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Thanks buddy. I'm working on it. I spent this morning on the golf course. You are so right, there is solitude on the greens :) . I went alone, I played alone and it did me a lot of good. I called my new boss, heard distress in his voice, told him I will be there bright and early Monday morning and we will hit the ground running and get it all done (budget season and without a cost analyst, well....). I strive to be a good person and to do what is right at all times. Life is a journey and I have no intentions of giving up on myself. I know about the road now; my quit taught me that. I know that my dreams are just around that bend. I can feel it. Better days are ahead for me and today isn't so bad either. I truly am something I haven't been in many, many years. I am happy. I am happy with my accomplishments and pleased with the person I am becoming. So we march ;) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/1/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 405 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 8,110 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1417.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 35 [B]Hrs:[/B] 17 [B]Mins:[/B] 40 [B]Seconds:[/B] 3
17 years ago 0 5195 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Mistymoon.. something to think about. I don't know how to say this without sounding like an idiot so I guess I'll just spit it out. The "loving yourself" concept I've always had a difficult time with. As a matter of fact, now that I think about it, this is what caused me to start smoking in the first place. To fit in with others, NOT to be different. To be accepted. Just something about people that walk around saying "I love me" just seems a bit arrogant to me. Shevie you are right. This has nothing to do with nic.. but it does have a lot to do with demons. And you are right, I have gotten a lot of good advice on this thread. It has really given me a lot to think about. Thanks for being my friend Shevie and letting me know that I'm not out here all alone. It's nice to know that someone else understands. Ladybugg... You amaze me. Let-down... yep. I think you are right. I am a pretty goal oriented person. My daily routines have changed dramatically these last couple of months. My outlet with school is gone, my old job isn't there now, and I haven't really set any new goals. I'll have to think about what is next. Thank you. Luna. You ALWAYS make me feel so special. I wish I could have your spirit in life. You are always so upbeat and enjoying each moment that comes your way. Your life appears to be an adventure. I know, I know, my life is an adventure too but you really know how to enjoy yours and make the most of it. I'm learning. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/1/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 405 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 8,107 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1417.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 35 [B]Hrs:[/B] 17 [B]Mins:[/B] 22 [B]Seconds:[/B] 59
17 years ago 0 5195 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Thank you Breaking Free... I am feeling better this evening. Trying to focus on the postive and getting rid of the negative thinking. Getting rid of negative thinking is almost as hard as getting rid of junkie thinking. I guess I need to keep putting forth the effort until the effort becomes effortless :) . Thanks again everyone for all your support. It amazes me at how helpful everyone always is at this site. Everytime I find myself in situations struggling, you are here. That is very comforting. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/1/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 405 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 8,118 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1417.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 35 [B]Hrs:[/B] 18 [B]Mins:[/B] 27 [B]Seconds:[/B] 24
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Mistymoon.. the rewards are so important in the quit process. It took me a while to get that concept. Doodlebug, I've been reaching out and talking to people a long time now. You are so right. It does help. I use to stay on the deck and hide from the world. I don't want to smoke. Actually this is probably the first time in my entire quit, that I have gotten depressed and felt so alone and didn't "want" to smoke. I supose we should call this progress. One step at a time is all we can take. This quit road is full of twists and turns. I keep putting one foot in front of the other. I make decisions the best I know how and I guess deep inside I know that it is all part of my new non-smoking life. I am developing the new me. My new persona. I'm really glad this site is here and that all of you are here. I have learned so much from everyone around here. Perspective. It's all about perspective. Thank you for helping me grow. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/1/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 405 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 8,100 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1417.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 35 [B]Hrs:[/B] 16 [B]Mins:[/B] 36 [B]Seconds:[/B] 17
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Thank you Sparky. You know, I didn't even realize this post was about being negative until Melony and you pointed it out to me. I imagine in some strange way this is more growth along my precious quit journey. Maybe this is the next section for me. I've been feeling really down today and posting here always helps. It always helps because of the fine people around. I thought this sort of support had left the SSC. I'm glad to see that it hasn't. You'll have to forgive me. I seem to be in a rationalizing, rambling mood tonight. Haven't done this in quite some time. As most of you know I am getting ready to start a new job. I seem to be experiencing a lot of anxiety about this. I have also recently been made aware of other things that just aren't as they seemed to be. There are other things going on in my life that have me questioning who I am as well. Maybe I'm just trying to find my place in this world. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/1/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 404 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 8,098 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1414 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 35 [B]Hrs:[/B] 16 [B]Mins:[/B] 22 [B]Seconds:[/B] 0
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Melanie.. I have been fighting so hard to get rid of the negativity. It just seems to pop up all the time. I keep telling myself "negativity doesn't live here anymore". How do you rid yourself of years of negativity. I am trying to rephrase negative comments into positive ones. I am trying to see the good in everything instead of the bad. Loneliness seems to be my greatest pitfall. When things in life are so good, what difference does it make when there isn't anyone to share it with? I have also learned to reach out to others instead of just keeping everything inside and to myself. Maybe I really do think too much. I'm just out of coping skills at the moment. This probably doesn't even make any sense. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/1/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 404 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 8,097 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1414 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 35 [B]Hrs:[/B] 16 [B]Mins:[/B] 18 [B]Seconds:[/B] 53
