Ashley... i lose confidence because when I make plans for myself I inevitably smash up against a wall of resistance and it just seems like a good indicator that, once again, i'm heading in the wrong direction. The more I believe in the direction I choose... the harder I hit and the further I fall. I am never prepared for it. I don't expect it. I like my rose colored glasses, but I guess it leaves me blind to the pitfalls and then i step in it again and again and again and again and again. If someone else tells me to take this or that path (gives me permission) then I trust that direction more... it's usually safer. Or at least if it turns out to be wrong, then it doesn't feel so very devastating. more like.... Oh well... that's ok. It was just a suggestion. rather than a hardly held belief in myself and my abilities.