I had stopped drinking for two months last year and decided that I had things in hand and would moderate: 1 drink three times a week. It worked for the first little while but now I am right back where I was. I feel like a failure and worried that I won't be able to quit for good. any help or encouragement would be most appreciated.
Thanks for the welcome and wise words. I am on a better footing today and I have resolved to quit drinking completely as the only option for me. Moderation did not work for me. I am done with the feeling of setting out with good intentions to moderate, then not being successful and then beating myself up about it: a vicious cycle. A strong decision to quit completely is what I have done for my own health, self esteem and for my happiness and my family's as well.
Welcome Sprout! We have started out at the same time so hope we can share our feelings and challenges as we go. Feeling clear headed is great isn't it? How will you manage your pay day challenges? Stay strong!
I am reconnecting here after a time away. I had quit drinking several summers ago and have tried to moderate after that. This has simply not worked for me. My family members have all voiced their concern about my drinking. The "no more than one glass of wine a day" is not possible for me. My plan is to taper off and quit in the next few weeks. It is a decision that I can no longer put off or ignore. I am looking for some support as I found this website so very helpful the last time I quit. Also wondering if you have any recommendations for books to read as I begin this challenge?
Congratulations Gus on your three weeks alcohol free! Your success is an inspiration for me. Also, I much appreciate your recommendations for tools that you have found helpful, this is just what I need. Thanks and continued success!
I am tracking my drinking through the diary and trying to track feelings and the situations as well. I am reading The book by Allan Carr and will look up your recommendations too. I find the reading does help me. Thanks so much!
Thanks for the support Ashley. Today is day one of abstinence for me. Last night proved to me once and for all that moderation does not work for me. Gus, I read the book by Allan Carr and found it very helpful to look at alcohol in a new way. How are things going for you? This book helped me see the positives of quitting drinking awaiting me.
I know that I can do this and quit as I have done it before. Perhaps this time I am a little wiser and now know that I can not moderate so it is quit completely and for good. My husband is on board as a support and after a talk this morning we were both clear that this is necessary for my well being. I know that this first week is hard and am up for it. Any suggestions that have worked for your first few weeks anyone? It would be much appreciated!
Welcome Volare and so glad to have someone to share with as we go through this journey together. Alcohol does have the effect of making one feel ashamed and that is the worst feeling. I look forward to attending social functions and feeling good the next morning. All the best for your first day.
Volare- How did your first day go? I found Allan Carr's book helpful too. I have been looking at blogs online to see what others have gone through and their successes and found this helpful. If you google "best alcoholism websites" you'll find lots. I am working on "Mrs. D. Is Doing Without" and finding it great! You can do this!
Gus- Thanks for your inspiration! Five weeks without alcohol is wonderful! I like the idea of focussing on what is gained by quitting. I have to go to a social event this Saturday for my husband's work and although would really rather not go, I do need to for him. I am worried and feeling fear for going through this event alcohol free. Any help is most welcomed!
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