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Tennellie [quote] Am I over analyzing, perhaps? [/quote] Someone after my on analytical heart. I tend to have the same problem. I too "tried" to quit several times before succeeding. Keep working at it. Like I said earlier I lacked confidence in the beginning. All I know is that I was tired of smoking controlling my life. I don't like to be controlled by anything. I took my quit step by step. Literally. I believe I counted the hours for the first 72 hours (how long it takes nicotine to leave your body). Whenever I thought of lighting up, I did something else to occupy my mind. Then I kept telling myself, I've made it XX hours. There is no way I'm going back and starting all over again. I took those initial steps and built from there. I posted, a lot. I read. I whinned, moaned and stumbled all over this site. The good people here kept grabbing my hand and pulling me along until I could finally walk on my own. Start with a little faith in yourself and watch it grow. It's an awesome feeling and it will change your entire world. Reach out and we will help. I promise. :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/1/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 215 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 4,318 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $752.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 19 [B]Hrs:[/B] 0 [B]Mins:[/B] 39 [B]Seconds:[/B] 14
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Those of you that have been around for a while will recall that I didn't have any confidence in the beginning of my quit. I fought every step of the way for about the first 60 days. I took advise and knowledge from several good quitters that are still around today. Eventually, my confidence began to grow and my fear began to dwindle. Once I started gaining confidence, everything else just kind of fell into place. I agree with you Joe that everyone who comes here has a desire to quit. Quitting is very difficult and not all succeed. Confidence is another of the many tools we use to help us achieve our desire to quit. So if you lack confidence in your ability to quit...stick around, read and post...it worked for me. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/1/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 214 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 4,299 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $749 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 18 [B]Hrs:[/B] 22 [B]Mins:[/B] 39 [B]Seconds:[/B] 23
18 years ago 0 2830 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Tennielle, You will quit for good when you're ready. I honestly have no freaking clue how many times I have "tried" to quit in my lifetime. I'm 29, but if I had to venture a guess, I would say more times than years I've been alive... and that's a pretty modest guess... it's probably more than that. Since November of 2004, I've quit 5 times. But I can say with a fair amount of certainty, that Lord willing, this is my last quit. But I think I needed all of those "tries" to finally get it right. Sure, after I kept slipping and then getting back at my quit, I too wondered if this REALLY was the last time. I mean, I'd WANTED it every single time. What was going to make THIS time different???? What made it different is my attitude. I will not allow myself to even consider thinking about smoking. It's no longer an option. When I want to smoke, I don't because that just isn't OK because I know deep down that I want to quit forever. Until smoking is no longer an option for you, you probably won't quit successfully. Attitude is everything. Be confident in your abilities as a quitter. You CAN do this. Sorry I also hijacked your thread Joe. Crave the Quit! Butterfly [IMG]http://i27.photobucket.com/albums/c177/kissnflirt/littlebutterfly2.gif[/IMG] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 10/28/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 96 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,422 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $316.8 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 7 [B]Hrs:[/B] 0 [B]Mins:[/B] 47 [B]Seconds:[/B] 8
18 years ago 0 563 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Lady, et al., Hijack away! It's all good! And how did you know I was a sergeant when I was in the Army?? ;p I am confident that all who read this thread will come away with positive thoughts about their quits. [b][color=Purple]Be Strong. Be Smart. Be Quit[/color] [color=black]Joe[/color] [size=3][color=Blue]Knowledge Replaces Fear[/color][/size] [size=2][color=black]Illegitimus non carborundum est[/color][/size][/b] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/15/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 262 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 6,571 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $641.9 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 46 [B]Hrs:[/B] 0 [B]Mins:[/B] 2 [B]Seconds:[/B] 55
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18 years ago 0 563 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Tennielle, For many, quitting is a complex journey through the mind. Many people have woven smoking into the very fabric of their lives and when they quit they are constantly finding new "triggers" that they hadn't thought of and many times they get tripped up. Strength, Determination, Commitment and A Positive Attitude are essential elements of a successful quit. Knowledge is another key. The more you know about the quit process the better prepared you will be when a crave or an unsettling situation occurs. This thread deals with Confidence. Through successes in your quit you gain confidence. When you get past such and such crave you gain confidence that you can do it again. For most quitters, the first few weeks are the hardest. After that a person can certainly get hit with a hard crave, but now they have all of those successes behind them and can feel Confident that they can handle this one. Quitting is one of the ultimate personal challenges. No one can quit for you and no two quits are exactly alike. Use the tools here. Read up on the quit process. The Internet is literally filled with smoking cessation information. Lastly, don't think that you are quit. Just be quit. Learn how to deal with life by acknowledging to yourself that smoking is no longer an option for you. Period. No one ever died from quitting smoking. Best wishes. [b][color=Purple]Be Strong. Be Smart. Be Quit[/color] [color=black]Joe[/color] [size=3][color=Blue]Knowledge Replaces Fear[/color][/size] [size=2][color=black]Illegitimus non carborundum est[/color][/size][/b] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/15/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 262 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 6,572 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $641.9 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 46 [B]Hrs:[/B] 0 [B]Mins:[/B] 12 [B]Seconds:[/B] 51
