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12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1853

Hi purpose and welcome to the AHC community!

Your plan to take it one day at a time is absolutely key. Staying in the present moment helps you focus on your goals and better deal with any urges to drink.

I encourage you to work through the program. Under the 'toolbox' section of the website you will see the topic 'Getting Started'. In addition to the program, continue to read through the forums and post often. Many members have been in your position and can offer advice from experience..

Have you talked with your husband about your desire to cut back/quit? If so, what was his reaction?

I'm glad to hear you are not totally alone - your son sounds like a great ally! Of course you have the AHC here for you as well!

Vincenza, Health Educator

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1

Hello everyone. This is my second day on the help center site and it's been about a day and a half since my last drink. With it being a friday night, I find myself wanting to drink something. But I will not give in. It's been hard finding a support system, because all of my family drinks and my husband is also a drinker. The only real support I have is from my 11 year old son. Since I'm so new, I really don't know where to start with my recovery. I am doing my best to take it one day at a time. Any tips or words you can share would be great. Thank you.

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1853

Hi everyone,

Great reading through your posts this evening. Way to go Krissy for changing up your routine to stay true to yourself and refrain from having a drink!

Chris, I know it's so hard quitting drinking when it is so intertwined with being social, but I wonder if you can give up both for awhile? Until you feel more confident that you can say "no" and not give in to the situation.

Good question Mom1968! How else can you distract yourself? What hobbies do you have to pass the time and keep yourself busy?

Vincenza, Health Educator

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 10

I know I am on here again. But this is the best site....and it beats drinking! So here I am again.

I just want to say I did a very good thing tonight. I bring my neighbors kids to school with me everyday and home. Well i dropped them off and all her and his drinking friends were there. Usually i would park the car and go get drunk with them and drive home...not proud for saying that! But tonight I dropped kids off and left. I did it. I cannot believe I did it! I still am a little shocked myself. I just hope this pattern keeps up. I am not sure what is so different this time, but I feel determined!

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 10

I don't know guys..it's a battle everyday! I just look at my past and think there has to be a better future. I know I will drink, because yes there neighbors..friends and so on. But I hope to control it. And by saying that I want to have only a few not 6 to 10. I am just so sick and tired of being hungover and feeling guilty for the things I have done in the past. It is just time to move on. I think that is what we all need to do ....move on.

There is going to be those ones that we have drank with before and they are going to say why now...not sure what the answer is going to be, but hopefully I can stick to my guns!!!!!!

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 26

Hm, that was not clear, what I was trying to say...I do have people around me who want to have a drink on a daily basis. My husband, his college buddy who lives down the road. It's just that I get home a few hours before they do and can do some serious drinking by the time they get here.

Any ideas on how to distract ourselves from this habit?

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 26

Hey Krissy, good for you!!!!

Did you find the restraining to be difficult? My impression is that you are ready to let all of this bad habit-stuff go. Hey, guess what...............I actually would like to be able to cut down, so to hear about your successes is actually quite helpful for me! You can be a mentor for the rest of us :-)! I wish you all the best, and really am interested in hearing about you getting over this. Also want your feedback on how to do cut down. Keep going!!!!!

Chris...you can do this. For me, I do have the additional pressure of people around me who drink. Arg! I can't blame them, though, as I tend to drink all on my own. Can you cut down, or reduce the amount that you drink in any way?

I am so good at giving advice, and not taking it :-).

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 10

I did not give in last night! I sure wanted too! So a whole week without a hangover....Imagine! It has been a while. I even planned a family night with hubby and kids. Usually it is come home from work and crack one until I go to bed. So we will see how it goes!

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1562

Hey Chris,

Have you read the book called Alcoholics Anonymous? If not there is a link on my blog you may visit it and read the Doctors Opinion and There is a Solution Chapters. What we are dealing with is a 3 fold illness. First our mind tricks us into taking a drink after a gap (Perhaps something like, this time I am just going to drink 1 drink) and we end up taking that first drink. Then the phenomenon of craving kicks in after we take that first drink. And then when we are not drinking we are restless irritable, discontented and anxious.

I my life, i like you would not store beer in my house. But after I take that first beer, I will make several trip back to the package store. And in forced sobriety I was gripped with fear, depressed, restless and irritable.

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 9

Thanks so much for the response Vincenza. I know my original post didn't contain much information, but for me it was a big step to finally make the announcement and join the forum. Not to mention, I was really hungover when I wrote it.

I understand what Krissy is talking about ... one of the (many) reasons I've had enough is because of Easter Sunday. I had a friend over, and I was drinking before he even arrived, and was drunk for the visit. This friend doesn't even drink. I was so embarrassed and depressed the next few days, that it lead to a week of drinking. I only crave it at night, but that's bad enough, so I've been reading the site to see how I can avoid all the triggers and cravings.

For years I could drink just once or twice a week. I'd get drunk, but I was with people who were partying as well so it didn't stand out. Now I've started the secret drinking, usually 5 out of 7 nights, and I can never have just one. I've tried tricks like buying the small bottles of wine near the cashier (2 glasses), and that works once in awhile, but now I find that makes me twice as annoyed as not drinking at all. I often walk back down the street and buy another one.

I'm best not to have it in the house, and thankfully have a couple room-mates who don't have it around either. I think the thing I'll miss the most is wine with a nice dinner in a restaurant. I was wondering if people quit for 6 months sometimes or a year, and find that they can go back to that? I worry it would just start the whole cycle up again. Funny enough, all my friends are "one drink" drinkers, so I won't have any peer pressure. I'm just sure there's been a bit of concern on their part when I'm always ordering 3 or 4.

Anyway, I'm fine tonight. But I will definitely be on-line often with questions on continuing. I think one of the hardest things for me to make it past a week is the connection between socializing and drinking. I want to be out there and hanging with friends, but it's SO difficult to imagine justing sitting there in a bar with a glass of water. It's usually the reason I start drinking again after a break. Practice I guess.

Thanks again,

Chris

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