17 years ago 0 5195 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Where do you go and what do you do with the disappointments of life now that you no longer smoke? During my quit I have developed coping skills for getting through situations without smoking. I got through craves with peppermints, ice water, the SSC, and quit buddies. I learned to set goals and celebrate milestones. I have learned to take one day at a time and try to keep a positive attitude. So much has changed during the last year of my life and I have been truly blessed. I am thankful for everything I have but my journey is still so incomplete. What do you do when things really important to you seem to be vanishing away and there really isn�t anything you can do to stop it? What do you do when the things that keep you going disappear? What do you do when you feel so very alone, but you don�t smoke? What do you do when you feel so unimportant that you just want to cry? Please tell me what you do, when you no longer smoke. I don�t care if you have been quit for a week or 10 years. I would really like to know what you do. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/1/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 404 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 8,097 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1414 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 35 [B]Hrs:[/B] 16 [B]Mins:[/B] 15 [B]Seconds:[/B] 13
17 years ago 0 5195 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
What Awesome support you all give. Rusty, Pam, Brent, Hummy & Lolly... thank you so much for your replies. Thanks for letting me know I'm not alone Lolly. About 3 months into my quit I wondered why everyone was feeling better and I wasn't. Then 6 months everyone seemed to go away and I still needed to be here. At one year I finally felt freedom and really haven't had major cravings since, just thoughts like so many speak of. It seems to have taken longer for the actual "cravings" to vanish for me. So many changes this past year, so much to be thankful for, so much to never forget. It is a whole new world. My quit has brought so much personal growth. I will keep working on the negativity. I also realize I am truly blessed. This has been an incredible journey. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/1/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 407 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 8,153 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1424.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 35 [B]Hrs:[/B] 22 [B]Mins:[/B] 18 [B]Seconds:[/B] 45
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Lady, True happiness comes from within. That is a well known fact. So often people tend to get wrapped up in outside influences and forget to take care of themselves. First and foremost, Lady needs to appreciate and take care of Lady. All of the good things that have come about for you in this past year are things you have worked for. Your education, your new job... those things happened because of positive action on your part. Now it is time to reap the rewards of your hard work. Feel good about all the IS good in your life. If something is not going your way, ask yourself if it is because of you or outside influences you have no or little control over. If it is the latter, then sit back and know that you have done what you can and it is time to let life run its course. Life is a journey as we all know. What we don't know is what is around the next bend in the road. If we stop before we get to the bend and shake in fear of the unknown, we will never get to our destination. However, if we move forward, we will find that what is around the corner is the future. But you will never get there by self pity and indecision. Know yourself, trust yourself, love yourself. Move forward and the rewards of life will be yours. You are a good person. A special individual. If you believed in yourself 1/2 as much as others do, you would realize that the skies the limit. [b][color=Purple]Be Strong. Be Smart. Be Quit[/color] [color=black]Joe[/color] [size=3][color=Blue]Knowledge Replaces Fear[/color][/size] [size=2][color=black]Illegitimus non carborundum est[/color][/size] [size=2][color=purple]Hoping for success without hard work is like trying to harvest without planting.[/color][/size][/b] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/15/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 452 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 11,310 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1107.4 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 79 [B]Hrs:[/B] 4 [B]Mins:[/B] 18 [B]Seconds:[/B] 38
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17 years ago 0 2027 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Dealing with emotions without smoking. It is part of the quit process, even though it may take a long time after the actual quitting is over to get through it. I don't know what sparked this thread for you, but I do know I've been dealing with my own demons (not Nic) that Nic kept supressed. We all go through it to some extent, some more, some less. Know that it is normal and you are not alone in this. For me, I try to recognize when some feeling is abnormal in either presence or intensity. If I do recognize the oddity, I try to not let it influence what I do until I've either calmed down or processed what's going on. It's quite similar to delaying tactics during a crave. The secret is the recognition. I still miss a lot and fly off, but it is getting better over time. Baby steps and don't get down on yourself if you misstep. I posted once long ago to the effect that newbies should never hesitate to offer advice to anyone, regardless of how long they've been quit. This thread is a shining example of that. Lady, you've gotten so much good advice from everyone who's replied. Please, take some time and reread everyone. Slowly, let it sink in. Think of the meanings behind the words. There's some powerful advice here if you'll just let yourself see it. If you'll just realize that it really does apply to you. Please remember one thing. [u]YOU [b]ARE[/b] IMPORTANT![/u] Never doubt that for a moment, regardless of the circumstances. Shevie [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/23/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 444 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 8,881 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1687.2 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 82 [B]Hrs:[/B] 18 [B]Mins:[/B] 53 [B]Seconds:[/B] 1

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