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14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 35

Hi JbBlue and Hors Controle, et al,

It is day 12 since I joined this community for education, guidance and support (starting with the hardest thing of all - admitting the problem and seeking help). I've not been perfect in the 12 days, but have realized real, true progress in the right direction. I've adjusted my original lofty goals to be more realistic for the short term - for me it is no hard liquor and no getting drunk for 30 days. I'm 8 days successful so far. I haven't been to the liquor store for 12 days (I'm sure they are wondering where "she" is...but I don't care if I ever go back). I have 5% coolers or a glass or two of wine each day - some days nothing at all.

I feel like I'm walking out of a fog. It feels good to think clearly and not be overwhelmed by ordinary tasks. I enjoy thinking and speaking intelligently once again. My mistakes are acceptable to me now, I don't worry that I'm thinking/saying something that drink is controlling and I won't remember tomorrow.

Jbblue, you are right that different situations/environments can trigger different things in us. It's both interesting and scary. You will eventually figure out those "triggers"...and then can make a conscious decision how to deal with them.

Hors controle - I really appreciate your sharing - it really inspires me, and yes, you should be very proud of yourself, as your kids will be also. I send back to you what you sent to me... "Courage".

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 557

Hello JbBlue,

Vancouver is a very nice city indeed Wish I will be able to go back one day.

It is my 23rd day today and I must admit I am beginning to feel it is a little hard. My goal is to stop 6 weeks and then only drink when I have dinner with my boyfriend or company. No more drinking 2 bottle of wine by myself.

I knew the nice weather would make it hard. So I filled up with 0,5% cooler and Perrier, lemon and other lemony water.

I cooked my meal for the weeks. I did this for the last 2 weekend and I have dinner as soon as I begin to feel the apero would be nice.

And my boyfriend email me those little no wine sign. He adds one up everyday and silly enough but it feels like little gold star the teachers used to put on my homework.lol

It is very nice you could control yourself over the weekend

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 37

Hi hors controle,

Thanks for your advice. I would say my weekend was wonderful for the most part. I love Vancouver and think it’s a beautiful city, I enjoy it every time I go. The girls I was with don’t drink much at all to begin with. However upon arrival their plan was for us to tour around down town in search for good places to wine and dine. I expected this and didn’t try to avoid it so I would enjoy myself, but try to limit my wine intake and really enjoy the food. They don’t know about my problem and I’m not comfortable asking for support yet. Anyway that was it, the rest of the weekend was just a lot of walking, shopping and site seeing. I really feel different now, like it’s finally my time to get my life back. I’ve never been able to get past day 12 so now I have a goal to get to at least 2 weeks and set another goal from there. My husband says if I put half as much the effort into quitting as I do worrying I’d not only be successful, but maintain amazing results. Good advice I guess.

What about you? You must be so proud of your progress, what day are you on? Do you have any advice for me to get past day 12 and onto day 13? Because of the wine Friday and 1 drink at the airport Sunday I’m only on day 2......again but I feel good about it this time. Thanks for your support! I’m here to support you too.

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 557

Hello JbBlue,

so how did your weekend go. Did you have fun?

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 557

Hello JbBlue,

I often had that feeling that getting in the house at the end of the day was like getting in a prison and the way to forget about it and cheer myself was to have a drink and make a little party for myself.

It is hard to go out with friend and not having a drink while they will probably have some. We kind of feel left out. Them vs us. At the same time it is the challenge to learn to not have a drink while other do. When I quit smoking, it was the same thing. I can't tell people around me not to smoke but had to find way to accept it and manage the cravings. I will soon get into that hard part as we start going to the marina every weekend and have dinner with friend at the end of the day.

Good luck Jbblue and one thing very important to remember. It is not because you slip one day that you are back into it

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 37

I can completely agree with Keesu and that intensions are one thing and actions another. During the day while I’m at work I’m really confident and I do my job very well. Once I get home it’s almost like I change into someone else. I find that if I give in and drink in the evening the next day I’m so angry at myself because I spent the entire day before feeling confident I wasn’t going to. What keeps me going is knowing that I’m finally ready to quit. I want to so much I will find a way to make it work. I have a huge challenge this weekend. I’m going away with some friends for a mini vacation and leaving our spouses at home. This trip has been booked for months with the intensions to shop and have a good time. I don’t know what’s going to happen. The devil on my shoulder says you can start over on Monday.

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 557

I'm doing fine and I feel great. It is getting easier altough over the weekend and the BBQ I felt some cravings si I bought some 0.5% cooler and went walking. I have been sleeping more than 4-5 hours per day since about a week. It is my 16th day today. My kids are still skeptical when I tell them I've quit, lol, but they encourage me. I am feeling that this time will be the right time. Keep going Keesu

Hors controle

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 12049

Keesu,

Thank you for sharing your success with us. Reaffirming and refocusing is a good way to reach your goals as well. Keep posting and share with us as we can all learn from one another.

Josie, Health Educator

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 35

Hi everyone, just want to let you know I'm still with this program. I've slipped, but not slipped away - I'm here. Not a day yet totally without, but just a shot or two only per day - nothing like before - and no real effect given my tolerance - almost like a eating a comfort food. I must say, I'm really enjoying having a clear mind. I sleep better, work isn't so overwhelming, I even argue better (ha ha) - at least it's a logical and not drunk me speaking out.

I will plan to re-adjust my goals soon, let me try out a few more days and get a sense of what this transition is like and what is suitably SMART.

Thanks for the welcome and support, hors controle. How are you doing?

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 2606

Hi Keesu,

It sounds like you are making discoveries on what is going to work best for you. You can definitely re-adjust your goals and even have different goals for different situations. Be sure to follow the SMART acronym when setting your goals. You can read about how to set a smart goal in the mod's corner. A general overview of the acronym, your goal should be specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and timely. Re-evaluate and set your goals and of course include the reward system into this plan.

What other rewards have you thought about? How will you ensure that you achieve your new goals?

Samantha, Health Educator

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