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11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 616

Hi Josie....you're absolutely right, I know my daughter will remember the quality time we spend together. Last night my best friend came over and we tied one on. I feel like such an idiot today. I told myself I wouldnt drink too much and yet again I did. I started with ultra light beer....3 bottles, then switched to wine....probably 3 big glasses. I wanted to just stick with the low alcohol beer but that stupid wine was calling my name. I think I'm going to go dump the rest of it out. I just need to stop myself from caving in and running to the liquor store for more. I also told my friend last night that I would attend her fathers retirement party this evening, I changed my mind, I don't want to go. I want to stay home and stay sober. I want to stick to my goal of once per week until I decide to change my goal to just on special occasions or quit altogether.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 12049

Camiol,

Why not prepare a little? Taking a walk with your family is so relaxing and it could really help. Pre-prep your dinners and lunches so it will be quicker and easier to get it done. No one will remember that the dishes went uncleaned, but your daughter will remember the walks you took together.

Just a thought..

Josie, Health Educator

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 616

Wow thank you foxman. I searched the web for AA online assistance but could never find anything. I'll definitely take a look.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 616

Hi Ashley....I have no problem with people being forth right to me, it's probably going to be the wake up call I need to decide to stop drinking altogether. I absolutely agree that alcohol adds stress to my life. I know I am not as tolerant at work, I am more on edge and I always hate myself and call myself stupid after I drink too much. Countless times I've said that I've had enough and yet a few days later I'm back to drinking.

At this time I don't know what could help me deal with the stress after work. I am always very tense and angry when I leave work. I hate my job, but on the upside I just connected with someone I know who is a manager in the field of work I do. The corporation she works for is looking for a supervisor of her dept and she wants me to call her this weekend to discuss the job. Hopefully this could be the move I've wanted to make. A change would be wonderful and this job would definitely be a lot less hectic and overwhelming. Ok so one way of coping with the stress would be to take a walk with my daughter and our dogs. I know that would be a great distraction. My problem is that I rush from work to pick her up at daycare, race home to cook dinner, clean up my kitchen, help her with homework when my husband is working late, get her bathed and make her lunch, then before I know it, the evening is over. When I want to drink I start as soon as I get home and kick off my shoes. How do I control that?

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11214

It definitely sounds like a good start Camiol!

Avoiding high trigger situations is a good idea until you are more confident in your ability to say no.

Sorry for being a bit forth right in my questioning and comments but that's what we do here :) if you ever want us to back off and be a bit gentler let us know. I do want to point out though that it sounds like alcohol is adding stress to your life and not relieving it. Would you say that is an accurate assessment. If that is that case, what would be healthier ways to cope with stress after work?

Ashley, Health Educator

Here to help :)

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1562

I respect the anonymity issue. There are few links on my forum that are related to AA. You can practice the principles of the program sitting in your home. There are people who sponsor people remotely and you may make use of that. You don't have to step into an AA meeting. Internet is changing the way the message is being carried to another alcoholic who is still suffering.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 616

I think the need to race home to that bottle of wine is partly because I feel I need it and mostly because I have a very overwhelming, stressful job. At the end of the day I feel like the only way to unwind and regroup is to have a drink. The problem is I can't stop at just one. I need to learn to control this...however I'm well aware that people with an addiction to alcohol can't have just one. For now I do have a set plan to only drink on the weekends, preferably only Friday nights, and I will strive for sobriety the rest of the week. I have been invited to a retirement party tomorrow evening and because alcohol will be there I've opted not to attend. I hope this is a good start for me.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 616

Yes Foxman I have most definitely considered that I may be an alcoholic, in fact I fear that I most likely am. Considering I come from a long line of alcoholics on both sides of my family , and my drinking behavior in the past year or so, it has given me plenty of reason to think I am addicted. While I know AA has been a life line for many people, it is not an option for me at this time, and this is what has brought me to this website. I come from a small city where everybody knows everybody and I prefer total anonymity. I believe with determination and knowledge of what my possible disease can do to me both physically and in my personal relationships, I can overcome this and be myself again.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11214

Hi Camiol,

Considering these questions will help ensure your success. When you are ready, make a set plan.

From your previous posts it seems clear to me that you have the right motivation. So what is holding you back? What is preventing you from making a set plan? What is making you race home for a bottle of wine?

Ashley, Health Educator

Here to help :)

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1562

Hi Camiol,

Have you ever considered you may be alcoholic? I was a functioning alcoholic. Working hard for the money but moment evening arrives, i will be drinking. And once I start i can't stop. I attempted to stop several times but of no use, my mind would trick me into taking 1 drink. That is it, I will be off to the races. Then I about 6 years ago, i attended my first AA meeting there I learned about this fatal progressive disease. Its a 3 fold disease, an obsessive mind that tricks us into taking the 1st drink, and then the phenomenon of craving that starts after we take that 1st drink, then we can't stop. And in forces sobriety, we are restless irritable and discontented. I was told only a spiritual solution will help.

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