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15 years ago 0 12049 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Neen,
 
Fantastic!  Good for you for taking of yourself first!  Take it day by day and make sure you relieve yourself of that extra stress daily with relaxing techniques and even cleaning!
 
You deserve it
 
Josie, Health Educator
15 years ago 0 1890 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Neena, Happy Sick Day then! And major congratulations on using this site so well with your constant attention to your daily commitment and your will to share your trials with us...
  There's a lasting satisfaction in Lady's mountain metaphor - I got a lot of boring and pain-in-the-butt house cleaning done today since my sister's coming for the weekend... mountain enough for me...
 
Patrick


My Milage:

My Quit Date: 1/18/2008
Smoke-Free Days: 140
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 3,500
Amount Saved: $1,575.00
Life Gained:
Days: 26 Hrs: 1 Mins: 55 Seconds: 26

15 years ago 0 649 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Neen
 
I have been enjoying reading your posts.  Isn't it something how our moods and emotions can be all over the map when we start this journey?  If you are like a lot of us,  you will have some days when you can "climb" without much resistance, and there may be some days when you can barely put one foot in front of the other.  Try to keep your sense of humor intact.  It's hard to crave while you are laughing.  Good Luck to you.
 
 


My Milage:

My Quit Date: 11/19/2007
Smoke-Free Days: 200
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 3,000
Amount Saved: $675.00
Life Gained:
Days: 32 Hrs: 4 Mins: 51 Seconds: 59

15 years ago 0 13 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
It's a new day!  Well, as hard as it was, I did call in sick today. 
My husband said to me last night ` "you know you quit smoking just like that (snap) when you got pregnant, that was for someone else, why can't you do it again for you?"  The truth is - if we felt that way, we would've never started smoking, right?  We never did care about ourselves enough, did we?
 
Truth is, I didn't even allow myself enough time to recover from the "incident" last week, and adding quitting, and the stress of my job to that, it was just too much for my system to handle.  I felt lousy and I couldn't concentrate on anything!   I really needed today off, and I'm glad I did it for myself - sure beats the pocketbook I was going to buy - and it is also a start in putting myself first so that I can care about myself enough to N.O.P.E.!
 
SueinNC - you are definitely right about quit mountain - that really says it all!  I'm much better today ~ I think I can deal with NOPE now - for today anyway! That's all we can really ask for at this point, right? and I do reserve the right to change my mind!!   

I had a couple of instances today where I wanted one, but I just told myself that I didn't REALLY, and it passed   Could I be getting better?  Is it possible that the 2 weeks are just about up and I can now start "climbing" again without feeling as if someone is pushing me back down?  Wouldn't that be nice?
 
How is everyone else today?
 
 
 


My Milage:


My Quit Date: 5/25/2008
Smoke-Free Days: 12
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 240
Amount Saved: $34.80
Life Gained:
Days: 1 Hrs: 4 Mins: 26 Seconds: 12

15 years ago 0 1356 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
hey Neen, Love your attitude, and it will definately take you to a successful quit. 
 
I didn't want to quit.  I quit with hubby on Chantix, I just took it with no promises, but some where along that journey knew I would never smoke again.  I can't or else I will be an addict.  That is my personality.
 
I am so happy I quit.  smoking stinks, really.
 
Keep on your path, once you get over the mountain, it is pretty much down hill.
 
I used that search bar top right a lot when I quit, do a search for Quit Mountain by our Lady, that is a great read, and search for what ever is on your mind.
 
That is what I did instead of jumping off a mountain myself or killing loved ones, I came here and read read read.
 
Rewards are crucial.  There are a few great threads about that too.
 
Stay close.
 
Sue



My Milage:


My Quit Date: 5/3/2007
Smoke-Free Days: 399
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 3,990
Amount Saved: $798.00
Life Gained:
Days: 38 Hrs: 22 Mins: 47 Seconds: 58

15 years ago 0 13 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Life,

EXACTLY!!  It has been especially hard these past two days, and please don't get me going on that "after dinner smoke"!  I don't get it either.  Psychological - that's me!  I think my biggest problem is that I have realized that this is forever - I just can't accept the fact that this is so strong that I have no control over it - it seems like I should be able to have just one a day, the one after dinner! Doesn't that seem fair?  I'm pretty sure those are my two biggest problems - the lack of control and the telling myself that I can't, ever again!  I still have one cig and my lighter in a pocket of my purse - just so that I know it is "my choice" not to light up.  Kinda scary the things we learn about ourselves in times like this. 

The quit meter is more of a "guilt meter" at this point - can't disappoint it, can't make it a liar!
 
I have been reading a lot, but people are either way past me, or just starting.  I feel like I should be further ahead by now, but definitely am NOT!  Thanks for taking the time to reply and to reaffirm that I'm not as bad off as I think I am.
 
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Jan,
 
Your post did set me back a bit, as I too was having a bad day.  Sorry that I took it out of context, but that's where my twisted mind went to at that time.  Reading your reply today did make me smile, so thanks for that!  Also for the optimism - you guys are all great! 
 
