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17 years ago 0 506 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I'm glad you're back, Pam and glad you got through the surgery and the close call with the cig. ;) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 2/18/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 156 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 6,255 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1404 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 25 [B]Hrs:[/B] 16 [B]Mins:[/B] 39 [B]Seconds:[/B] 32
17 years ago 0 214 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Pam, Maybe you remember me? I am glad you made it through okay. I can understand how scary that was for you. I understand what you are saying about at least coming here and reading people's posts. I am doing fine in my quit and even though I may not post that much anymore or even come on everyday, I still come on and read what people are going through. Not that I want people to suffer during their quits, but for me reading the post from the people who are having a hard time really help me to stay away from ever smoking again. It reminds me of how much I do not want to go through those feelings ever again. So keep hanging around as long as you need to. At least the SSC is not hazardous to your health. Iwin [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/11/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 195 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 3,917 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $780 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 22 [B]Hrs:[/B] 0 [B]Mins:[/B] 51 [B]Seconds:[/B] 6
17 years ago 0 19 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Pam: You and I don't really know each other, so I hope you don't take offense at the question I'm going to ask. Now that you're a nonsmoker (or exsmoker, whichever catch phrase you prefer), why would you choose to date a smoker? I know there are those who live with smokers, generally because the person they're living with is a smoking spouse. But why would you seek out a relationship with a smoker? The stench alone would be a big turn-off for me. I don't advocate "throwing" people away simply because they smoke, but since you're a single woman, you have a choice. Heck of a blackout for you to have this out of body experience and suddenly find yourself with a cigarette to your lips. Scary, to say the least. I'm no relationship expert, but let me say this. You've made major changes in your life by adopting a nonsmoking lifestyle...very positive changes. Not sure of your major life goals, but if you're dating, I'm assuming you would be open to a long-term, committed relationship with someone you found to be your "soulmate." Wouldn't you prefer a nonsmoking soulmate? That way, smoking wouldn't be a point of contention between you. Better to find someone who doesn't smoke than to hope/pray they will quit smoking before they get sick, or better yet, subject your future children to secondhand smoke. Just a thought, but one you should seriously consider. It's pretty apparent that you are especially vulnerable when you put yourself in a position to be tempted. Think about it. -Sharon [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/15/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 435 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 10,883 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $913.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 46 [B]Hrs:[/B] 2 [B]Mins:[/B] 17 [B]Seconds:[/B] 32
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Certainly not trying to open a debate in your thread regarding dating a smoker, but since your "close call" with a cigarette that you mindlessly put to your lips, I'd say that being with a smoker is something you should seriously rethink. Glad to hear you recognize the pitfalls. Trying to prove a point to yourself by putting yourself in a vulnerable position make eventually be the demise of your quit. Not trying to make you mad, just trying to get you to think. It's not a matter of judging someone because they smoke, it's simply choosing to make healthier, smarter decisions for the future. Dating someone that has chosen to live a healthier lifestyle has its merits. I don't think you'd date an alcoholic or drug addict simply to prove you're not judging them, would you? All God's children have worth, but why put yourself in a position for heartbreak and misery when they refuse or "can't" quit an addiction? I'm a nicotine addict, and even though I have a strong quit, I would not tempt the fates, so to speak, by putting myself in temptation's way. Just food for fodder, nothing more. Be smart..be quit...and stay quit. Have a great day! [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/15/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 435 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 10,884 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $913.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 46 [B]Hrs:[/B] 2 [B]Mins:[/B] 25 [B]Seconds:[/B] 38
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Sorry, Pam if you took offense to my posts. It was not my intention to put you on the defensive. My simple point is this�.nonsmoking friends (BFs included) don�t carry cigarettes that mysteriously find their way to your lips. I guess lucky for you, your boyfriend stopped you from taking a drag. Only you know what works for you, so I wish you much success as you continue on your nonsmoking journey. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/15/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 435 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 10,889 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $913.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 46 [B]Hrs:[/B] 2 [B]Mins:[/B] 48 [B]Seconds:[/B] 51
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Glad you're back Pam, and thanks for the heads up on 'ol nic at his evil tricks again. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 10/19/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 280 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 5,614 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $952 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 28 [B]Hrs:[/B] 21 [B]Mins:[/B] 0 [B]Seconds:[/B] 15
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You know.... I'm going to come and find both you and Joyful! New rule... My quit buddies CANNOT Smoke! You guys are killing me here! Seriously, I'm so glad that you found your way. You know that you help people here on the site. Your stats and your struggles show that quitting is possible no matter what. That is encouraging to all those that struggle the way you have with your quit. It is nice to have you back... I really was worried about you and relieve to hear that you were fine (even if you did lie to me :mad: ) Pam, we have watched you grow and develop during this process and you are right, you are a part of this quit family whether others like it or not. So as your big sister, I am telling you now... Ditch the smoking BF! :p OK.. I probably can't tell you what to do because you are a grown woman. But please do be careful and remember to protect your quit at all costs. It is a valuable part of you and you don't want to let it go. Welcome home. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/1/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 388 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 7,767 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1358 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 34 [B]Hrs:[/B] 5 [B]Mins:[/B] 21 [B]Seconds:[/B] 56
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Sorry I wasn't there Pam. Life is happening really fast these days. Glad you found the inner strength you needed. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/1/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 388 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 7,768 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1358 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 34 [B]Hrs:[/B] 5 [B]Mins:[/B] 30 [B]Seconds:[/B] 31
17 years ago 0 534 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
BFS, Sorry that you lost your bracelet. I knew that you wouldn't let us down. Hope you are able to get a replacement soon. I would bead you one but my hands are not working to well. That's why I am not talking much. I read alot though. You keep strong. NOPE! Cheryl [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/4/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 387 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 9,288 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1102.95 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 50 [B]Hrs:[/B] 14 [B]Mins:[/B] 42 [B]Seconds:[/B] 23
17 years ago 0 534 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Good to see you back Pam, lots of folks been looking for you. I suppose that when you left, you took off your bracelet? (shaking my head) I know that you would not smoke with it on. Glad to see your boyfriend was supportive and helped you make the right decision. Stick a little closer, you don't have to come all the time, but at least check in once every couple of days. Cheryl [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/4/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 385 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 9,245 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1097.25 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 50 [B]Hrs:[/B] 9 [B]Mins:[/B] 1 [B]Seconds:[/B] 57

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