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9 months ago 0 Lynn123 296 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo

Lately I have been reflecting on my journey to giving up alcohol.  I joined this site as a nightly drinker and found it hard to go just one night without alcohol.  Something had to change and I decided I had to give it up. Everyone here knows that giving up your “friend” is really hard but I knew I didn’t want that friend around anymore.  Everything about it was so time consuming. I was either drinking alcohol, thinking about it or recovering from it.  


This post is not to tell my story but to maybe give someone a different way to look at your journey.  This post is to say what worked for me, what gave me that boast in my tough times. I think the single biggest factor for me was what I mentioned before, I simply did not want to be drinker anymore.  Previous times of attempting to stop drinking I told myself what I couldn’t have.  When I decided I didn’t want to be a drinker anymore my focus shifted from what I was denying myself to something I could gain.  Not a long list, just one focus, to be a non-drinker.  


As we all know, the mind is a powerful and it can play tricks on you.  But we can play tricks on our minds too and I think that is what I did.  Rather than thinking about what I couldn’t have I thought about what I wanted.  In the tough times the desire to be a non-drinker won out over the desire to have that drink.  


Everyone is different and has to find their own way. If you’re current focus is not working, finding a new focus may help.  In the end, it’s what works for you. Good luck everyone.



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