I haven't said much, but I've been here reading, and I can honestly say - you are all the reason I haven't given in to the temptation!  You are one strong bunch of people - yes even those of you who have slipped.  I hope to one day get past this hard time so I can add some words of hope too - that is who I like to be, just not in a good place for it right now - soon though, right?


My Milage:


My Quit Date: 5/25/2008
Smoke-Free Days: 11
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 220
Amount Saved: $31.90
Life Gained:
Days: 1 Hrs: 3 Mins: 1 Seconds: 12

15 years ago 0 763 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Neen!  Hang in there, you're doing great.  I'm the 4 month quitter wondering about the sense of "normal".  And no, in the beginning there is nothing normal about this, however, I think that in time we grow into our quits, and even a few bad days here and there.  I have to admit that when I was posting about "normal", I was having not the greatest day, but the nice thing now is, I can rebound pretty quickly.  I don't crave anymore, but I'm still learning my way, learning to feel comfortable in my quit, and I think that's where we need to get to, when we feel comfortable.                                     
So for now, take this journey one step at a time, a celebrate every success no matter how small.  It honesty DOES get easier as time goes by.
 
Cheers,
 
Jan


My Milage:


My Quit Date: 1/27/2008
Smoke-Free Days: 130
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 3,250
Amount Saved: $1,072.50
Life Gained:
Days: 14 Hrs: 20 Mins: 38 Seconds: 38

15 years ago 0 127 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Neen!
 
We are close together in our quits, you are a day ahead of me. I have been on and off this site for 3 years with my attempts to stop smoking. The reason for this is because I always just wanted one, for closure, to say goodbye, for some fantastic reason that I would come up with. I must have done it 12 or more times, stop for a few days or weeks and then have 'one'. I was a slow learner!
 
What happened with me was, I'd have that nagging, the craving and a tightness in my chest that I just knew that I needed a cigarette. I'd fight the craves as long as I could sometimes, and other times I gave in immediately because I knew I would eventually. I would have one, it was ok, didn't really do much for me, I wasn't particularly happy about the fact that I was smoking. Then, I'd look at my quit meter and it wasn't the same, I knew that I haven't been smoke free for 9/10 days and that added to the nagging. Everytime I had one, I was back to smoking a pack a day within a few days of the first 'one'.
The nicotine is out of your system at this stage. It is purely psychological. By smoking, you just put more nicotine back into your system which then awakens the beast and it gets hard- if you thought the nagging was bad before just wait till you igtnite that spark again. It will hold onto you for dear life but you just have to let it go, and walk away.
 
The crazy thing, and this is seriously mad, I felt guilty for betraying the cigarettes, my friends, when I quit in the past. Very odd!
 
I have found the last two days to be the most difficult and I'm not sure why. The after dinner smoke is still a killer! But my house is absoluetly spotless! I still haven't gotten my head around the concept that I can never have another cigarette, ever, and that really does scare me at the moment. But i know that I used it as a crutch to deal with things that I find stressful or upsetting and thats when I have the strongest cravings, so I'm interested to see what emotions I'm actually blocking up. If I can learn to handle my emotions, I can handle the cravings and I will become a stronger, more confident person in the process.
 
I'm ranting on now but trust me, saying goodbye to cigarettes by smoking a cigarette, is not the path you want to start walking down because you will just keep going around and around and around in a vicious circle. Please take my word for it, I did it for three years and I'm praying that I won't be so stupid this time round! 


My Milage:


My Quit Date: 5/26/2008
Smoke-Free Days: 10
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 230
Amount Saved: �86.83
Life Gained:
Days: 0 Hrs: 17 Mins: 7 Seconds: 22

15 years ago 0 12049 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
neen,
 
These are the best kind of rewards!  You doing great and know that this feeling will not last.  Give your body some time to adjust and get back in the game!
 
Want closure..write a letter, seal it and have someone send it to you in a couple of months.  Your mind and body will thank you for it!
 
 
Josie, Health Educator
15 years ago 0 13 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
OK - I've changed my mind - no pocketbook this week to celebrate.  I've decided instead to stay home tomorrow from work and take a 3 day weekend and work on relaxing and pampering myself.  I really need that now. 

I really thought it was supposed to get easier?  I started out GREAT, but have gone backwards ever since - what is going on?  I feel like such a whine bag, but I'm REALLY CRAVING!  I can't believe that I cannot just have 1 cigarette, but I come on here and sure enough - everyone is N.O.P.E.!  The worst part is that I really don't want a cigarette, so I don't understand the feeling at all.  I really feel like I was cheated out of my last cigarette - I feel like I should've been able to have that "last one", but with the way things happened, I didn't get to - is it wrong to feel that way?

It's been so long now, I feel like it would be really stupid to have it now, but it is really nagging at me - would it help to have that 'closure', or would I just have to start all over? 

What is the general consensus on this thought?  Is it just the withdrawal nagging at me - why is it getting worse instead of better?
 
 


My Milage:


My Quit Date: 5/25/2008
Smoke-Free Days: 11
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 220
Amount Saved: $31.90
Life Gained:
Days: 1 Hrs: 2 Mins: 52 Seconds: 30


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