Hi Jan,
Welcome aboard. I have struggled in very similar ways that you have. Say I’m going to stop, and last for a month and fall back to old behaviors. It’s been a challenge but throughout the journey I have found things that I need to do to keep myself sober. I’ve slipped and fallen down but I’ve still kept some kind of motivation inside to keep standing back up and keep trucking forward.
I have had the same response when I shared with my family. They are lead to believe that it’s a simple process and to quote “just don’t drink” sure if it were that simple I wouldn’t be going through outpatient therapy or need to turn to this site for support. It’s the mis-conception that you can just stop whenever. However the disease of addiction isn’t overly friendly and only has one goal, to keep going. I’ve felt lonely in my journey to sobriety, but I have gained a lot of control back into my life and have met some great people.
How you go through your recovery is entirely up to you. Do you feel having a support group around you could be helpful? AA is a great program, myself I go to an outpatient clinic and they have aftercare twice a week and taking steps for men (it’s a male only addiction service) It’s nice to see the same familiar faces coming back, and all the positives in their lives. It’s also nice to share the experience of the disease without having to jump through hoops to explain it to someone who just doesn’t understand, at least from my experience.
You’re definitely not alone, I can promise you that. There are lots of people on this site and out in the world who support you and want to see you succeed, myself being one of them.
Try not to dwell too much on the past (I know it’s easy to say, I dwell all the time, but I’ve been catching myself to shake the moment) You’re moving forward Jan, and people around you are there to lean.
PJ