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16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1288

Lady, you are not unworthy, anything but! You have your 2 children that love you and that need you. Everyone needs a shoulder to lean on and there is nothing wrong with that. Try making a list of everything that makes you happy, from your kids and your job to the smell of spring flowers. Everytime you're feeling down, have a look at your list and remind yourself of all the great things you have to look forward to. Keep persevering! Sylvie, Bilingual Health Educator

16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 183

Ooops. Sorry, Lady, I may have hit a trigger for you in a response I wrote to you in another thread -- finding perspective helps me, but it sounds as though you've heard it too much. I try to avoid asking myself if I'm just feeling sorry for myself because I believe that I am. But this is one of those thinking/believing dichotomies -- I think that's what depression is: feeling sorry for yourself over a long period of time and not being able to pull yourself out of it. But I believe that feeling sorry for myself is a self-indulgent weakness and that I should be able to just stop doing it. I have no idea whether or not avoiding this question is a good thing to do, but it makes me feel worse when I ask it of myself so I try not to. You have a lot of positive things on your plate, but that doesn't mean that you are invulnerable to depression. "How can I be depressed when my life is so good?" has been asked by a lot of people here, and I don't think that there's a good answer to that question either. Working through this program is the first time that I've actually felt that I'm getting better. It's taking some time, but I'm starting to get an understanding of where my negative thoughts and emotions are coming from... a lot of time, actually, because understanding is only the first step :confuse:

16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 5195

This is an interesting forum and I liked the fact that others have the same issues as I. I'm lonely, tired, scared, unworthy, and don't feel I have value in this world yet I take care of 2 kids alone, work full time and am in school furthering my education. My career is at it's best and I have the best job I've ever had. So my question to this group is.... is it really the "pity pot"? So many refer to my bouts of despair as misdirected perspective and just simply feeling sorry for myself. I don't like being alone. I feel my life isn't worth anything if I don't have anyone over the age of 10 to share it with. You know what I mean? Is that self pity or is it something else? I don't think it is a pity pot. It is a situation that I really hate. Is that so wrong? How can I stop feeling this way?

16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 183

I have that too -- intellectually knowing something is true, but not actually believing it. I agree with wildcat that it's a matter of continued repetition. I heard the other day something about thought patterns being etched in out brains, and that CBT etches new thought patterns -- eventually erasing the old ones. My psychiatrist dumped me as well -- she didn't do CBT, so said that she couldn't help me anymore. I felt like a lost cause, as if she believed that I would never get better, or didn't want to get better, or was making it all up. Persevere, mindfulz, as there are professionals out there who understand that there is work between knowing how to do something and actually being able to do it.

16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3043

hi all... i have this kind of split-thinking and it is what keeps me functional. I know, I do... but at heart i do not believe. I do not believe i deserve such a wonderful husband. I do not believe i am part of the human race and have an intrisic value. I do not believe that things will be okay. If a catastrophy did not occur today it will happy tomorrow.. I usually need time to repete the lesson and repete and let it grow and at some point I discover the idea has taken root in the heart.

16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1153

Madara and Mindful, In order to change our behaviour, sometimes we have to challenge our core beliefs and push ourselves to do things that may outside of our regular comfort zone. If you were teaching other people, what would you expect from them? Expect the same from yourself. You're both very smart and capable individuals. Keep working through the program and completing your mood trackers. Brenna, Bilingual Health Educator

16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 6

Hi My CBT therapist has told me that he can not really teach me any more - I know the theory and just need to keep practising and putting theory into action. I know CBT isnt about emotional support one on one but I feel a bit alone with this. MindfulZ x

16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 144

I think that this question can be answered only by myself but still...any ideas? My psychoterapist says that I know too much about my illness and that information is only in my head. If I want to recover, it should be in my soul as well. But how to do that? I understand everything and could teach other people how to perceive the world, how to concentrate on positive things etc. but it seems not working with myself. I have many fears and catastrophic thinking. I do want to change this way of living but it is not easy!

16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 8760

Perth, Benefit is often tied to privilege. Privileges are often earned and if you're struggling with low self-esteem it's no wonder you're not seeking those benefits anymore. Don't be too hard on yourself about feeling lonely. You could be in a room full of people and still feel lonely. This isn't only specific to you. Likely, you feel lonely because your depression gives you a different lived experience than everyone else in your life and that is isolating. Why don't you think you're deserving? Where does it stem from? Yes, this indeed falls into the core beliefs & assumptions category. You will begin tackling in the earlier sessions but work on this problem steadily every week. Danielle, Bilingual Health Educator

16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3043

Hi Danielle, I do have a question, too. I am struggling with low self-esteem and I always believe i do not deserve things other people can do or deserve. I know it's nonsense, but it is how it feels. What I also realize: earlier I enjoyed life. Enjoyed every pretty thing in life. Actually searched for nice moments. Now I am only "working" and just notice that other people see and take benefit from those chances to enjoy life I have seen and taken benefit from before. I literally only "observe" the joy of others and in the same time I just suffer from not being so fancy as they are, from feeling so LONELY all the time... it's killing me - however, I should not feel lonely, I 'm married, have a nice family and some colleagues. So, what can I do? Is this problem covered in the CBT propgram? If yes, which session is it about? thanks for answering

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