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14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 30

Where do I begin?

Hi there,

Where do I start? Lots of great reading though..I panic when the house is untidy or if thinks dont go according to plan..no surprises ever...i crawl into bed and wait these feeling out!

Thanks,

Whitey

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 30

Where do I begin?

Wow thanks for the quick reply!

I feel sweating and my head pounds and any little noise will throw me off! My heart races, so I lay in bed still until it goes away... I don't like disorder or things not in the right place..i like doing dishes! I have to wait it out..I don't know where this comes from?

Whitey

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 30

Where do I begin?

lovine,

Thanks for your reply and help! i have pinpointed an area I don't know if it makes sense but my parents had 4 kids and there was stuff everywhere..we were clean and always cleaned up ..but we always had clutter and tons of things everywhere (3 girls and a boy!)

I think I have narrowed it down to being anxious of overcrowding and being bombarded with too much in the house like when i was little.....

I look around and I just want to purge the house ..it is overwhelming and it takes a while to go away.

I have started making lists of everyday things i can do and I am working on being able to walk in the house without getting that overwhelming feeling of anxiety and throwing up...

Gosh is this normal......

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 30

Where do I begin?

Back again!

I am able to walk in the house and not think of all the things that need to be done! That exposure stuff really helped! My friend suggested writing down items that needed immediate attention when i came home and I could add some sort of chore at the end...it was hard to leave the list especially if it wasn't done..but its just a list and not engraved in stone.... so I would get what i needed to done and i would scrap the list and begin fresh the next day!

The rest of the house and the so called purging is still a haunting issue..and I panic at least once every two weeks about it..especially when I know i have some time off. I am getting better though and have made a plan to do one room at a time..now I just have to have the time and be able to walk into that room without getting nausea...

work in progress.....

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 30

Where do I begin?

lovine,

Thanks for your support it really means a lot that someone is listening!

The nausea has subsided! My honey was home and really helped me..we took the first week to go through each room and make comments on what need to be done...we talked at length on what was feasible and what would not get done now or maybe never!

Talking about it really helped and last week we did purge some rooms and it lessened the panic somewhat! The kids rooms are done and part of the basement...I had two panic attacks when we went shopping for a new shelf because I found all my wife's old photo albums..the panic attacks surfaced when we went to every single store in the city to search for a little shelf...my body couldn't handle it and upon the 8th store I had had enough and started panicking!

took me home and thought I was sick.. it took a nap and a couple of hours to explain I cant do this with her! she can make the decision and told her how I was feeling..it really help to talk and have someone to listen too.

Half the house is done and I will tackle something else with help..I think i can take on the smaller rooms..i actually brought in the recycling and looked at my e-mails in my office...that was step one, I waited a day and then cleaned a drawer....I cant do it all at once either as i come across other problems..you know what to do with the room once you have cleaned it..do you paint, re-arrange etc etc...later down the road maybe...

I am sorry I know this isn't major for most..but like i said before I lived in lots of clutter and to see it makes me nauseated and i am trying to control it..

thanks for your support

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 30

Where do I begin?

Progress is slow..as a matter of fact is halted!

I was on such a good path and now that the summer is over and my new job starts I am afraid that i will not have the time to get everything done and my panic will once again increase...i can somewhat deal with rooms needing to be taken care of..but every week i get that feeling that rises in me and i cant get rid of it..i actually just go to bed so that it calms down..the kids think it so hilarious that i go to bed before them....

Really trying to stay calm.....

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 30

Where do I begin?

Update,

Can't shake the panic about the house, but i have to concentrate on my new job and how to make sure i make a good impression..i am usually very proud of the way i work , but i cannot shake the new feeling of not wanting to come home??

it increase my panic and yes i know why cause i know what lies in wait for me ..i have to shut my brain off to this..there are so many more important issues to worry about!

???

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 30

Where do I begin?

Thank you Josie.

The wife came up with a good idea, a garage sale and we all get to keep what we make. We planned a date in a month and a half..and my wife planned one day each week to purge and that means all of us..it feels better to know there is and end goal and that we are all working our way up to it...i guess this is the exposure everyone is talking about!

Thanks,

Whitey

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 30

Where do I begin?

Ok,

Slowly but surely we are emptying out the house..with all the sports activities going on..the garage sale didn't pan out...I have regressed and am not going downstairs..because I fully panicked last week about it. My wife is keeping out of the house as much as possible and giving small tasks to do...she is such a help and support for me...One day at a time..i know..i know!

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 30

Where do I begin?

Good news!

Wife says weekends off! She says that if we little by little every nite then we will chip away at everything..but week-ends off..She wants to be able to spend time with the family..how did i get so lucky!

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