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[quote]But I had to have blind faith. i had to follow in the footsteps of those who went before me. I had faith in the words of these brave cyber strangers. And lo and behold they were right!![/quote]Cheermom, therein lies the secret to this site's success. Luna followed her leaders on faith and I followed mine (Luna was one of them) the same way. There have been times when each one of us has wanted to just toss in the towel, to give in to despair. That's when we grabbed one of our leaders and blindly, numbly, followed along. Now look at us all! :) Ain't it great? Cheermom, and everyone else, there will be differences of opinion here. You can't throw this many people from around the world into one place and expect 100% congeniality. When you add the raw and often immature emotions of people withdrawing psychologically from an addiction, you're going to have spats. We are all guilty of it, lately me especially. That's when Josie and her squad of mods step in, slap our wrists, send us to our rooms, and clean up the mess. Phillip, never question that you are a postive influence on this board. You are a quitter to be followed. Shevie [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/23/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 414 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 8,280 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1573.2 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 77 [B]Hrs:[/B] 4 [B]Mins:[/B] 27 [B]Seconds:[/B] 58
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Like Lady said, quitting is a life changing experience. What you'll experience goes far beyond just not smoking any more and the obvious benefits derived from being tobacco-free. Many of us long-term quitters have experienced something akin to a rebirth. One thing addiction does (any addiction) is muffle emotions. Instead of dealing with emotional issues, addicts turn to their addiction for comfort, support, and security. Such is the nature of addiction. The first year of a quit is mostly learning how to live life on life's terms, not on the addiction's terms. This is often a gut-wrenching experience. For a while, many of us often act as if we are at whatever age we were at when we took up smoking. We are trying to learn in a few months what non-addicts have spent their entire lives learning. It's quite a ride, I'll not kid anyone about that. So we sometimes yell, or get hurt to easily, become defensive, or become offensive, cry, pout, or expect the world to revolve around us and our beliefs. We sulk, we think everyone is out to get us, we think everyone else hasn't a clue, we throw temper tantrums, and basically act psychotic. Imagine riding a white water rapids through a pitch black cave. You have no idea how long it is, or what's up ahead. That's your basic quit. But if you just hang on, trust what those ahead are calling back to you, hold tight to your quit (your raft), you will make it. And when you emerge onto that placid lake, where the sun is shining, the birds are singing, and the water is smooth as glass you will realize a peace, a security, and a sense of pride you have never felt before. Shevie [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/23/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 413 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 8,276 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1569.4 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 77 [B]Hrs:[/B] 3 [B]Mins:[/B] 32 [B]Seconds:[/B] 40
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Shevie - having just returned from my rafting trip, I loved your imagery!! Cheermom - i know what you mean about fear of the unknown. During the first six months of my quit, I wondered if I would EVER feel normal again. I just posted this on its own thread, but then realized it might be a good addition to Lady's thread. Alot of quitting is an issue of faith. - Faith that it will really be worth it - Faith that some day down the road we will really be glad that we went through all of this misery - Faith that this will make a difference in the outcome of our lives -when and how, the time and manner in which we die - Faith in those that went before us...that this really is possible, that success is within the reach of normal folks I just returned from my one year reward - a three week road trip, rafting three rivers and camping for 12 days on Shasta Lake. I met a group of friends there. Several were smokers. We sat around in a circle at night or floated out on the party barge for cocktails. They were of course all enjoying their cigarettes. I sat with them night after night, enjoying their company, the laughter, the stories. You know what? I didn't even have the slightest urge to join them in smoking. I felt some pity, but mostly it was just a non-issue. If you could have told me one year ago, that my obsession with cigarettes would end, that I could sit with a group of smokers and not have the teeniest crave, I would have had a HUGE problem with believing it. But I had to have blind faith. i had to follow in the footsteps of those who went before me. I had faith in the words of these brave cyber strangers. And lo and behold they were right!! So here I am to tell you, 15 months later, that cigarettes are not an issue. My life is full without them. Believe this. This is possible. This is doable. You will one day wonder what in the heck took you so long. The freedom is dee-licious! [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 4/15/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 451 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 11,298 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1578.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 62 [B]Hrs:[/B] 21 [B]Mins:[/B] 7 [B]Seconds:[/B] 49
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Let�s see � hmmmm, something positive. Oh, I�ve got it! Health, wealth, confidence, ENERGY, looking better, less worry (about those scary diseases), smelling fresh AND being able to smell, being a positive role model, �meeting� all the great SSC members, having extra time (a REAL plus), not having to be rained on while smoking in the car with the window cracked, not having to stand out in the cold/heat while smoking, going to the doc and saying �oh, by the way, I quit smoking�, and about 3 million other things! Great thread, Lady. Not cravin', never cavin'. Hummy [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/5/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 433 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 17,335 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $2814.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 56 [B]Hrs:[/B] 4 [B]Mins:[/B] 53 [B]Seconds:[/B] 58
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Positivity is where it is at! Keep Strong, Josie _____________________ The SSC support Team.
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Thank you Lady, Your positive words ring loud and clear! We are always here for support and knowledge and we can make a difference :) Keep Strong, Josie _____________________ The SSC Support Team.

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