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17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 813

Healer is right here, the knowledge that relapse is a reality should be an opportunity to examine our own quits and to reaffirm our pledge to continue on with a smoke free existance... nonic [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/25/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 73 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,766 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $511 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 13 [B]Hrs:[/B] 16 [B]Mins:[/B] 9 [B]Seconds:[/B] 2

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 591

Ex... You were looking for an excuse to start back? (dugh!) ...Monkey See...Monkey Do? :gasp: Then we need to kick you in the tail! When I came to this site, I was absolutely amazed at the honesty (bad, good, or indifferent). Each time someone who slips/fails comes back and tells us the circumstances, it gives all of us hope. We learn from each other and our own failures as we journalize the incident that made us fail. As Healer said..."We are invited to go deeper than we have ever been, and to see and discover who we really are... without the addiction that has stolen our precious time and energy." I stand with HealerWithin 100% on her post. I wouldn't delete one post or thread on this site...I have learned something from everyone here. auntdeb [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/1/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 65 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 3,290 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $308.75 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 9 [B]Hrs:[/B] 1 [B]Mins:[/B] 12 [B]Seconds:[/B] 27

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 591

Hey Ex.....Please read the "slipping game" [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/1/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 65 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 3,290 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $308.75 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 9 [B]Hrs:[/B] 1 [B]Mins:[/B] 14 [B]Seconds:[/B] 51

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 175

All - After reading both sides, I'm kind of on the fence with this one now. I really didn't mean to offend anyone with my strong stand against failed quits (i.e. the name of the original post), I guess that I felt the ones who did fail and come back, weren't trying hard enough. I guess lashing out was my way of protecting my precious quit. After reading everyone's opinion here, I now see that it does take a lot of courage to fail, and come back and admit it to everyone, because I don't think I could come back myself. Since I've been here, I've seen some that I've started my quit with drop off the board. I immediately assume they 'went back to the dark side' and gave up trying for now. I suppose it does take a lot to come back, admit to your friends you failed and try again. Just one TINY thing, though. It is really hard for a new quitter to see slip posts. I remember reading posts in my first few fragile weeks of people slipping and thinking that I'll never make it... -- 2tone P.S. If I [i]did[/i] come back, I'd take a different name ;) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/26/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 73 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,067 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $401.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 12 [B]Hrs:[/B] 3 [B]Mins:[/B] 14 [B]Seconds:[/B] 34

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17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 175

Hey Ex - I hate to read relapse posts. I felt the same way. I wonder why folks would keep putting themselves through a quit over and over again and then tell us about it. I really only wanted to read about serious quitters and the problems they're having. What really bothered me was how everyone on the board was so forgiving and supportive of those who 'slipped' when all they really needed was a good kick in the a**. I would think 'hey, take this serious or get out of here...". I think they call it 'tough love'... Early on, it was disheartening to read about all of the failed attempts. Luckily, it didn't send me back, but it did kind of pi** me off. It ain't gonna happen, but [i]IF[/i] I failed, I would want to be publicly chastised, not consoled. I think it makes you stronger. But hey, that's just my opinion. -- 2tone [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/26/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 71 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,004 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $390.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 11 [B]Hrs:[/B] 18 [B]Mins:[/B] 23 [B]Seconds:[/B] 37

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17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1150

:) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/29/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 70 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 709 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $350 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 6 [B]Hrs:[/B] 17 [B]Mins:[/B] 33 [B]Seconds:[/B] 56

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1150

EX-IDIOT this was a good question with good exploration and conclusions. I would recommend starting a new post, with a title that will be easily accessible for new comers and down the line for someone to bump it, stating the point of this thread in a neat package. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/29/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 69 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 698 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $345 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 6 [B]Hrs:[/B] 15 [B]Mins:[/B] 6 [B]Seconds:[/B] 24

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1150

(have you ever had it happen yet that you compose a response and it disappears as your are posting - that bites!)Here I go from memory: No offense taken since just today i was wondering where you were and whether or not you yourself had taken the low road. what was i thinking?????? Anyway, what is your question: whether or not you can blame others for your evil deeds? Part of the beauty of this site is that it offers help to the desperate as readily as the new and willing. As you have read past posts, you know that I have fit into both categories. The boards are separated roughly by content (ever notice?). I too barged in as a newbie despite the warnings of those considerate souls who posted "if you are a newbie and may possibly be influenced by this then please don't read". I figured- it's all ugly. Same answer in another vein - don't let the quit break your spirit. I would argue that in the end our spirit is freed. Though your spirit may need to visit a different realm for a while and come back looking a little different. Think of it as a spa vacation for our back bone. ;p [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/29/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 67 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 680 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $335 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 6 [B]Hrs:[/B] 10 [B]Mins:[/B] 50 [B]Seconds:[/B] 46

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1150

I'll keep that in mind - 2tone. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/29/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 68 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 686 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $340 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 6 [B]Hrs:[/B] 12 [B]Mins:[/B] 23 [B]Seconds:[/B] 33

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 406

Coming in, as usual, a day late and a dollar short ... (and totally wondering what's up with Dune Dude's purple gorilla thing...) But me, like Dune Dude, freaked back in the day when we heard about 70+ quitters giving up the quit. I was so grateful for their honesty and openness and, dare I say it, humility, in exposing their weakness and "failure" to this entire group. They, more than spouse, more than drugs, more than anything, kept me on track. Their message was always the same: it doesn't matter who you are, it doesn't matter how long you've beem quit, it doen't matter how strong you think you are, YOU CAN'T HAVE JUST ONE, BUCKO. These heroes exposed their lives and broken hearts and wills to us to persuade us that NOPE is a lot more than an acronym. They came back to us from standing outside in freezing weather. They came back to us from their smoke-infested basements. They came back to us from their cars with windshields too sticky with nicotine to see through. They came back to us with their tears and heartbreak and self-loathing to tell us that no matter how enticing it seemed, it was truly not worth it. Each one of them, God love them all, and Dune Dude will back me up on this I know, had that one coveted, longed-for smoke, and came back and told us IT SUCKED and they felt like hell for doing it. I miss it still. Part of me still says I need it. Part of me says I'm far enough along to enjoy one little smoke... no big deal. The reality was, I had a "planned slip," if there is such a thing, at the end of January. I intended to smoke to see if I found it revolting after 3 months. I smoked, and to my horror, I was not revolted in the least. I didn't chamge my quit meter because I didn't see it as a "slip;" I meant to do that to see where I was. I learned first hand what those wonderful prophets who came back after smoking "just one" have been trying to tell me: you can never, ever, ever, have that "one." I did the "one" to see if it was true, and discovered that at least for me, it is very true. So now I know without a doubt. I can never smoke again. Period. I value my clear lungs more than I valued that quick nicotine rush. I value my smell -- whatever I might smell like at the moment, it's not cigarettes -- mor

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