I had to let go of old ideas and embrace new ones. I know its a scary situation to be in. The mind always throws mental block at us. But believe me, the minds role is just that especially some of us. Always throws a cautionary flag even though the method might have worked for others.

7 years ago 0 +0 / -0 115

Great question!

I attempted to quit several times over a couple years. Each time it didnt work out, it gave me more insight into why it didnt work out the way I wanted it to. Kinda like a diet - if I wanted to drop a few pounds and it didnt work, I can review what I'm eating, review how Im exercising, and adjust. It might take several adjustments to get it right.

By posting here for others to review, you are giving both themselves and yourself insight into how to get on the road that we want to get on. I think you postings are very valueable, so keep posting!

7 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11215

Hi toxicsoul,

This is a great question, I am sure many members ask themselves this as well. In my opinion all support is welcome and useful. You may not have been successful yet but you still offer valuable insight. Each time you attempt to take control of your alcohol use you are learning something regardless of the result of the attempt. You have posted quite a bit in this group and your contributions are always thoughtful and supportive. Keep posting and offering advice! We are lucky to have you.

Ashley, Health Educator

Here to help :)

7 years ago 0 +0 / -0 345

Thank you everyone for your amazing support, you brought tears to my eyes :) good tears! I've decided to go to a meeting. I can't do this just online. Nonetheless, I will continue with my wonderful family right here for as long as you all will have me. Much love, TS

7 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1562

TS,

I meant to say:

Go to for an answer within. Ask your self not the mind.

7 years ago 0 +0 / -0 54

I don't think our own shortcomings should disqualify us from helping and contributing, so long as we are honest with ourselves and with others about where we are coming from and what we are able to contribute.

Speaking as someone who is very far from having any significant AF record to boast of... When I see you offer support and advice based on your own experience and learning, and then hear you mention slipping, I do not see someone who is just trying to pass themselves off as an internet expert, I see a real person fighting the same battle as I am. It helps remind me that I am not alone. It doesn't detract from the validity of what you say, but does recall that being involved in helping others is a way of caring for oneself.

If you were basing your advice on false claims about being AF for a long period, that would make you a hypocrite. That doesn't sound like you from what I've seen.

7 years ago 0 +0 / -0 347

Toxicsoul,

In my opinion you should continue to support others here and offer your advice. You are not leading members to believe you are AF, you give your opinions based on personal successes and struggles.

I don't think there is an actual amount of time that can pass that one is truly AF and can offer more advice. I believe that someone that is AF for years could be just as vulnerable as someone AF for days to drink again, everyone is different.

Continue to support here, your presence is obviously appreciated.

Lynn

7 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1562

TS,

You you a clock within you. Go to for an answer within. Ask your self not the mind.

7 years ago 0 +0 / -0 286

Toxic soul,

I absolutely believe that we need you to continue to contribute to this forum. When I started out, you were there with very personal, insightful and encouraging responses. You reached out to me and seemed to understand my struggle. For this I am so grateful and in turn I have tried to encourage others as best I can. Alcohol causes such isolation. It feels like a community when we support each other on this journey together. Every time you hold out a helping hand, it benefits us all.

I think that alcohol works for us as a coping strategy until it doesn't. It is for each of us to discover the unique tools that work for us to finally put it all behind us. The fact that you do not give up is testament to your tenacity. Please continue sharing your honest story and supporting others in the positive, perceptive way that you do.

7 years ago 0 +0 / -0 421

Hi TS!

You already know how I feel but, I wanted to chime in and offer my support. I think that every person has their own journey in life. You are trying. Every day sober isn't erased by a slip or fluctuations in your outlook on the moderation/abstinence debate. You are a strong, smart and wise person. You continue to add tools to your wheelhouse and offer info as you discover it and insight to help everyone you can. That is admirable not hypocritical.

You haven't pretended to care or represented yourself as anything other than the genuine and kind person that I know you to be. Please continue to offer your support, thoughtfulness and knowledge here. Everyone together is better that each of us trying alone. :-)

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