I forgot to mention, since our opinions were invited, mine is that the whole thing is a load of crap, even if it is applied properly under the right circumstances by a highly-trained professional in a position to know that it is appropriate. Reframe that. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]5/14/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 297 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 5,940 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $3,267.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 30 [B]Hrs:[/B] 15 [B]Mins:[/B] 29 [B]Seconds:[/B] 55

Oh, now I get it, at least better than before. "Rapport & permission" clarifies it, although Mark's post helped as well. This isn't something you're just supposed to all of a sudden "do" to make your quit easier or the people around you more comfortable. This is a step in a whole process of therapy with a professional whom you've come to trust and whom you believe understands you and is working with you on specific communication issues that you have for sure. Ya know, what comes to my mind here is "a little knowledge is dangerous". I really, really don't think this whole "reframing" thing was a good idea under the circumstances, now that I understand it. I think it encourages self-diagnosis, hypochondria, feelings of insecurity and inadequacy, and makes a hard thing harder, an uncertain thing less certain. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]5/14/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 297 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 5,940 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $3,267.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 30 [B]Hrs:[/B] 15 [B]Mins:[/B] 29 [B]Seconds:[/B] 17

Greger, you have a way of making things crystal clear! Thank you. I agree 100% [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]2/14/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 386 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 11,580 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1,872.10 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 54 [B]Hrs:[/B] 12 [B]Mins:[/B] 55 [B]Seconds:[/B] 5

Okay, once again I need this put in regular people terms. If we were to use our non-smoking football player again, what would content reframing look like? Also, Brenna, is there somewhere you could point me to learn more about this? [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]3/22/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 350 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 14,000 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $2,380.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 49 [B]Hrs:[/B] 10 [B]Mins:[/B] 31 [B]Seconds:[/B] 37

I use reframing tecnics in my work every day. I use it in helping people in dealing with anger. It is a great tool. It was interresting to read your post Thanks [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]3/2/2008 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 4 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 100 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $48.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 0 [B]Hrs:[/B] 11 [B]Mins:[/B] 30 [B]Seconds:[/B] 59

Today, we will explore a strategy referred to as reframing. This technique is also helpful during disputes and to gain better control over anger. Reframing is about changing perception by understanding something in another way. There are two basic kinds of reframes: context reframing and content reframing. Both can alter our internal representations of events or situations, which permits us to experience the events in other, hopefully, more resourceful ways.(1) The second type of reframing is content reframing. Content reframing is simply changing the meaning of a situation - that is, the situation or behavior stays the same, but the meaning is changed. For instance, a famous army general reframed a distressful situation for his troops by telling them that "We're not retreating, we're just advancing in another direction." Another example is the reframing of death. Death is a life event that has different meaning in different cultures, and even many individuals deal with this event in vastly different ways. Some are forever grieving the loss, whereas others are joyous at the now eternal presence of the person's spirit. In other words, different people attach very different meaning and interpretations to the concept of death.(1) The content or meaning of a situation is determined by what you choose to focus on. An electrical power failure can be viewed as disruptive, a major disaster given all you have to get done. Or it can be viewed as an opportunity to spend some intimate time with your spouse or to have fun with your children finding innovative ways to manage the situation.(2) A content reframe is useful for statements such as: �I get annoyed when my boss stands behind me while I am working.�(2) Notice how the person has taken the situation and given it a specific meaning -- which may or may not be true - and in so doing limits her resourcefulness and possible courses of action.(2) To reframe this situation, remember the assumption that, �Every behavior has a positive intention� and ask questions such as: �What other meaning could the boss� behavior have? Or for what purpose does he do it? A possible reframe might be: �Is it possible he wants to help and does not know how to offer his assistance in any other way?� What is the positive value in this behavior? The positive value could be related to the boss� behavior (as above) or it could be related to the speaker�s behavior. A possible reframe might be: �Isn�t it great that you know your boundaries and are not prepared to allow someone to violate them?�(2) We hope this post has been helpful to you. We now invite members to ask questions and/or post comments! 1. Sandidge, R.L. & Ward, A.C. (1999) Quality Performance in Human Services. Retrieved February 18, 2008. http://www.successmeasures.com/reframing.htm 2. Ellerton, R. (2004). Live Your Dreams Let Reality Catch Up : NLP and Common Sense for Coaches, Managers and You. Retrieved February 18, 2008, http://www.renewal.ca/nlp20.htm Brenna, Bilingual Health Educator