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17 years ago 0 893 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Oh Pam, I am so sorry to hear your news. Of course there is a point to keeping quit, you know as well as I do that although any of us could get lung cancer (or any smoking related illness)the chances are much less if we don't smoke. Apart from that there are all the other benefits that we get from being smoke free. Try and look at it from the other perspective, why should you smoke? what benefit do you get by smoking? A friend of mine died several years ago from lung cancer and he had never smoked in his life!! life sucks sometimes, but that does not mean that the answer is to smoke cigarettes! [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 2/6/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 98 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,177 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �245 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 17 [B]Hrs:[/B] 21 [B]Mins:[/B] 52 [B]Seconds:[/B] 58
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I'm saddened to hear of your trial, BFS. I think everyone has done a good job refocusing your attention to the purpose of your quit. I'll only add this: Sure you or I or any of us may or may not die a tragic, unjust death. It could be tomorrow or it could be 50 years from now. I'll ask only this: Between now and then do you want to live a life of freedom or a life of bondage, enslaved - a life dictated by an inanimate object - a false idol of sorts? No one grows up wishing to be an addict - we all want to be something but no one wants to grow. It's not easy. May you find peace, Butterfly. keep fightin' the good fight - fish [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/21/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 146 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 4,398 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $730 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 18 [B]Hrs:[/B] 22 [B]Mins:[/B] 55 [B]Seconds:[/B] 9
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Pam, I know we have IMed and dicussed this, but I wasnted to tell you again that we are all here for you and want nuthing but the best for you. Lossing someone close is very difficult. I have personally lost at least 7 people that I was close to in the last 6 years. Only 1 did I have to watch pass with a smoking related illness. It was horrible and I know what you must be going through. No matter what though you had better not smoke or I am comning to Missouri and tracking you down. We LOVE you here and things would really suck if you left. I like the "Keep Fighting the Good Fight" quote. Hang in there girl and Big Bear Hugs for you. [img] http://stubow.com/ssc/bear.gif [img] StuBow [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/6/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 11 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 289 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $44 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 1 [B]Hrs:[/B] 17 [B]Mins:[/B] 13 [B]Seconds:[/B] 11
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17 years ago 0 2364 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
P.S. [IMG]http://i47.photobucket.com/albums/f190/cuddlebug230/thani5Fcongratulations5Fjk4.gif[/IMG] on [IMG]http://i47.photobucket.com/albums/f190/cuddlebug230/1.gif[/IMG][IMG]http://i47.photobucket.com/albums/f190/cuddlebug230/9.gif[/IMG][IMG]http://i47.photobucket.com/albums/f190/cuddlebug230/9.gif[/IMG] smoke free days Cuddles It's better to be a non-smoker with an occasional desire for a cig than a smoker with a constant desire to quit...... [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 4/22/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 23 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 465 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $82.8 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 2 [B]Hrs:[/B] 9 [B]Mins:[/B] 28 [B]Seconds:[/B] 14
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Butterfly Swimmer Sorry to hear about your grandpa. Life just isn�t fair sometimes. I watched my dad die of terminal cancer from smoking in 1981 at age 47. Now I am watching my neighbor die of terminal cancer and he never smoked in his life. The benefits of quitting out weight continuing to smoke. You smell better Your senses are better You have more money You are not supporting tobacco companies You don�t have to think about when you can get that next fix You are setting a wonderful example for children You are not polluting the air You are in control of your life - Nic is not in control of you You are giving yourself a better chance of not getting smoke related disease. There is no benefit to smoking. You have been one of my best mentors for not smoking. I have watched you struggle to get to this point of not smoking and you have inspired me. My daughter in law maybe pregnant will find out soon. I wont have nic getting in my way, while spending time with a grandchild. The thought of my own children inhaling smoke, while I was a smoker makes me feel awful. But it is to late to do anything about that. We cant look back, we must think about the future. Stand up and be proud, you have accomplished an amazing feat by quitting. My mom�s emphysemas has improved since she quit smoking. When she gets sick, she gets better quicker. Well those are a few reasons why we don�t smoke. Hope it helps [IMG]http://i47.photobucket.com/albums/f190/cuddlebug230/thBUTTERFLY.jpg[/IMG] Cuddles It's better to be a non-smoker with an occasional desire for a cig than a smoker with a constant desire to quit...... [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 4/22/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 23 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 465 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $82.8 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 2 [B]Hrs:[/B] 9 [B]Mins:[/B] 27 [B]Seconds:[/B] 53
