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Intimacy and Panic


21 years ago 0 148 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I have no fear of sex. But with the relapse I swing between wanting to be touched and not wanting to. Than with the meds....sex drive is at an ultimate low. My dh is patient but shish its been this way for 3-4 yrs now.
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Thanks a lot Hopeful! :) Yeh, it's a fear of sex more than anything. I've overcome hugging and kissing, through doing exposure exercises with my partner. Anything more than this and I just clam up and don't wanna go any further. Even though I do wanna go furhter, the fear is still preventing it for now. I guess it just needs time and more persistence from me.
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Hi, Sky! I'm not sure I totally understand your question, are you afraid of everything that's physically intimate, hugging, kissing, etc, or is it orgasm? If it's the latter, it's probably fear of losing control, or that it will bring on sensations of panic. That's very understandable, any sensations that remotely resemble panic can be hard to face. If that is the problem, I think you would work on it like you have on the other aspects of panic, by taking small steps in that direction. You seem to have made great progress with the eating and exercise, two difficult ones. I bet that you will get past this one, too. As you build up your confidence in general with these other successes, it will surely help you to face the fears in other areas as well. I don't know if this helps you, if I'm on the wrong track, let me know! Congrats on your progress, keep it up!
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I’ve been refraining from posting this for a while, as I wasn’t sure how to address it. I’m sure it must be an issue for others out there aswell. I’m getting better all the time with panic disorder. I’m no longer afraid to exercise. My partner has been really understanding and supportive through all this. We are very emotionally in tune with one another. I’m overcoming my fear of emotional intimacy to the point where I’m almost back to the old me. However physical intimacy is still very scary for me. I’m not entirely sure why. I think it’s got to do with being afraid to ‘let go’, ultimately a fear of losing control. I know this is a touchy subject. But if theres anyone out there who’s battling the same fears, or who’s had the same fear in the past. I’d love to talk, love to know how you overcome it. I’ve been able to overcome my fear of eating quicker than I thought. I mean I’m still not out of the woods yet, but I have surprised myself. But I feel completely stuck at the fear of physical intimacy. I don’t know what steps to take in order to overcome it. Any one else know this fear, and how do you kick it out the door?

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