Hi,
There's been lots of times in my life with my wondeful hubby when he's threw his hands up in the air and said
" Juanita, I just don't know what I can do for you...tell me what I can do to help "
Of course, my usual replies were"I don't know, I don't even know how to help myself" So how could I fault him when I wasn't even sure of how I could help myself.
Until last year, when I came to this program..when I learnt how I could help myself, he was right there with me, encouraging me to do the work, staying beside me when I asked, and going away when I asked.
I think I used to expect him to read my mind, and when he didn't I was hurt. I now realize that I must vocalise my needs, and its a good thing to do.
I remember years ago, when I was in panic, he would offer his help. In my ignorance of how to deal with my nerves, I'd say "Get me a cup of tea"...more to keep him from hovering over me, because we both knew we didnt know how to help me.
Don't get me wrong, there's also been lots of times when he would get frustrated with me, especially of my fear of seeing doctors.
Anyhow, he's made lots of tea over the years, ha ha
Thats the really great thing about this site...we all know what its like.
Juanita