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BFS, Taking back control over our lives in all encompassing. Whether it be the action of physically smoking or the thought process, control of your life is the total package. I don't know how you control one aspect and not another. When breaking an addiction one must have the proper mindset, then everything flows from that. My post was designed to get people on the fence to start to think in the larger perspective. Quitting is a life altering event that begins and ends with a person being in total control of their life. So often times I read posts here where people are blaming outside influences on whether they quit or not.. you know.. family issues, health issues, work issues... you name it. They miss the point that they alone control whether they quit or not. All of life will be there for the rest of their lives. Living life and deciding to take back control of your life are independent of each other. Excuses are excuses are excuses. Deciding once and for all that you will control that which you really do have control over, ie, your addiction to nicotine, is the primary step to quitting. [b][color=Purple]Be Strong. Be Smart. Be Quit[/color] [color=black]Joe[/color] [size=3][color=Blue]Knowledge Replaces Fear[/color][/size] [size=2][color=black]Illegitimus non carborundum est[/color][/size] [size=2][color=purple]Hoping for success without hard work is like trying to harvest without planting.[/color][/size][/b] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]5/15/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 792 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 19,800 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1,940.40 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 142 [B]Hrs:[/B] 5 [B]Mins:[/B] 14 [B]Seconds:[/B] 28
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:) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]7/1/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 744 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 14,880 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $2,604.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 67 [B]Hrs:[/B] 5 [B]Mins:[/B] 26 [B]Seconds:[/B] 45
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Joe, "take back your life" is certainly the greatest reward that quitting offers us. The ability, so long lost to us, to live life as free men and women, rather than slaves. Thanks for reaffirming that! Wonderful post! [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]3/6/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 131 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 3,275 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1,211.75 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 21 [B]Hrs:[/B] 2 [B]Mins:[/B] 46 [B]Seconds:[/B] 32
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Another great post from a great quitter! Thanks for sharing! Danielle, Bilingual Support Specialist
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Joe, Good post. But I believe that after we quit, the goal changes. Yes, the first step of quitting smoking is regaining control over our [b]actions[/b] by not smoking, but after that, we have to learn to regain control over our [b]thoughts[/b] which often takes a lot more time. In the beginning, we're thinking about smoking constantly. After a while, many people STILL think about smoking, some thinking about it fondly, but since they're not doing it, they think that they're doing OK. And I guess they are to an extent... not smoking is better than smoking, so they are doing that part right. But the true freedom from smoking is not just in breaking the addiction, but rather in not ever thinking about smoking, or thinking about it very rarely. There comes a time in every person's quit where they have to become smoke thought free as well. For those who have already quit and are in the first few months of their quits, I believe that this is the new goal. For some, this is even harder than initially breaking the addiction. But I don't believe that as ex-smokers, we can experience true freedom while we are still thinking about smoking all the time. So like many things in life, once we reach one goal, the goal changes and we suddenly have another goal to reach. I guess as humans, without goals, we don't feel compelled to change what we're doing. And as I said in another post, change is good! Thanks for this great thought provoking post Joe! :) Crave the Quit! [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]6/17/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 758 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 18,950 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $3,130.54 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 53 [B]Hrs:[/B] 11 [B]Mins:[/B] 16 [B]Seconds:[/B] 13
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Joe, great post! Control instead of being controlled. So important and often overlooked. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]7/12/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 3 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 75 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �12.60 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 0 [B]Hrs:[/B] 10 [B]Mins:[/B] 12 [B]Seconds:[/B] 54
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Joe, Thanks for the inspiration this morning! And yes, I'm taking back control of my life. I really like that! Debbie [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]7/11/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 4 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 80 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $15.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 0 [B]Hrs:[/B] 10 [B]Mins:[/B] 12 [B]Seconds:[/B] 20
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I loved reading this post, it is true, Hey its good to see you here golferman :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]8/8/2002 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 1802 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 36,040 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $6,307.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 254 [B]Hrs:[/B] 0 [B]Mins:[/B] 42 [B]Seconds:[/B] 0
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16 years ago 0 563 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
What is your goal when you quit smoking? Easy question, huh? Not so fast. The simple answer is that we quit smoking!! Duh!! But what does it really mean to quit smoking? Do we quit for our health? Do we quit due to family/social pressure? Do we quit to prove something to ourselves? What is our goal? Everything we do in life is done to achieve a goal, some goal, any goal. I believe the true goal of someone who breaks an addiction is control of their life. Think about it. When you left the womb, you gained control. You breathed for yourself, you gained nourishment for yourself, you lived independent from your �host body�. That was your first taste of being in control of your life. True, it took a bit before you could feed yourself, but all in all, you were now an independent person in control of a certain number of things that resulted in your being alive. So when did we lose control? The first time we puffed a cigarette. At that moment in time, nicotine entered our bodies and took up residence in our brains, ensuring that we could not function without it. Or so it thought. And it has succeeded for a good amount of time in most of us. We became dependent on a chemical. We wanted our �fix�. When we didn�t get it we got downright ugly. Enter: The Goal. Somewhere in the life of a smoker, the thought comes to us that we need to quit smoking. Most of the time this thought first occurs with our first nasty cold or bronchitis. Many people actually make a feeble attempt at a quit at this moment. However, once we can breathe so-so, we are right back to getting our �fix�. But then time passes.. breathing may get more of a chore. We may develop COPD, or just be winded all the time. Somewhere along the line the light bulb comes on. The Goal becomes real. We want control back in our lives. We don�t want to be a slave to a chemical. This is the moment that the true quit comes about. We want our life back. We want our health back, or at least, we don�t want to feel any worse. �Any worse�. Sad, isn�t it? So many wait until they have permanently destroyed their health before they see The Goal. Look around you. You see family and friends enslaved by nicotine. On another quit site that I�m a member of, a new lady joined a couple of weeks ago. Her sister, who lives next door to her, has ridden her tail about her quitting. This is an excerpt from a post from her.. [color=blue]My sister, who happens to be living right next door also smokes like a train first thing in the morning. So as you can imagine, I am avoiding her like the plague, but I already told her I would yesterday .....she doesn't want to quit, and told me straight yesterday she would die a smoker and she had not a problem one with it....and I replied with ... yup denial is a great thing when it's still working, I told her wait till she can't breathe anymore like me.......and you know what she said, "Oh you're not that bad " and my jaw bout hit the floor..... I mean without dramatizing it here, I sound like someone twice my age, ya know what I mean, whizzing and puffing just to walk.....OMG....I said to her how bad does one have to get before you'd support them and encourage them to quit....IN THE COFFIN?"[/color] Here we have the perfect example of someone who has found the true goal, and someone who is lost, and most likely will die a premature death. Quite an extreme. This one passage points out, quite poignantly, how smoking destroys lives. The woman who so desperately is quitting is only 37. Hopefully not too late. Lesson? Quit for your life. Quit to take back the control you gave over to a worthless weed, hell bent on killing all who fall victim to its allure. Find The Goal. Find The Truth. Listen only to your true heart. Take back your life. [b][color=Purple]Be Strong. Be Smart. Be Quit[/color] [color=black]Joe[/color] [size=3][color=Blue]Knowledge Replaces Fear[/color][/size] [size=2][color=purple]Hoping for success without hard work is like trying to harvest without planting.[/color][/size] [size=2][color=black]Illegitimus non carborundum est[/color][/size][/b] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]5/15/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 790 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 19,750 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1,935.50 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 141 [B]Hrs:[/B] 22 [B]Mins:[/B] 59 [B]Seconds:[/B] 50
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