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17 years ago 0 123 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hey Guys, Thanks for the advice... I really didn't want to be blunt with him cause I didn't want to hurt his feelings... In the end I figured I would have to... We had a long talk last night and we have come to some arrangements.. LOL He's not ready to quit smoking yet and I respect that.... So he has to make some changes to how he smells after he smokes them... You know what he said when I told him?? "Oh and I thought you didn't love me any more..." silly boy that he is... Krissie [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/28/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 7 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 143 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �30.38 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 0 [B]Hrs:[/B] 12 [B]Mins:[/B] 32 [B]Seconds:[/B] 30
17 years ago 0 457 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
It's going to take some time, I think. Last time i quit, my ex was a smoker.. but, i can't even realy say because i hated the way he smelled anyhow. There are some things that Brett can do if he wants to help this along some. This is a toughie, because you are the one that changed, not him. But, you did change for the better, and I kind of am feeling that if he wants to continue his relationship with you and not get his feelings hurt, then he's going to have to take some steps to keep up with the new you. 1) He can have a "smoking shirt". This is going to be a pain in his rear at first, but he'll grow used to it. He just neads to ahve a large button up shirt to slip on over his regular cloths for when he heads out to smoke. 2) He can use gum and mints for his breath after he smokes. 3) When he goes outside to smoke, he could make sure he isn't underneath anything and is out in the open air. This will help the smell of his hair and body in general. 4) He neads to wash his hands after he smokes. 5) He could consider a nice quit so that you two can move foreward together. ;) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/17/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 17 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 972 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $221 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 1 [B]Hrs:[/B] 11 [B]Mins:[/B] 43 [B]Seconds:[/B] 28
17 years ago 0 3131 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
AmethysIsis, my partner doesn't smoke so I asked him how he felt about it, he says it's different for a guy so I still can't help you, but I feel for you. Keep up fighting the good fight one day at a time :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 6/13/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 50 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 764 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $200 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 6 [B]Hrs:[/B] 17 [B]Mins:[/B] 18 [B]Seconds:[/B] 6
17 years ago 0 2838 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
BF sounds like she has been in this delimma before: [quote] consider starting the foreplay off in the shower ... then let it lead to the bedroom. [/quote] ;) I agree with the honest approach---tell him exactly what you told us. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/23/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 72 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 3,635 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $576 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 7 [B]Hrs:[/B] 11 [B]Mins:[/B] 34 [B]Seconds:[/B] 31
17 years ago 0 3368 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Sit down and have an honest talk with him. It is pretty much common knowledge that after you quit smoking your taste and smell is heightened. Explain that to him. Then consider starting the foreplay off in the shower ... then let it lead to the bedroom. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/12/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 82 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,488 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $328 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 6 [B]Hrs:[/B] 23 [B]Mins:[/B] 25 [B]Seconds:[/B] 49
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17 years ago 0 3368 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Glad you guys talked and figured something out. Most times all it takes is loving communication. I'm happy for you. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/12/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 84 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,535 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $336 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 7 [B]Hrs:[/B] 2 [B]Mins:[/B] 40 [B]Seconds:[/B] 5
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17 years ago 0 8760 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Members with smoking spouses, We received the following post from amethyst_isis about her smoking partner, she's asking about the smell of smoke: " I agree... It stinks.. I never realised it before.. The only problem I am having is that I don't want to be intimate with my partner because the smell of stale smoke on him makes me want to gag.... I think he's taking some offence at this, we are usually a very affectionate couple, hugging and kissing all the time, but I just can't force myself to do it at the moment.. What to do?? Krissie " Do any members with smoking spouses have any advice for our member? Thank you in advance. Danielle _________________________ The SSC Support Team
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Amethyst_isis, Glad to hear you've been able to find some middle ground. Members, Thank you for all your quick replies! Danielle _________________________ The SSC Support Team

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