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18 years ago 0 +0 / -0 54

Ex-Slave, Just look at the seriously stupid things people do and say when drunk ...be unfaithful, walk on the railings of bridges, climb statues and fall off, get into fights - it's hardly surprising we want to smoke and think "stuff it, it won't matter" when we have a few drinks. Some people seem to be able to manage it earlier than others but the cold hard truth for me is that I still have to limit my alcohol intake unless I'm at home or out with my husband. I was supposed to go out tonight but I'm not going to go. I can't guarantee I won't smoke in the particular circumstances I'd face tonight. Does it make me weak because I'm avoiding a situation or smart because I'm avoiding a situation. I like to think I'm smart until I'm strong. I've found having a wine at home with hubby instead of going out a good way to get used to the feeling of alcohol in my body without automatically smoking. As soon as the alcohol hits my blood stream the need for nicotine is overwhelming and a huge internal battle begins. I'm getting more used to it now and learning that it doesn't mean I smoke. Every time I have relapsed alcohol and other smokers have been involved and I've attempted to go out too soon or I've used the occassion as an excuse to smoke. I don't know how long it will be before I'm comfortable to go out with smokers and have a drink but how ever long it is is how long I'll have to wait! Chicken L [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/2/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 45 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 586 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $495 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 3 [B]Hrs:[/B] 19 [B]Mins:[/B] 5 [B]Seconds:[/B] 2

18 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3368

How are you doing ex-slave? [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/12/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 38 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,158 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $152 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 3 [B]Hrs:[/B] 5 [B]Mins:[/B] 55 [B]Seconds:[/B] 31

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18 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3368

Hi ex-slave, I'm sorry to hear about your slip, but I am happy to see you are not beating yourself up and that you are getting right back on the quit wagon. How are you doing today? [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/12/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 34 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,039 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $136 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 2 [B]Hrs:[/B] 21 [B]Mins:[/B] 56 [B]Seconds:[/B] 9

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18 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3368

Chicken and Danielle just dished out some great advice. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/12/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 35 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,066 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $140 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 2 [B]Hrs:[/B] 23 [B]Mins:[/B] 46 [B]Seconds:[/B] 20

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136,851

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18 years ago 0 +0 / -0 8760

ex-slave, I think it's time to turn the tables on this addiction. You can either feed into or not. If you choose the latter, here's how... 1. Identify trigers: done that: social outings 2. Thought stopping: Think to self; Do I really want this cigarette? 3. Break the cycle: Just like at home instead of picking up a cigarette do something else. You must replace smoking with a new habit. Candy, gum, activity... anything but a cigarette. I know it sounds like common sense but your brain hasn't gotten into the habit of this new routine yet and it will take some time for the new routine to become habit. Hope this helps, Danielle

18 years ago 0 +0 / -0 8760

Ex-slave, You give those bar straws what for! haha. Seriously though, you will give up those lozenges when you're ready. Sounds like your still dealing with junkie thoughts and the psychological aspect of addiction. Keep persevering, you'll be nic free soon... start preparing for those days now. Danielle ________________________________ The SSC Support Team

18 years ago 0 +0 / -0 334

Hi Ex-slave. First of all let me say that I'm glad that you are right back at your quit today. It is going to be hard again for a few days because you have fed your addiction and your body will once again be looking for a fix. DON'T GIVE IN!!!!!!! Keep fighting - drink your water, take deep breaths and remind yourself why you have chosen to be a non smoker in the first place. No Smoking = Life. Now, after saying all that, let me tell you that I slipped on Monday night. Had WAY too much to drink and smoked one entire cigarette. I was so mad at myself Tuesday morning - I mean really upset, crying the works. Then I came here and got all this incredible support and realized that I could learn from my mistake instead of wallowing in it. I choose to be a non smoker, today, tomorrow and always. Amen. You can do this. One step, one day, one second at a time. Let me know how you are doing, Janet [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/1/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 44 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 539 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $242 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 3 [B]Hrs:[/B] 22 [B]Mins:[/B] 56 [B]Seconds:[/B] 39

18 years ago 0 +0 / -0 334

Hi ex. How are you doing this morning? I know yesterday was probably rough - but today will be better and tomorrow even better than that. Just keep quitting!! Hi Butterfly. Thanks for all of the advice. You are so right when you say we are way too early in our quits to drink. I could not agree more. No, I was not prepared and I just simply should not have drank. But just so you know, I did come here and post that morning - under stats parade, heading "Six weeks". I was feeling scared and ready to smoke so I came here looking for support. I should have printed out my reasons for quitting from my glove compartment and taken them with me. I should have..........next time I will. Let me know how you are doing today Ex! Cheers, Skidoo [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/1/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 45 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 545 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $247.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 3 [B]Hrs:[/B] 23 [B]Mins:[/B] 58 [B]Seconds:[/B] 46

18 years ago 0 +0 / -0 2830

Good to hear it ex-slave! Learn from this mistake and know how the next day feels and remember that you don't want to be disapointed in yourself again! You CAN do this. I'm glad you're still here, fighting this fight! Crave the Quit! Pam [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 10/28/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 229 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 5,748 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $945.77 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 16 [B]Hrs:[/B] 16 [B]Mins:[/B] 28 [B]Seconds:[/B] 34

18 years ago 0 +0 / -0 2830

Ex-slave and skidoo, I want to say this to both of you, so skidoo, I'm glad you posted first to this post. I have been where you are. In fact, ex-slave, I have been EXACTLY where you are, blowing a quit at a concert. For some reason, concerts are the worst triggers for me to get through, even now. And drinking early in a quit, especially as early as both of you are, is downright stupid. That might sound harsh, but let's think about something. (I'm going to steal Katy's example here, but I'm giving credit to her for it) Would you take an infant someplace where you knew it wasn't safe? Both of your quits are still in their infancy. Why endanger your quits like that? Especially without preperation for dealing with a tough situation like drinking. I'm sure that you both knew that you were going to be going out before hand. I tried to find a post from either of you about having a tough situation that you were going to be faced with and asking advice about it, and I didn't find one for either of you. You didn't prepare! What did you think would happen? If you've got a huge test to take for a class that is worth your entire grade in the class, don't you think you would study for it? Well, with a quit, studying before hand is deciding what you will do when you get in the situation, asking for advice and bringing your coping mechanisms with you. This is imperitive when preparing for a tough situation! And what's tougher than going out and drinking? Let's think about this for a second... what other trigger out there is tougher?!?! You've got something that is SOOOOOOOOO closely tied to smoking, one of the last places where smoking is still acceptable and not looked down on as much and where you have a loss of inhibitions and lose your ability to make sound decisions! And you both took your infant quits into drinking situations!!! OK, lecture done. I just had to get that out. Hope I wasn't too harsh, but the fact of the matter is that I've been where you are and I hate seeing anybody get in that situation. I blew my quit 3 times, the second one at a concert and the third one at a bar (that was when I reset my meter and have been smoke free ever since). I can tell you from personal experience that slips lead to more slips. Slipping gives

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