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Thank you Shevie... Words to live by. It's all perspective Pam. Sometimes keeping the correct perspective can be tring but we have to work at it until it becomes a natural part of our smoke free lives. Like I tell all the newbies all the time.... Do Not Give Up on Yourself. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/1/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 318 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 6,368 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1113 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 28 [B]Hrs:[/B] 1 [B]Mins:[/B] 28 [B]Seconds:[/B] 20
17 years ago 0 2830 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
oops! I meant 69th! I'd really really like for them to get to 79 thought! :)
17 years ago 0 2830 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Coben Fan, Your post made me cry, because that's exactly what having grandparents is like! I never got to know my father's parents, but I've been blessed to still have my mother's parents alive and mentally, in good health my whole life. They tell the most awesome stories and are so full of life! I've always said that I hope that I'm like that when I get old... we all know people who grow old and are bitter about their lives, but my grandparents couldn't be more opposite of that! Up until my grandad got sick, they were completely self-sufficient... they cook for themselves, clean their own house, etc... it's been a real blessing. Hopefully next month, they will celebrate their 79th wedding anniversary together. So going through this with them is so hard. It's not even that I want to smoke; it's that I'm sickened by the thought that I could still die due to smoking. I know that there are other benefits to quitting, and I'm really trying to concentrate on them and that's working, but I wish I knew the statistics on people who quit smoking who die of smoking related illnesses, versus people who continue to smoke until they are diagnosed or die... I'm hoping that it would ease my mind and not make me feel worse about the situation, but I don't know anything about those statistics. Either way, I know that I am not guaranteed tomorrow, or even 5 more minutes, but it's still something I think about. Anyway, thanks everybody for being there. Pam [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 10/28/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 200 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 5,015 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $826 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 14 [B]Hrs:[/B] 13 [B]Mins:[/B] 26 [B]Seconds:[/B] 40
17 years ago 0 2830 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
[quote] We can't worry about the future we can't control, nor the past we can't change. That path leads to insanity. [/quote] Thanks Shevie! That has now been copied to my quit diary. I realized after posting this that it might be discouraging to newbies who are just starting their quits, and I really don't want to discourage anyone from quitting. I really hope I haven't done that. I realize that there are many other positive benefits about quitting besides the risk of cancer, such as money, general health (I don't cough near as much as I used to), smell, not being a social pariah, etc... so I guess maybe I just need to focus more on those benefits right now, rather than the long term effects. I'm trying. Pam [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 10/28/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 199 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 4,986 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $821.87 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 14 [B]Hrs:[/B] 11 [B]Mins:[/B] 28 [B]Seconds:[/B] 56
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Thank you everybody. Like I said, it's no longer a matter of smoking... no matter how much I want to, at this point, I know that I just won't do that, but that doesn't make it any easier to watch somebody you love die a horrible and painful death. It doesn't make the want go away. I've never lost anyone close to me... never. So, this is a new experience (not one I'm fond of either) and going through it smoke free seems a little surreal at the moment. Coupled with the fact that he's dying from a smoking related illness when he's never smoked, and my grandmother, who smoked for many many many years, is fit as a fiddle. He's dying because he lived with a smoker, and the smoker is perfectly healthy. This irony sickens me! Not that I want my grandmother to die of a smoking related illness either though! Of course not! It's just so hard to deal with. I guess I just needed to be reminded of my reasons for quitting. Thanks for doing that. And thanks for listening to me ramble a bit. Pam [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 10/28/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 199 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 4,983 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $821.87 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 14 [B]Hrs:[/B] 11 [B]Mins:[/B] 16 [B]Seconds:[/B] 4

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