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Hey Windy, It is frustrating that these triggers just hold on and hold on...damn them! When I am having a social drink, I chew on the short stir straws. I do feel a little uncomfortable at times because I know that I have prohibited myself from smoking, but, just remember; all those people around you that HAVE to smoke when they drink....they wish that they were you. They wish that they could enjoy a drink with friends and NOT smoke. I think in this situation that only time will be the healer. new me [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]5/26/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 235 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 5,640 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1,175.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 32 [B]Hrs:[/B] 17 [B]Mins:[/B] 43 [B]Seconds:[/B] 15
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This was a great post for me to read. Thanks Danielle. Sometimes it is easy to forget how much progress we make. At the beginning it seemed so hard to do EVERYTHING without smoking. I forgot about how much time I spent planning for social events, long drives, airplane rides, etc in order to feed my addiction. As I posted in another section, I recently went on a vacation at a resort where EVERYBODY was smoking EVERYWHERE so....all of a sudden I have to pull out the coping mechanisms. Most of the triggers are pretty weak now. However, socializing and alcohol seem to be a big issue for me (especially if I am surrounded by smokers) Usually when drinking the urge to smoke gets stronger and stronger and eventually I go to bed rather than give in to the urge to smoke. However, I am resenting the fact that I cannot enjoy socializing in the same way that I did (I don't want to go to bed early but I haven't learned another coping mechanism yet) I have always enjoyed having drinks with friends and I don't want to stop doing this. (I also saw myself in this post because I started smoking in high school when I was very shy and smoking became a crutch in social situations....Thus I have never really socialized as a non-smoker for over 25 years...) I would really like to know what behaviours people have changed. I know that I have substituted exercise for alot of my previous behaviours (Depressed, anxious, stressed - go work out!) I have rewarded myself for hard work or rough days by doing something nice for myself BUT I still have some learning to do.... Hope there are lots of new ideas....I'm still listening.. Windy [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]9/11/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 491 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 9,820 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $2,455.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 47 [B]Hrs:[/B] 20 [B]Mins:[/B] 45 [B]Seconds:[/B] 18
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The biggest change for me has been the ability to talk myself though the consequences of smoking, ie, one puff leads to one cigarette leads to a pack which leads to another failed attempt. I also ask myself do you really want to smell again? Do you want a life standing outside puffing away while others are inside and enjoying themselves. And more importantly I ask myself if I am willing to go though all of this again, meaning the withdrawals and all of the other stuff that goes with it. So for me today smoking is not an option. Keep the Quit Sparky [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]4/30/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 260 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,600 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $390.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 36 [B]Hrs:[/B] 21 [B]Mins:[/B] 18 [B]Seconds:[/B] 53
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It's funny isn't it. 9 times out of 10 that I think of cigarettes now it's more of a knee jerk reaction than an actual desire. At this point even when I do crave I find I don't even really want them. Of course, sometimes I have to remind myself of that because at that point I may truly think I do. :confuse: Occassionally, especially if I'm upset about something, I still have to talk myself through it. Do I really want one? Will that really make me feel better? Then what? Back to "hell week"? No, thank you!! [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]12/11/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 35 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,400 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $315.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 2 [B]Hrs:[/B] 23 [B]Mins:[/B] 10 [B]Seconds:[/B] 15
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LOL, LLP, I can't tell you how many times in the past 53 smoke free days I've had that I've reached for that pack of cigarettes and lighter. Of course, they're not there but that's how conditioned I was and had the same reaction that you did - oh, yeah, I don't smoke any more.
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For me there's been times that even triggers I've though I've long conquered (like after eating) creep into my thoughts out of nowhere. They don't advance into real cravings, granted, just briefly cross my mind. I have to tell myself, "Oh, yeah... I don't smoke." I know it sounds silly, but it just goes to show how deeply those associations are ingrained into my psyche after nearly 20 years of smoking. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]12/11/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 34 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,360 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $306.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 2 [B]Hrs:[/B] 20 [B]Mins:[/B] 45 [B]Seconds:[/B] 52
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Thinking sure does make a lot of things so...The greatest mistake to be made when quitting is to think that it is simply a matter of not doing something (smoking)...That myth becomes exposed when first we run up against a set of circumstances that, during our smoking days would make us run for a smoke. I think that is when most people realize the depth of the addiction. Thats when the work begins and one must begin to figure out why they engage in the activity. The why of it is the most interesting to me and searching through the hall closet of my own life has produced a great many answers and in some cases half answers to the question. The reality is that we all smoke for a reason or a set of reasons. I have yet to meet anyone who considers themselves a cigarette expert, as some one might be when speaking of wine...No one ever says oh yes I much prefer the aged mellowness of a 1965 Marlboro over the rather obvious flavor of a 75 Winston...No we smoke not because we love cigarettes, but simply because we are addicted. And there are reasons for the addiction. A great deal of the journey here is to understand those reasons and once understood begin to change... nonic [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]12/25/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 384 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 11,520 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $4,032.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 71 [B]Hrs:[/B] 15 [B]Mins:[/B] 24 [B]Seconds:[/B] 16
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16 years ago 0 130 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
When I started to think about quitting smoking, I took note of my triggers for smoking. Answer the phone or make a phone call, light a cigarette. Have a decision to make, light a cigarette. Get on my computer for anything, light a cigarette. Before meals, after meals, getting dressed. Seems like everything I did had smoking connected to it. One night, while on my computer, I saw that the ashtray was full. I was shocked. I counted the butts, totalled up the cost of what, essentially, had gone up in smoke - as I lit a cigarette, put it down, it burned out, so I lit another. Nothing like a visual aid to knock some sense into me. That's when I asked my doctor for a prescription for Chantix. Took me a bit of time to decide to really do it, after all, I was a long time, hardcore smoker. But I bit the bullet and started the pre-week dosage the week before Thanksgiving. I'm not saying that changing my behavior has been easy, but in a way it has because I analyzed everything I did that caused me to smoke. It's been hard at times and I've been tempted. But this is the first time in a very long time I decided to quit - didn't make it the last and only time I tried. I guess I really didn't want to nor have I wanted to until I saw that ashtray full of butts. That was, as silly as it seems, my motivation.
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BC, Quite right! Many make this realization post-quit. Smoking is often coupled with so many actions, behaviors and emotional patterns it can be overwhelming at times. Baby steps is the way to go. If you pay close attention, everyday you are winning little victories. On day one, your cup of coffee might have seemed like a huge hurdle to overcome. Slowly but surely at day 30 it has just become a regular cup of coffee again. Emotional triggers and patterns are a little more drawn out and take a little more time to even out but again the process is the same. * Recognize & acknowledge the pattern or trigger * Change the reaction or meaning you attach to the pattern or trigger which depending on what it is may or may not involve healing old feelings, making peace with the past or other. Not easy so take your time and don't hesitate to ask for help. You've got a huge resource at your fingertips! Chances are at least one member or moderator has heard of or experienced or worked with a client that has been through it too! * Practice, practice, practice! The result? New coping strategy for the pattern or trigger! Danielle, Bilingual Health Educator
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Tom, An excellent example! Thanks for sharing! Danielle, Bilingual Health Educator

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