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18 years ago 0 563 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Bubba touched on why people might be struggling and suggested they lacked preparation and perhaps had a complacent attitude to their quits. I want to touch on an often overlooked part of quitting.. Confidence. Rosabeth Moss Kanter, PhD, defines it this way: [b][color=black]�Confidence is the expectation of a positive outcome.�[/b][/color] [b][color=red]A Positive Outcome[/b][/color]. Said another way.. Success. Confidence breeds success. [b][color=blue]Success is the sum of the confident decisions you make.[/b][/color] We must approach quitting from a �never fail� perspective. Too often people quit their quits the moment an obstacle gets in their way. Many look at those obstacles as an excuse to go back to smoking. Others look at it as insurmountable and lose faith in their ability to conquer it. [b][color=black]Confidence.[/b][/color] Look at duffis� post in Stats about the Unsmokables, lead by UFO. That whole group personifies confidence and success. Life isn�t easy. Quitting isn�t easy (for most). How strong will you be or how weak can you be? Don�t accept failure when you have it in you to succeed. Each and every person that logs on to this web site has the desire to quit. There is no other reason to come here. Yet so many post a few times and we never see them again. Why? They probably still have the desire to quit, but they probably lacked the confidence to see it through. Be different. Be Confident. [b][color=Purple]Be Strong. Be Smart. Be Quit[/color] [color=black]Joe[/color] [size=3][color=Blue]Knowledge Replaces Fear[/color][/size] [size=2][color=black]Illegitimus non carborundum est[/color][/size][/b] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/15/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 261 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 6,547 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $639.45 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 45 [B]Hrs:[/B] 19 [B]Mins:[/B] 56 [B]Seconds:[/B] 37
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18 years ago 0 586 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
You're right, Joe. I had a friend that constantly reminded me that I kept saying the "try" word. I used it because of the lack of confidence that I felt. So...even though you may not feel confident in the beginning, it can start as simple as saying you're [i]going[/i] to do this as opposed to [i]trying[/i] to... Your brain will eventually believe what you tell it. It's rarely mentioned as being part of the quitting criteria even though it's so vital. Good post :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 2/2/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 363 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 7,278 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1295.91 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 38 [B]Hrs:[/B] 12 [B]Mins:[/B] 44 [B]Seconds:[/B] 4
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18 years ago 0 1115 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
�I've yet to keep a quit, but I won't keep smoking.� Tennielle, that statement tells me that you will keep your quit. You just have to have the right tools, the right mindset/attitude, and the KNOWLEDGE that you will not ever smoke again. Write down every reason you have for wanting to quit. Keep them with you at all times, and anytime you think about smoking, MAKE yourself read them at least twice before you pick up a cigarette. When you quit, you�ve already made the decision. You don�t get to go back on your decision. The only thing you get to do is figure out how to stick with your decision. Smoking is not an option, so what do you do? Plan everything out. Decide what you�re going to do when you start craving a cigarette. Figure out how you�re going to keep smoke free when you�re around smokers. Write down EVERYTHING. One member quit smoking the day he went on a week long hiking/camping trip with non smokers. He took away all his options to smoke, kept busy, enjoyed his friends, and quit smoking. Decide what it is you need to do, what support you need, what rewards you�re going to give yourself, and then, just jump in and quit. You really can do it. Anyone can. You just don�t have the next cigarette. Ever. You could do it if you knew the next one was going to kill you. You know that you want to quit, so plan it all out and quit. We�ll be here for you to hang on to, and you will be SOOOO glad you did. N2K � thank you for the hug! I did tissue painting with kindergarten today. My hands look as if I stuck them in a vat of dye. My legs are burning from Tai Chi. I have several rather pressing things to complete this evening. My daughter isn�t feeling well. And I REALLY needed the hug. (On the other hand, I didn�t have to go through what Cheryl went through yesterday, so I�ll not sweat the small stuff.) Joe, we�ve hijacked your thread again. Big congrats on the Hall of Fame award! :) Not cravin', never cavin'. Hummy [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/5/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 273 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 10,952 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1774.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 35 [B]Hrs:[/B] 12 [B]Mins:[/B] 12 [B]Seconds:[/B] 45
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18 years ago 0 1115 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
�Lady~ U grew N2 the person U want 2be and we are all proud of U� � N2K, that is one of the nicest compliments I�ve ever heard. Lady, I hope you see this. Joe, a great post! If we all did the things we are capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves. ~Thomas Alva Edison [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/5/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 272 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 10,908 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1768 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 35 [B]Hrs:[/B] 8 [B]Mins:[/B] 49 [B]Seconds:[/B] 4
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