Marylizy, you are so thoughtful and analytical. You seem to know yourself really well, and know what to do in a variety of situations. It is helpful for me to see how there can be different goals for different times and places.
I liked the idea of pouring away the first glass of wine, to prevent drinking it later when under the influence.
I've meant to try putting a ring on and, with each drink, move it onto another finger so I can see how many I've had (once I've pre-determined what my goal is). Even if I dont have a goal, it at least helps me keep track. I find that once I've had 3 or 4 drinks, I keep drinking as if its water, and dont bother to count. I've got a lot of work to do.
Does anyone have any suggestions for how I can read some of the inspirational messages and encouragement when I am in a bar. I was thinking of something that would remind me, as I'm about to order a third pint, that I didn't want to have this drink because (for example), I need to drive later, its empty calories, its poisoning my body, etc. I seem to forget about all of that until I sober up and regret what I've done. It makes me feel down, and then the whole cycle starts again.