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For me there is no such thing as controlled drinking. If you can control it, my hat is off to you. 
9 years ago 0 28 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hello everyone, I finally feel like I hit rock bottom this past Sunday. I was pulled over for OUI failed field sobriety test and will soon lose my license. I was on a downward spiral and my wife saw it coming. Mentioned my excessive drinking, disappearing so I could drink and not knowing when to stop. Well the embarrassment and pain I've felt yesterday made me realize I cannot live like this anymore. I need and want more out of life and what I'm offering to myself and the others around me seems ridiculous to me but continue to drink. I hope to learn a lot from this forum and looking forward to learning and sharing my experiences as I try to control my drinking and eventually stop. I'm so concerned about not succeeding because I have been a casual non stop drinker for 20 + years. It's part of my life seems to be engrained of who I am but no longer want it to be!
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Good morning Smile-glad you are here. You have taken an incredible step.......Recognizing your relationship with alcohol. Like you, I never felt good enough. Further, I felt alone while sinking further into the grips of alcohol. I had even reasoned with myself I was an every day drinker, and that's the way it was going to be til I die. I couldn't cope with life's challenges anymore. I stayed stressed out and depressed. But every day by 5:30, I'd start drinking so I could forget my pain. Gosh, it was such a dysfunctional cycle. Since May of this year when I chose life, I've learned how to cope again. I even like myself,  and am a little proud of myself. By far, stopping drinking was the hardest thing I've ever had to endure. Please know there is light at the end of the tunnel. Take it a day at a time. Embrace each day of sobriety. You can do this. There is a lot of support on here. Members of this group are my heroes. They've got me through so much. Best of luck, and know we are here for you. 
9 years ago 0 315 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Based on what you just wrote may I suggest that read the Big Book of AA. 
Near the end of my drinking I felt so alone, hated myself. Think all problem drinkers feel alone near the end. Ask for help and you will find that you are not alone. Almost any problem drinker in recovery will help you, that is how we stay sober, helping others helps us. This site is a great start. YOU CAN DO IT. Just try staying sober today and if that works try it again tomorrow. 
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Hi,

I'm here because I am trying for the Nth time to stop depending on alcohol. I love everything that life has to offer, but for some reason I have this deeply ingrained belief that I'm not good enough for any of it. I am my own worst critic and I am relentlessly unforgiving of myself. And the only way I can make it stop is to have alcohol on hand. I've lost my sense of joy for the most part, and even though I don't necessarily drink every day, knowing that I don't feel whole without alcohol is almost as bad as the act of drinking itself. 

I want to develop (and sustain) positive coping strategies. I want them to be enough. I want to be good enough. I have a kind and caring 3 year old son and I want to be around to watch him grow up. 

Anyway, I'm sad and I'm scared and  I feel so alone.  I'm so tired of the inner conflicts. I look forward to getting to getting involved here and hopefully making some permanent changes in my life.
Thanks...

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