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Plain and simple. Your right, your friend is wrong. You will both learn from it. You keep doing what you need to do to stay quit, and let her run her own life. Different levels of addiction is what make the changes in our lives. Some folks can kick it easy and for others it is a life long struggle. You just keep working your program, you will be alright. Cheryl [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/4/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 345 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 8,297 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $983.25 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 45 [B]Hrs:[/B] 5 [B]Mins:[/B] 1 [B]Seconds:[/B] 58
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Kim, Congratulations on quitting and welcome to the SSC. In another thread CobenFan mentioned that I sign all of my posts with "Illegitimus non carborundum est". Google that phrase. ;p You will find that "never smokers", like your "friend", have no earthly clue as to what it takes to break the nicotine addiction. None. Zero. Zip. It's like a man trying to explain to another man what it's like to give birth. Your quit is your own. Your husbands quit is his. Ideally, the two of you can work in concert to help support each other and successfully quit. Each knows the others strong and weak points and can offer advice and help. That is what support is all about. 7 days is a great start on your quits, but you are far, far away from being "quit", if you know what I mean. Quitting is a process.. a journey that can takes months, even years. As long as you don't smoke you are winning the battle. Win it one day at a time. For now, avoid all smoking situations or situations that you previously associated with smoking. Learn how to deal with life head on. It's doable! Here is a quote that I plaster all over this site... I hope you enjoy it.. [b][color=blue]"May we never let the things we can't have, or don't have, or shouldn't have, spoil our enjoyment of the things we do have and can have. As we value our happiness, let us not forget it, for one of the greatest lessons in life is learning to be happy without the things we cannot or should not have."[/color] [color=black]Richard L. Evans[/color][/b] Best wishes. [b][color=Purple]Be Strong. Be Smart. Be Quit[/color] [color=black]Joe[/color] [size=3][color=Blue]Knowledge Replaces Fear[/color][/size] [size=2][color=black]Illegitimus non carborundum est[/color][/size] [size=2][color=purple]Hoping for success without hard work is like trying to harvest without planting.[/color][/size][/b] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/15/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 395 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 9,892 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $967.75 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 69 [B]Hrs:[/B] 5 [B]Mins:[/B] 49 [B]Seconds:[/B] 11
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CobenFan's right, Kim. I'm guessing your friend has never had the pleasure of breaking an addiction, especially the strongest one of all. She has no clue what you and your hubby are going through. IMO, you were entirely correct in choosing to stay with hubby instead of being with her. There are some members here that have definitely lost "friends" over a quit and it did challenge their quits. But come to find out, some of those "friends" really weren't. IMO (I have many :)), a real friend will stand by you if you are doing something for your betterment, regardless of whether or not it inconveniences them. They will put your best interests ahead of their own. Of course, that assumes they have any idea of what your best interests entails. For the friends that don't understand, they should just accept that you would not be blowing them off unnecessarily and that you would attend to them if you felt you could. That's a great card you made, Kim. A good reminder for when things get a bit crazy in your head. Congratulations on getting through hell week. That is truly an awesome accomplishment. You and hubby hang in there. You're both doing great. :) Shevie [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/23/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 387 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 7,753 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1470.6 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 72 [B]Hrs:[/B] 6 [B]Mins:[/B] 28 [B]Seconds:[/B] 42
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cheer, I am so proud of you both! Removing yourself from the situation, supporting each other, and best of all not smoking through it all! This is great, and the two of you should take some time to reward yourselves :) Keep Strong, Josie ______________________ The SSC Support Team.
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Cheer, All advice is good! Take what you need from your friend and tell her to ease up. This is your quit and you will do it the way you please :) I am very proud that you and your husband are doing this and your support for each other is outstanding. This is your choice and yours alone. You don't need to lose a friendship over this, just remember, everyone has the right to their own opinion. We are always here for you and will not judge! Keep Strong, Josie _____________________ The SSC Support Team.

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