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I think I'm an angrier person now


16 years ago 0 2830 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Bear, Yes, what you are saying makes sense and yes, that was why I was angry, but that's not really the issue. The issue is how I dealt with that anger versus how I would have dealt with it as a smoker. As a smoker, I would have been mad, but I probably wouldn't have made a scene and made myself look like an @$$. I probably would have been mad, but would have kept it to myself until I got outside where I could light up and not be angry anymore. Do you see the difference? I don't think it's a matter of getting mad versus not getting mad... I think it's now an issue of how, as non-smokers, we deal with that anger. It seems that many of us haven't learned how to deal with our anger without smoking yet... we simply blow up at people, which only makes us look stupid... not them. Figuring out how to deal with the anger when it happens in a less explosive way here is the key. Crave the Quit! [IMG]http://i27.photobucket.com/albums/c177/kissnflirt/littlebutterfly2.gif[/IMG] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 6/17/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 682 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 17,068 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $2816.66 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 48 [B]Hrs:[/B] 14 [B]Mins:[/B] 17 [B]Seconds:[/B] 53
16 years ago 0 70 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
We are doing awesome Audrey! But I agree, I was a much more leveled tempered person when I smoked. Of course, I've had my moments but it seemed under control. Whenever I would get angry I probally lit up and it calmed me somehow. I wonder if there are studies on this but either way, I'm sticking to Wellburtrin. I just hope my doctor continues the prescription. I know everyone isn't always successful with Wellbutrin or Chantix but I still recommend trying it to protect your quit no matter where you are in your quit process. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/16/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 104 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,090 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $520 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 9 [B]Hrs:[/B] 5 [B]Mins:[/B] 1 [B]Seconds:[/B] 33
16 years ago 0 70 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Last week I quit my welbutrin only to call in another prescription five days later for this exact reason. I'm a bitter and angry person and I don't like myself at all. The odd factor is that I'm doing fine on my quit and am not craving or wishing I could smoke. But why is the real me so angry inside? I'm just glad the welbutrin helps with this and hopefully the next time I wean myself off it I won't be so uncomfortable with myself. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/16/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 104 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,088 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $520 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 9 [B]Hrs:[/B] 4 [B]Mins:[/B] 52 [B]Seconds:[/B] 38
16 years ago 0 1698 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Butterfly I know exactly what your talking about.In the past my motto was don,t get mad get even which got me into a lot of unnessary trouble. :) Dealing with anger is a very complex issue.But just as there are triggers to smoking (anger etc)there are triggers to anger. What we have to learn is what these triggers are and learn ways of coping with these issues that make us angry.I know this has,nt been very helpfull but what I do know is anger kills braincells. ;) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 3/21/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 40 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 736 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $400 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 9 [B]Hrs:[/B] 15 [B]Mins:[/B] 57 [B]Seconds:[/B] 26
16 years ago 0 1698 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
If I may I would like to submit these thoughts about anger which I learned from a man a lot smarter than myself. He suggested that anger arises sometimes when people or situations do not meet our expectations based on OUR values. I go to a library expecting to pick up a particular book and the librarian says he remembers that he already checked it out.First I,m disappointed the book is not here and then you find out the b------- lied to me. Now you have 2 reasons to get angry 1,st the book was there all the time and the 2,nd this individual did not live up to my sense of values by being honest. Check it out for yourself Do,es it make any sense ???? ;) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 3/21/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 40 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 731 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $400 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 9 [B]Hrs:[/B] 14 [B]Mins:[/B] 29 [B]Seconds:[/B] 28
16 years ago 0 911 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Ironic Hudson, look at my meter, and I'm feeling the same way. I liked myself better when I was smoking, personality wise, not the smoking part. Am I really this bitter? Maybe I just can't figure out this new smokeless life. And I hate the weight :( Patience I guess and things will get better. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/16/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 104 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,089 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $291.2 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 10 [B]Hrs:[/B] 3 [B]Mins:[/B] 59 [B]Seconds:[/B] 40
