I have 'always' in the past been impulsive, whether it is writing something or saying something.
After the last time for each of those, I have finally slowed down.
My husband, who has the patience of a saint has the ability to wait before responding. He has been my role
model and teacher by helping me.
I don't know if this is a man thing or not - he writes from logic, whereas, and perhaps this is a woman thing - I write from emotion. In our business, we can get phone calls or letters, some of which are pact with an emotional bang. After he writes his logic response I put in a couple of emotional words so the person will 'get it'. And vise versa, I will have him edit my letters or responses to write it with less emotion and more logic. And it works every time.
I was always told that expression about - you can catch more bees with honey ....(cant remember it - I'm sure someone knows what it is).
Now that all my meds have kicked in it has helped me to be more 'passive' by using assertiveness instead of aggression.
I used to tell everyone that it's because I'm from NY (I live in southern UT now) aggression is in my blood.
We made a joke out of it - and when we needed to be aggressive - my husband would say - pull a NY on them.
Now he says after hearing me respond to someone - that he would have been more strong.
When I'm about to make a call - he reminds me to be gentle, although it's been quite awhile since I shot arrows at anyone.
I think I only did it once recently because I taste tested something that had chocolate in it.
Anyway, nice to read in your post that you wait. It's another person confirming what I am learning. Thank you.
Andie
