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I am still around and check in to update my quit diary and write in my blog from time to time..
There may be others doing the same thing while they're getting ready to quit or trying to stay quit..
I don't really know but it's possible they may be here reading the sessions and possibly the forums too..
They just choose not to post in forums and that's ok too..
 
Well gotta go, lots to do..
 
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10 years ago 0 1140 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I often wonder about certain posters, too, xtsgalaxy. 
 
The ones that worry me are the ones who show up for a day or two all full of positive energy, and then disappear. I suspect that many of them caved to the crave early on, and were too ashamed to come back. I only hope that they still come around and read and know that they can come back when they are ready...or even when they are just getting ready. (I hung around here for months before I had my actual last cigarette.)  
 
However, once in a while, one of these short-time posters will pop up a few months later and report success. That's always a nice surprise. Some people just don't feel the need to post as much to get through this, I guess. (I've also read a few posts from people who seem to have been quietly reading for a long time without posting. That is all that they need, in terms of social support.) 
 
I think a lot of the long term quitters just gradually fade. Over time, you just think less about smoking, so the thought to come here doesn't pop up as often. Plus, coming back to this board and talking about smoking can sometimes trigger a crave. Not to mention the fact that sometimes there isn't much more to say than "just don't smoke." (Amazing that I've written so many posts over the past couple of years that still come down to that simple message.) I've had a little of all of those scenarios. I used to come to this board every singe day, sometimes several times. Now, it's usually several days between check-ins. I suspect that my participation will fade more and more as time goes on. 
 
One reason that I keep coming here is that I genuinely like reading peoples stories and interacting with them. There are so many different and interesting people here. Our only common thread is addiction and the desire to be free of it. Kind of cool that so many different types can come together for a common purpose like that. 
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I send them a PM to ask is their still going strong... Always hoping that they get an email notification of the msg.. John
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I hope so too ytsgalaxy.

I am also thankful for all of you that stay. Keep up the great work everyone!
 
 
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'twas ever thus John!!
 
Back in 2004, Squeeky quit a week before me and we shared the path for a couple of months here (and very entertaining it was too!) until he moved to Texas. From that day on we never heard from him  again and even to this day, 10 years later, I still wonder.
 
Bottom line: you'll never know - unless they return!
 
Best,
Penitent
 
 
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I hope they are all fine and managed to quit.  Now and then people pop up and start threads about their quits.  Then suddenly they disappear.  Some seemed to be doing really well until they disappear.  It always makes me wonder if they managed in the end.  I can understand that not everybody will remain and write in the forum regularly.  I for some reason feel attached with fellow quitters who I chat with thus am left thinking and wondering if they made it.
 
I will remain hopeful that most of the quitters who manage to get through 72 hours will continue and become non-smokers. 
 
John
 

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