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16 years ago 0 1151 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hey moss, Like the others said, it is pretty normal; you seem like you are right on track. That may or may not be helpful but it is true. Sometimes it is just a matter of the excitement wearing off. The first couple weeks seem a little like an adventure, people are interested and much more prone to giving praise. Sometimes after a month it just becomes routine. This is where you get into a kind of deeper level in your quit when not smoking moves from something you "do" to something you "are". You are becoming a non-smoker. Cool. That is a great thing! The transition doesn't always come with pomp and circumstance though. ;) You can try to create some excitement though by exploring things you haven't done in a long time. Reward yourself. Start embracing this new lifestyle in ways that you haven't done yet? I'm not sure what that will look like in your own life but shaking things up could be good. Feel what you feel and take each day as it comes and post whatever you like. Hope you feel better soon... All the best [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]8/5/2004 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 1238 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 24,760 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $5,571.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 94 [B]Hrs:[/B] 12 [B]Mins:[/B] 35 [B]Seconds:[/B] 38
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16 years ago 0 1093 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Looks like everyone can relate, eh? Me too. When I was early in my quit I would look as people here with 37 days in awe. I would think to myself if I could just make it that long I would have it kicked and I would never look back. Then I got to 37, 47, 57, 107 days and still felt like I was quitting. Not like I had this under control. Like a newbie in my third week. I'm actually feeling a little stronger, a little "older" this week and I don't really know what has changed. I'm grateful for the days behind me and I'm looking forward to the days ahead when I rarely even think of smoking. I know it's coming because I read the posts from people who are there. That knowledge and distraction are what keep me going when smoking thoughts take up residence in my brain. It'll be here before we know it, Moss. Hang tough. We'll get there! :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]8/25/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 123 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 3,690 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $719.55 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 11 [B]Hrs:[/B] 0 [B]Mins:[/B] 30 [B]Seconds:[/B] 18
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Mossman, These milestone craves are quite common. When I get home later today I'll try to locate some threads talking about them. I used to get them...bigtime. I found that consciously rewarding myself around those times really helped. I think it has something to do with how we used to reward ourselves with a smoke for a job well done, so when we hit some milestone we've set in our minds, our brain is crying out for its reward. Once you change the reward a few times, these milestone craves go away. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]3/22/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 279 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 11,160 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1,897.20 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 38 [B]Hrs:[/B] 22 [B]Mins:[/B] 33 [B]Seconds:[/B] 27
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Moss, quitting smoking isn't really easy for anyone. You have to fight for it! You've gone 37 days already, so don't give up now. You had some cravings at the most stressful time of year..holiday season, and you came through it...celebrate that! You may have a few more until you are back in the routine of life, and you will come through those too, because you want to quit for life! Turn the stumbling blocks into stepping stones! You can get through it all, chin up, hold your head up high and be proud of yourself! YOU QUIT SMOKING! You've done it for almost forty days! That makes you a winner and winners don't give up! SMOKING IS NOT AN OPTION! Hang in there! NOPE! :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]3/5/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 296 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 7,400 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $3,122.80 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 36 [B]Hrs:[/B] 4 [B]Mins:[/B] 9 [B]Seconds:[/B] 7
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Hi Moss Been where you are - a few times. One thing I told myself when I started this quit, was to not have any expectations. They just get me in trouble - trying to measure up. Throw the expectations out with the Christmas trash. Do what you have to do when you have to do it. Don't try and follow a timeline - you may end up being disappointed. We need to stay away from disappointment of our own making. I agree with Bear - a reward of some kind is in order. 37 days is an awesome accomplishment and one you need to recognize. Might I also suggest a post titled "No Man's Land - 30 to 100 days." This is a phase - a long one, but there is an end to it, and it will get better for awhile, and then another phase will come. It is part of the process - learn about it and you won't be disappointed. Stick with it - it is so worth it. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]7/13/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 166 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 3,320 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1,909.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 16 [B]Hrs:[/B] 15 [B]Mins:[/B] 35 [B]Seconds:[/B] 19
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Hey Moss maybe you need something with an automatic tranny.I can tell you for a fact some people just have a tougher time than others on the physcologial side than others.Don't worry about the b------ nobody gets hurt with that.I'm very good at arse kicking if you feel the need but I would rather suggest a nice reward for those 37 days you've got in already.You know something extravagant, ;p This is a tough addiction to overcome my fried so be kind to yourself you deserve it. :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]3/20/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 281 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 5,058 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $2,810.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 64 [B]Hrs:[/B] 4 [B]Mins:[/B] 44 [B]Seconds:[/B] 18
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Moss, it is okay to stuck in neutral again. I wish I could tell when the desire to smoke leaves someone, but I can't. What I can tell you is I can go on day with out smoking, and then I try the same thing the next day and as long as I do that I can stay quit. Quitting has not been easy for me. I guess it does get better, but we have to stop and review the good things that are happening because we are not smoking. I smell better :eg:, I don't have to worry about running out of cigarettes, I breath better, I not out in the cold trying to smoke a cigarette as fast as I can. I can go to a movie and enjoy it. Not sure it this helps, but you hang in there you have a great quit going. I will get better, let's take care of today and see what tomorrow brings. Keep the Quit Sparky [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]4/30/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 240 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,400 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $360.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 32 [B]Hrs:[/B] 7 [B]Mins:[/B] 39 [B]Seconds:[/B] 51
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I thought by now I would be puffing up with pride and feeling all fuzzy about this whole quitting thing. I've had some of those days actually but the last week has been hell again. I keep reading here and have been actively working on my attitude but it just won't budge again. I haven't smoked but have come VERY close a few times this last week. Most people here say that once you are past the first couple weeks things get better pretty fast. Or am I just wishing for that. Was that an unrealistic expectation? I do know I can't be alone in this one. I want to help others along here but am afraid I will only discourage them if I tell the truth about how hard this can be. I guess I am taking Nonic's advice to post no matter what. ( and Nonic, if you run across this post, I did make a mental toast to you yesterday, Congrats again ) I guess that's the the heart of it right there. Perhaps a little envy for those of you who are feeling the emotional benefits. How do I feel good about this when I feel so bad? I do feel some physical differences but the emotional side of this is a bigger battle than I expected. I've been sitting back this last week and letting myself experience this wave and waiting for it to pass. It just hasn't. The Junkie thoughts may as well start paying rent because they have moved in. The flicker of light I see is that I was here mentally a couple weeks ago and it did pass. That little episode lasted a few days and this one is lasting longer. I guess I am venting and asking for help, advice, a joke, a kick in the arse, anything to feel differently. I don't have anyone to talk with about this in my daily life. Not anyone who has been there anyway. I'm sick of Bitc*** but feel like I have to. Gratitude Moss [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]11/19/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 37 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 555 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $97.13 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 6 [B]Hrs:[/B] 4 [B]Mins:[/B] 49 [B]Seconds:[/B] 33

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