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16 years ago 0 1093 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Xena! How long will you feel desperate? I'd have to say the first day was the hardest for me. I thought about smoking constantly and yep, I was a bit desperate at times. I don't think anything I did really distracted me from it. Although it wasn't quite as hard ever again, for the next ten days or so it was still pretty uncomfortable for me. I still think about it all the time and spend a large amount of time on this site. However, It's not really because I'm that uncomfortable anymore. Seriously, the desperation doesn't last long at all. That's the truth as I see it. Now, why in the world would you torture yourself by having cigarettes around? There is not a chance in this world I would have made it through the first week let alone the first day if I had cigarettes readily available. If you haven't drown those puppies yet, do it now. Send yourself a message that you won't be smoking today. As far as cravings go, the deep breathing that fagashlynne recommended worked wonders for me. I still use it all the time but more to relax now than to bypass a craving. The other thing I couldn't have done without was cold water. Anytime I had a strong craving I would take a drink of cold water, take several deep, slow breaths and repeat until I was doing fine. Usually it only took a time or two. Relax your brain and tell yourself you've made up your mind that smoking is not an option. Lastly, the answer to your other question: NO! You can not be a non-smoker if you smoke and there is no such thing as "just one". That's it! Good luck! Let us know how you are doing, k? :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]8/25/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 42 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,260 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $245.70 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 3 [B]Hrs:[/B] 19 [B]Mins:[/B] 43 [B]Seconds:[/B] 54
16 years ago 0 1160 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Xena, Lamplighter is my hero. His posts got me through some really tough times. I moved some of them to my journal and still go back and read them on tough days, I suggust you do the same. [IMG]http://i213.photobucket.com/albums/cc51/pollyepierce/cooltext67203689-1.gif[/IMG] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]7/4/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 94 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,880 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $376.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 12 [B]Hrs:[/B] 14 [B]Mins:[/B] 3 [B]Seconds:[/B] 44
16 years ago 0 1040 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Zena, the first month or so is hard. The first 5 months, or so, will be difficult at times. (These are what I perceive as averages, and not everyone experiences their quits this way) BUT... if you have a good attitude, if you insist on enjoying your life, focusing on the good that is within you and around you...rather than pining away for a smoke, it won't be nearly as difficult as it would otherwise be. The first two weeks are generally the "desperation" weeks. After that you begin to feel much better, though certainly not entirely comfortable with being a non-smoker yet. You have to be willing to give it time. It's a process, and you need to give it all the time it takes... however long it takes. If I was to pinpoint the one critical thing that determines how hard quitting is... it's this; if you've left the door open, if you've told yourself that you'll stay quit "unless it gets too tough" or "unless it takes too long"... or qualify it in any way... that makes it tougher. If you determine that you've shut the door and nothing will cause you to go back, that you've already become a non-smoker and that fact is not up for negotiation... your quit will be much easier. If it's done, you'll be happier and more serene. If you've set conditions on what you're willing to put up with in order to be smoke-free... it will be much more painful. And... you'll probably smoke again. So, don't allow your quit to be subject to anything. You've quit. End of story. Now you just go through the process. It works that way, Xena. Honest. :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]3/6/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 214 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 5,350 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1,979.50 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 34 [B]Hrs:[/B] 11 [B]Mins:[/B] 59 [B]Seconds:[/B] 1
16 years ago 0 2462 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Here's the truth, Xena. * If you want to quit smoking, you have to stop smoking * NOPE = Not One Puff Ever * Lots of people with lots more stress than you have successfully quit * You have to get through it one minute, one hour, one day at a time. * It is not pleasant for a while when you quit. * You will not die if you don't have a cigarette. * A cigarette will eventually lead to your bad health and that of your children. * Of course, you want one. It's because you are addicted and your body is going to go through withdrawal until the nicotine is out of your system. * It will help you A LOT if you spend a lot of your time researching quitting smoking. This is a wonderful site, but there are others, too. Use them all! Read everything here. Ask questions. * You can do this. You are a Warrior Princess!!! Rusty :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]12/13/2004 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 1027 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 28,756 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $3,594.50 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 144 [B]Hrs:[/B] 21 [B]Mins:[/B] 24 [B]Seconds:[/B] 43
