EvolutionHealth.care

Home
Main Forum
Anxiety
Health Educator´s Corner
Specific Problems in Communication IV

Advanced Search Form

Specific Problems in Communication IV

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 517

I tend to assume that others can read me and because they can read me, clarifing things would be insulting if they already got it figured out. But lately I learned that this is not the case... but it's still hard for me to be assertive. Maybe with time I'll get used to it after much experiences.

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 4027

Ashley,

Mind reading is like taking a mental drive and getting lost. Getting lost means there wasn't any connection.

I wish i could live more fully in the present. caregiving teaches me that,as much as it drains other resources.

A saying I used to see often was "don't believe what you think". It's hard not to use your mind, since life can be richer on other levels. An example would be that today, I listened to a youtube music video which I like called "Daddy Cool". This could be a waste of time to many, but brought me much joy. On a mental level, there wasn't much "gain", but I rarely tap my inner childs needs to fulfil them.

There wasn't a connection, until I had a family visit, but the music can give me a rich visceral injection which can't also be had from meeting people.

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11213

When have you used these problematic ways of communicating?

Mind Reading

Mind reading is what happens when you assume that you know what another person is thinking and feeling. Mind reading is often a problem in long-term relationships because after we get to know another person really well, we can start to fool ourselves into thinking that we know what they’re thinking and how they’re feeling. Mind reading can become a big problem because when you mind read you’re assuming that you know what another person is feeling and thinking when you do not. As you can imagine, this can be a big problem in depression because depressed people tend to see the worst in situations and assume the worst from others.

When people feel that their needs are not being met in a relationship, they start to assume that the other person is only looking after their own needs and is generally unhappy in the relationship. If you’re mind reading in this way it makes it hard to see any communication as being positive because you can always imagine that the other person is only trying to get what they want (try a Thought Record on that one!). Mind reading is usually a mistake. An important part of being assertive is being able to ask for clarification and feedback about what other people are thinking and feeling, as well as what they want and need.

When in doubt about what somebody is thinking or feeling, ask! Mind reading is bad for your health!

Ashley, Health Educator

Here to help :)

Reading this thread:

today's top discussions:

This Month’s Leaders:

Most Supportive

Most Active

Most Loved

Specific Problems in Communication IV