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17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 4

we are all going to be seeking some counselling as soon as we can get some avail appointments.. living in a small town it may take a while... this is going to affect everyone in our community for the rest of our lives, its dealing with it and moving on that will be the hard part... Thanks for all the support everyone its been a big stress relief to be able to come here and read all the heartfelt comments

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 8760

Mugs193, That is a terrible incident to witness! Please do seek extra assistance if you feel it may be helpful to you. You may also benefit from journalling, talking to a friend, distracting yourself from your thoughts, doing something for the family such as bringing them a dinner and keeping the lines of communication open between yourself and your children. Your children may have questions in the day to come or they may just need to verbalize how they are feeling. Keep us posted on how you're doing and let us know if we can help. Danielle _______________________ The DC Support Team

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 183

Oh mugs, I can't even begin to imagine the shock and horror you must be feeling! The only suggestion that I can think to offer you is to compartmentalize. If you can, take all of your thoughts and concerns about your relationship and your worthiness to exist and put them aside to think about later. They aren't going to go anywhere (unfortunately). And the girl's family will get help and support, don't worry about that. You may find yourself being involved with the family, since you witnessed the accident, but they will be getting lots of other support as well. Focus your energy on getting yourself and the kids through this tragic experience. Sending you strength and compassion...

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 4

well on top of all my other issues, I was outside helping fix the car today and a 10 yr old girl was riding her bike down the hill in front of my house and she got hit by a car... it was so horrifying and I cant get that image and the sound out of my head... What makes this worse is just 20 mins before that Tony yelled at the kids to stop after getting off their school bus because they almost ran out on the road. I keep thinking that could have been them.. she was gone instantly so thank god she didnt have to go through all that pain but still she was only 10 and its just not right.. We think that she was one of Jess's friends and the kids both saw it so they will be going to see a psyc before they go back to school and I think I am too. I am a natrully paraniod person and I think if I dont talk with a proessional it will just drive me insane.. I can just imagine how torn the family is right now and I pray that they can get the supports they need too :(

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 4

thanks everyone! Ive sat down with him and told him that right now I need him to be more supportive and make an effort to make me feel better. I also told him that I love him but Im not happy with him right now and that things need to change for this relationship to continue. I am so worried that if we continue to have an unhappy relationship that things will end badly for us. Anyways he seemed to have listened and is a little better but Im not getting my hopes up yet. Sarah

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3043

Hi mugs193, Lots of great support from your fellow members here! Just wondering how you are doing? Check in when you can, hope all is well! Casey ___________________________________ The Depression Center Support Team

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11

Hi Mugs, Sorry to hear you're having such a rough time with your husband. Keep working the program though. I had similar problems with my husband and theres lots in the program that talks about relationships. It'll take some time to mend things, there's no doubt but it's getting better on my end and I hope it will for you too. Freebird

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 183

Hi mugs After years of putting my (now ex)husband's needs, feelings and happiness before mine for reasons that always seemed valid at the time, I vowed to myself that I would start and live my next relationship "as I meant to continue it". Giving love and support and not receiving much of it back isn't sustainable -- you burn out. That's not to say that there aren't times when one person will need to give more to help the other through a tough time, but that sensitivity should be acknowledged and appreciated. You're not worthless, and don't ever give in to pressure to believe that you are. That your boyfriend chose to marry and have children with a woman who wasn't right for him and they now have to suffer the aftermath is sad but does not in any way mean that he deserves love and support more than you do. That you give him this anyway should be a fact that he cherishes. Welcome. I don't know that this site will give you any answers, but I think that it will help you to clarify what you already know within yourself. Value your feelings and trust yourself.

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 12049

Mugs, Yes you are worth it! Thanks for sharing with us and welcome. Prepare to do something about your progress :) Our program is useful and easy to follow. This can help you progress and help you also understand what you are going through. Take the time to read through and take the Depression Test. Give a copy to your doctor to help pinpoint areas that you would like to work on and let us know if we can assist you. We are always here and know what you are going through. Please take it one step at a time :) Josie ____________________________________ The Depression Center Support Team.

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 6

Hi Mugs, I dont really know your situation as I've never been in anything like that but please dont give up. I hope you find the answers you are looking for and I hope you find that someone who makes you incredibly happy and makes you feel like you are worth everything, because you are. Good luck with your depression, I hope this site helps you.

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