Hello my friends
I hope you are all well and getting on with our mutual task today...It occurred to me that there is a subtle distinction that we ought to explore regarding this task...
We are all here because we have chosen to be here. I find it highly unlikely that anyone is standing over you at this moment saying "ok its time for you to be on the SSC, now do your lessons or you can't have any cake today"
So it can be assumed that we are acting with free will in this...Thats good because the process of no longer listening to our addiction is one of free choice...
I cringe when ever anyone talks about "giving up" smoking...Not because I think they should smoke, but because the phrase implies losing something or other...Which further implies the imposition of some kind of drudgery, or a new kind of slavery to replace the old slavery we have experienced under the reign of King Nicotine...
For me this has been a trap...Never forget that words are very important, they are the children of thoughts and the parents of action.
Thoughts are the things that make up the story that we tell ourselves about who we are and what we are doing. Words are the representation of thoughts that we use to tell ourselves and others about who we are and what we are doing...Words are in effect the periodical table of our minds...So just as a chemist is very careful about the elements that he joins together, lest he or she cause an explosion or some other disaster, we too must choose our words with the greatest of care. Words do indeed cause actions that manifest change in the physical world.
So having said all of that, I would prefer to say I am stopping smoking...In the first instance because it says I am making a choice...I am choosing not to smoke, therefore I am not being denied anything or submitting to any new regime that will imprison my little soul...No indeed it is a very strong statement of freedom...In choosing not to smoke I am choosing all of the positive results of that decision.
To say I am giving up smoking implies that I am denying myself something that I really want...When in truth that which I desire is the result of choosing not to smoke...
This may be just symantics to some, but to me it has been a key element in how I need to think