16 years ago 0 911 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Pam and Bear, [quote] It seems that many of us haven't learned how to deal with our anger without smoking yet... we simply blow up at people, which only makes us look stupid... not them. [/quote] True Pam. I don't know if it was new or not, but logging in this morning, where we report on withdrawal symptoms I noticed an "other" box and you could type in the symptom. I reported about being agressive when normally reserved, and not knowing this person that is emerging unchecked. I don't know how they could ever reply on it since it wasn't one of their standard boxes. This morning I prayed to regain my realization that I cannot control many things and I just need to have faith and give it to God to take care of. Suddenly I was dealing with things that were totally out of my realm and with no experience it was like I was someone else. I better shut my trap before SSC comes in their white coats! Audrey [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/16/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 105 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,107 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $294 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 10 [B]Hrs:[/B] 6 [B]Mins:[/B] 3 [B]Seconds:[/B] 6
17 years ago 0 2830 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
No, you didn't make me angry and make me go away... I've just been insanely busy lately!!! Hummy hit the nail on the head when she said it was school stress that was getting to me. She was totally right and I think she recognized it before I even did! I've been running my tail off trying to get things done for school, so I think that's where a little of this has come from. I also realized that, while I do tend to have more "mean" moments since quitting, they aren't all the time. I wouldn't even say they are once a month... maybe just once every few months that I completely lose it on somebody. Now granted, before I quit (even before I smoked), the frequency was never or close to never, so yes, it's much higher now, but still not THAT high. I am going to try to work on that, since I don't like being a mean person, but at the same time, school right now has be insanely busy and that stress alone will make anybody lose it every once in a while... so I'm not as concerned as I was a few days ago. Just wanted to check in and let you know some of my thoughts about this. Hope everybody has a great day. Crave the Quit! Pam [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 6/17/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 658 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 16,461 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $2717.54 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 46 [B]Hrs:[/B] 20 [B]Mins:[/B] 53 [B]Seconds:[/B] 44
17 years ago 0 852 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
BS, I will be the first one to admit that I have always had a short fuse... When my parents had to ask me something, they would always start out with "Please don't get mad......." I wasn't a raging bit** or anything, I just couldn't understand how other people would do & feel differently than me. Know what that is called? Immaturity.............. That's all. So when I quit, I felt that anger rising to new levels. My 'snapping' point got so low that I was walking around with a non-stop frown on my face. Just waiting for the next poor soul to cross me...... When I realized that my emotions were out of control (ie- looking at the scared eyes of a 4 year old........), I knew that the only way to help me work through these emotional times was my doctor. Part of my depression is also anger. And being on medication now has brought me to a much more tolerable level. I'm not saying that this is the way for you, but you've got to reconize it. It quite possibly could be that imbalance in your brain....... Learning to control our reactions is critical. My sugestion: Take some time for yourself daily. Do something for yourself. As we get older, we most likely forget to do this. And when we forget for years at a time, well, we now have a lot of making up to do! So treat yourself................ You'll start to feel lifted and appreciated, if by no one other than yourself. But being at peace within is an invaluable trait. Try it. 4my2girls p.s.- if nothing else, try yoga. It helps mind, body, and spirits. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 3/5/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 397 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 11,911 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1298.19 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 31 [B]Hrs:[/B] 22 [B]Mins:[/B] 45 [B]Seconds:[/B] 58
17 years ago 0 2436 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
K - did we lose Butterfly Swimmer? Sure hope you didn't get angry and go away :) OK - nuf of SNL humour :) Hope you're doing well and processing some of the anger... It seems a lot of newbies are posting about anger and emotions coming up, so alot of support is coming through. It's amazing when our smokescreen is gone, just how raw we are when it comes to processing our feelings... We never had to do that as our smokes buffered all feelings. Love and Light! Healer :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 3/5/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 396 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 13,891 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1841.4 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 51 [B]Hrs:[/B] 21 [B]Mins:[/B] 39 [B]Seconds:[/B] 37

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