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15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 8760

Happy I could help

Good luck!

Danielle, Bilingual Health Educator

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 341

Hi, we do spend a lot of time together, when he's home from work etc..a romantic date night is a great idea, i'm going to work on that..no tv while eating dinner too...maybe eat at the table:)

thanks for the idea.

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 8760

Hi Minnesota,

Do you spend much time together? Some individuals can't be physically intimate unless emotionally connected to the other. Maybe it is time for a romantic date night?

Again, as it has been mentioned, communication with your partner is key.

Good luck!

Danielle, Bilingual Health Educator

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 341

Hi Sylvia, I have tried, he says nothing is wrong, and I try to cuddle, I try to do all kinds of things, but he doesnt seem to respond. Maybe its not me, maybe he just doesnt want to do anything, and its his issue, not mine. He is very over weight, it doesnt bother me, but maybe it bothers him..!!!

I just try to keep in shape (hard with the meds, I feel like i'm swelling up) and look good for myself.

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 341

Hi ya Diva, I found your info very helpful, thanks, I just assumed men wanted sex all the time,

hehe..bit sexist!! but you see it all around us, probably half the people on my street dont have sex all the time..just the ones with the babies!!! I never thought that it could be that it could be a myth.:)

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 2101

Hiya,

In my relationship I am the one who has trouble with physical intimacy and I have found that communication though really is the key here. We talk alot about things so I can reassure him that it is me and not him. You know, that this really comes from my issues. Of curse I am a cuddler and all, I am mostly talking about well let's just be candid, sex.

I must add tho, that a friend who is very close to me has admitted to me that her husband just isn't having sex with her. And at first she was really freaked out. Then she did some reading and realize that the whole idea that all men want sex is a myth. Some men just don't have much sex dirve the same as some women don't either. It really had nothing to do with how beautifuk or sexy she was, he just didn't want any sex period. They talked and from what I gather it helped. I don't have that many details tho since well I try not to be nosy. Lol.

Anyway, I would tend to think that discussin things openly would be a good first step.

Sorry I could not be more helpful.

-Diva

16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1288

Hi Minnesota, Have you tried being open with your husband about the way you feel? Have you told him that intimicy is important to you. He may not be aware of the way you feel. Sylvie, Bilingual Health Educator

16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 341

He's very cuddly as he is chubby, he does hug

and we are silly with each other. I suppose

thats the most important thing:)??

16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 778

Hi there Minnesota , Im glad you are able to talk about things with us . It does help alot to get things off your chest .

Now then , um im kinder like your better half . My husband is the hugger ! Saying that since ive got the anxiety im grabbing the hugs lol .

Has he always been like this Minnesota or is it just recently ?

( i know why im not a huggy person , something bad happened to me as a child ) .

16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 341

Hi everyone,

I"m not one to talk about intimacy and all with the hubby, but I find in here I can pretty much say anything

and everyone is supportive. I've been married 5 years now, and my hubby, who I love very much, doesnt like

getting intimate. When we watch tv I try to cuddle. He says he is tired, or uncomfortable, or too hot or too cold.

I just want to cuddle, i'm not asking for a roll in the hay!!!! We havent had sex in quite a while. When we go to bed

he says "the bed is for sleeping' and he is snoring in a second. With the meds I know the drive is not as much

and it takes a bit longer for everything to happen, but kissing and cuddling is still important to me.

I keep asking him, if i'm not attractive to him anymore, and he says of course I am attractive, and all that.

I get anxious and think maybe i'm getting old and i'm not appealing anymore. I just turned 45 and he is 35 ( go me)

I have a good figure, ( i think) ...well now that i've embarrased myself..:) any ideas?

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