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Feels like hell week all over!!

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Smile....and don't shoot the messenger

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Davit,
I'm pretty harsh on myself  too.  I wonder what life would be life or "what if"... I really cared about myself?
 
As for failure, I've tried to see it as  a "detour", but often feel like I'm lying to myself
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I am judged by myself more than anything or anyone. Failures just make the judgement more harsh.

Davit.
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I am not judged by the number of times I fail, but by the number of times I succeed; and the number of times I succeed is in direct proportion to the number of times I can fail and keep on trying.
- Tom Hopkins

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I agree Davit.  We have to participate in our own lives.  Unlike clouds which just pass by, our events can be changed by our thoughts and actions.  It's a good seguay to today's quote to be active from the tool box above.


Dedicate yourself to the good you deserve and desire for yourself. Give yourself peace of mind. You deserve to be happy. You deserve delight.
- Mark Victor Hansen

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There isn't always a silver lining unless you make one. I like those days, it gives me a chance to direct my day instead of being dictated to. Gives me a chance to do absolutely nothing too, if I want to.

Davit.


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There is something good in all seeming failures. You are not to see that now. Time will reveal it. Be patient.
- Sri Swami Sivananda
 
To be able to say "there's a silver lining..." needs a positive outlook on life

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Great things are not done by impulse, but by a series of small things brought together.
- Vincent Van Gogh

Great for those of us who work like little ants at our seemingly insignificant lives
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Others have done it before me. I can, too.
- Corporal John Faunce
 
This is an example of when comparing can be helpful

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Davit,
Ive forgotten them, since I've just been through a tough time while mom was in hospital.  I created a smaller core-belief re-enforcing list, so I could survive that stress.
 
The good news is by forgetting,maybe I'm becoming less obsessivesince I have all these "rules" and "have to 's" nobody knows about in my desparate little world. 
 
I am opening up to the world as I plan to take a couple of interest courses at different schools this fall.  I met someone really nice at summer for a short course, but I froze when I could have asked for her number.  Today it happened again.  I was short at the grocery store for a freebie, and could have grabbed anything, but felt this numbness, this "stupid" slowness that overtakes me.  I'm just never present enough to "follow through", and then choke.
 
I'll be better once I get over this cold, since it's been several weeks, and I probably had some bronchitus, but this summer was rough.  I've made it though, with a little more TLC
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Hugs

How are you doing with your core beliefs? I found that even though I know they are not true, without the help of someone reinforcing the fact, that I easily reverted back to the original thought. In fact at first I thought Sunny was only trying to make me feel good. It has taken a lot of intense self exam to weed out the false from the true. Oh yes there is some true among the false. These too I'm trying to change also if I don't like them. A person should love their self warts and all but it is no reason not to treat the warts. Hard to do at my age. Lots of things are hard to change at my age. But even little successes in this area I find are worth it. 
As a caregiver you are in a special category and may not even realize it.
As a care receiver I realize I can never pay it back and I have to watch that it doesn't affect me too much. I tend to let it annoy me and have found it makes me grumpy. And yes I have had to apologize for taking it out on my helper when things are not going smoothly. I still appreciate all the help I get, just some times I don't show it. Part of this is a core belief that I am useless and I have proved I'm not, but still! 
My other core beliefs I have had mixed success with. But then some of them I have had to ask myself how important are they. Or more so how do they affect how I react with other people.
I'm rather curious as to how others are dealing with their core beliefs especially as they go hand in hand with Agoraphobia.

Davit

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