Hi H: I remember being a young mother (note the adjective, young) pushing strollers around. It was fun, I loved being a mom. I say note the adjective because it takes a lot of energy to take care of little ones. Taking care of grandchildren (preschool ones) is tiring and the next day I usually needed a little rest. So you are older now than the young mothers and you are taking care of someone - it must be tiring at times.
I took care of my mom at my home when she was about 86 or so for a short period of time while we were waiting for a place in a nursing home. She had done very well in a seniors' residence before that but was now needing more help getting dressed and taking care of herself. It was emotionally and physically hard work! So I do admire your love and dedication, and man, does it take patience. Even when they are in a good nursing home, it is still emotional as you watch the aging process and declining health.
It's good that you know you have needs too and plan to fulfill them with activities inside or outside the home.
The cherry pie turned out well, the pork roast with pineapple is in the oven and the bottle of wine will be opened soon. I gave up alcohol for lent, looking forward to a nice glass or two.
With a yoga class which will be cancelled, I have some alternatives.
One is a gardening course. Courses aren't really interactive, but I have to admit it's partly me, and being open. It's a starting point.
Another side of it is the reality of trying to figure out how a household runs, and figuring out the patterns, without becoming mentally exhausted. All this has to occur in the context of caregiving, which is increasing as mom(and I!) age.
On the outside, caregiving looks easy, if you look at a mom pushing a stroller on a nice day. But without parenting, I've been reminded of the other side of the fence, which include sleepless nights, the marathon of "home economics"(where's the course for men?) and puke and spitups on the parents, without even mentioning the financial strains
I'm doing "what has to be done" but forgetting my needs again
My mind goes a lot faster than my body can respond. I'm not ashamed to say that I feel lonely, but that's usually fulfilled with the activities which could start shortly and I've running on empty...maybe I need some chocolate, but I've done so well keeping satiated
Hi Hugs: Being new to this community, I'm not socializing as much as I used to do. I miss lunches out with gfs and I guess all the contacts when volunteering. (I don't miss the ex. mtgs. and planning - glad I did it but after 10 yrs. I don"t want to do it anymore). This summer the farmers' market will start again and I'm hoping to be there on Saturdays and meet people and make some new friends. Davit and I might even sell extra veggies and breads, his woodwork too.
Anything around your area similar where you could meet people? I know you've taken some courses and that's a good place too.
We are happy to have you as part of the PC community!
Although you are right, nothing can replace human connection. I read in another one of your posts that you are taking steps to make those personal connections. Good on you for pursuing this and pushing through any hesitancy or uncertainty you may feel.
As you know, members in the PC support group are always here for you. You can have the best of both worlds.
I check back here often, hoping to seek refuge from a world which is often difficult to deal with.
I had a new insight this morning.
This morning I had trouble sleeping. I can talk about all the worries I have, but I don't wish to bother anyone with them this morning, since I can "problem-solve" on my own.
Everybody can find solutions to problems, since we have internet access, and that means we have a portal to the universe. Sometimes I ask questions, but I don't really want "information".
What the internet can't replace is human connection
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and I've running on empty...maybe I need some chocolate, but I've done so well keeping satiated