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16 years ago 0 20 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Thanks blue cloud, My mom just called and i cried like a baby. Feel so tupid at my age to cry this way. I know it;s not the right thing to say but I want one. I won't take it but I want it. My stupid patch isn't helping much. Lat time it helped me and the cravings didn't come on so strong this quick.. I am stressed with things going on in my life. But as someone told me stress happens... and that's not a ood reason to wait. I knonw i;ve done this before... but when will it stop being such a desperation. PleaSE TELL ME THE TRUTH. xENA [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]10/6/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 0 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 0 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $0.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 0 [B]Hrs:[/B] 1 [B]Mins:[/B] 48 [B]Seconds:[/B] 43
16 years ago 0 1160 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Xena, I was just looking at the meters on the people who have already posted to u amd they all have way more than me. When I was first on here I only wanted to hear from veteran quitters. I don't have that many days behind me but I am still close enough to feel the desperation in your post. Maybe u need to cry. I did, I felt so out of place. Nothing was normal plus my life situations just sucked. Talk about stress. Here I am three months later and everything they were telling me then makes perfect sence. Smoking will not change anything. It will just keep u a smoker. Nope. a good stratagy. I told myself no over and over. And crying, it lasted for days. Little by little I came out from under the fog of addiction and was able to get a handle on my emotions. Do it for u. Make it your quit and be as positive as possible. U can do it. I know U can. [IMG]http://i213.photobucket.com/albums/cc51/pollyepierce/cooltext67203689-1.gif[/IMG] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]7/4/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 94 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,880 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $376.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 12 [B]Hrs:[/B] 13 [B]Mins:[/B] 56 [B]Seconds:[/B] 57
16 years ago 0 20 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Thanks all. Andy, i will get rid of them. it's too much pressure seeing them. I walk back and forth. And I want to cry. i went outside and raked the leaves. That helped.I also rented a movie, made some soup and popcorn... but I still want to cry!A shower sounds good too. Lynnexx, I'm trying out the deep breaths right now. It does help... never thought it would but it does. Lamplighter, thank you for saying it's tough... cause it means I'm not some crazy woman. It's been only a few hours and I want to scream and cry!I will keep coming back... cause last time around that was was kept me going. When will this crazy feeling stop? Alohakei, how do you get on IM? I know tonight I'll be online. I feel such crazy urges to pick one up and I want to be strong. So many people see me as a weakling, as a loser. But i want to win this for me. I want to feel good, to love myself, to be proud of myself and to be here to see me and my children grow. i want to look in the mirror and see me again. I will throw them down the toilet and say bi. Keep thinking I need to have one more to say goodbye. can I do that? Xena [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]10/6/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 0 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 0 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $0.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 0 [B]Hrs:[/B] 1 [B]Mins:[/B] 46 [B]Seconds:[/B] 22
16 years ago 0 12049 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Xena, We are here for you. Have that cry and let your body begin the healing process. It is ok to let it all out and this is normal. Take the time to listen to your body and relax yourself. Sleep if you need to and get rid of those temptations. Prepare yourself a different routine for the morning. Go out for coffee, go for a walk, sleep in and do what it takes to keep busy and kick those craves to the curb :) We got you, so hold out your hand :) Josie, Support Specialist
16 years ago 0 311 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Well, first thing to do is to get rid of those cigs! I never would have made it this far if they were just hanging around the house tempting me. Be gentle with yourself. Keep a list of your reasons for quitting nearby, and when you are craving, read them. I found it sooo helpful when I had a crave to do slow, deep breathing. It tricked my mind into thinking I was taking a drag. When I did this I pictured the clean, fresh air filling my lungs. At nite, I took a shower or bath, and when I didn't know what else to do, i just went to bed. I slept a lot in the first few weeks. Also, the morning routine had to be changed. Instead of coffee and a cig, it turned into coffee and reading on this website. I still have that morning routine. Hang in there, stay close. There is so much support here if you need it Andrea [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]6/7/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 486 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 9,720 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $2,308.50 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 41 [B]Hrs:[/B] 10 [B]Mins:[/B] 3 [B]Seconds:[/B] 6
16 years ago 0 2670 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Xena, We have all been where you are now, so we understand take some deep breaths, drink some water, anything to stop you thinking about smoking. I found distraction to be the key good luck we are here for you lynnexx [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]10/24/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 347 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 5,205 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �1,388.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 39 [B]Hrs:[/B] 11 [B]Mins:[/B] 51 [B]Seconds:[/B] 51
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