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12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 252

To Everyone:

On a more postive note:

I came to this site over a year ago with Depression: anxiety/panic ptsd and Agrophobia..I want to let everyone know who is new to the program that this program and the support group have helped me immensely..I was leading a very isolated life for many many years and with the help of this program I am not leading a very active life...I have be able to do things I never thought I would be able to do in my life time...This program really does work...even for someone like me that who was suffering for over 20 years...

Hang in there, work the program and you will get better....

Sid...

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 252

Hugs

We can all share as much or as little about ourselves as we want to. It is a personal choice. We have control over how close we want to let people get to us..

Right now I am feeling a lot of negativity after reading your post..I am not sure what I should post or even if I should post anymore. I just don't know what to say anymore. Maybe I should say nothing.

This is causing me a lot of anxiety. I guess I am going to have to decide if my being here is helping me or anyone else anymore.

I came to this site looking for positive support not criticism...

Sid

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 6252

Hugs

If you ever find anything I say to you offensive have the health educators delete it, they will do that. You also do not have to answer any post if it bothers you. My intention is to support, not offend. I fought a long hard battle with panic attacks. Three years in therapy. Six weeks in the psych ward and two years researching every thing written seriously about this condition. There are vultures out there praying on people with books pretending to have the answer. There are also sites with very good information. I find this program very good with information from the net only reinforcing it. The expert is also clear easy to understand and accurate. But panic is very complex and this site can not cover every instance. That is where the forum is so important. The exchange of experience and information is a very big part of the support needed to keep people working the program.

I believe that unless a person has an actual mental disease needing medication for control that this program will work. And even for those with actual mental diseases it can still give comfort.

Davit.

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 6252

Ditto, The same for me Sid. The very same.

Davit.

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 252

Wow,

I don't know what to say here..

I know some of my posts are long and some are short, like this one..

I just answer the ones I am comfortable with and try to forget about the others.

I just try to share my personal experience about this disorder with the group in hopes that it will help someone else and may be me at the same time...doing this has helped me to feel and be less isolated...

Sid

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 4027

Davit,

Sorry I couldn't respond to your question about sharing myself. I guess unlike others, I'd rather share a bit at a time. With over 300 posts, I thought some would form an idea about me.

I kind of felt put on the spot, Davit.

I couldn't find this thread anyway, and was feeling out of it after a medical test. There seemed to be a surge of people reading, but that made more posts and more threads, and I couldn't find this thread

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 4027

Sid,

I am feeling more comfortable with the classes, and keep postponing writing some questions or subjects to talk about with classmates. I guess I feel so rushed during the week, but it's over half over, and I'll have to make some progresss or miss the opportunity, since there are only 3 classes left

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 252

Good morning Hugs,

I have felt like I don't belong many times myself..I was Agoraphobic for many years and still am to some extent. For me it is like being a stranger in a strange land..

One thing that has helped me a lot is doing exposure work..For instance taking my first class in over 20 years. Taking these classes has helped me find a place where I fit in.. It did take time for me to be accepted into the quilting class I take..This is my third semester I am starting to fit in..Some of my classmates have been taking this class for many years..When I go into class many of them call me by name now and we are developing friendships..

Like Davit said some groups are kind of cliquish and hard to get into. Some aren't worth the trouble if they really are not you.

My partner and I belonged to a club for a long time that really wasn't us and so we left that club and joined another club where that we really like and fit into just fine....Some clubs and groups are just not the right fit..So don't let one group of people discourage you, keep trying and you will find a place where you fit in just fine.

You mentioned in one of your posts that you were taking a home renovation class and that when the class would meet the following week that you and some of your classmates would discuss how you were progressing with your projects..Like installing a toilet for instance and how was it coming along..

What I am trying to point out to your is that you are fitting in..This exposure you have been doing is proving that and it is teaching you how to be part of a group at the same time...

How is it going with this class now? Is this a ongoing class? If not have you started to explore some other classes you would like to take? Your classmate may have some classes they have taken before that they liked..Maybe you could ask them?

I think you are getting better and that you just didn't realize it.....

Sid.....

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 6252

Hugs,

First I want to apologize if I offend you. I have been patiently waiting here to see who you are. I don't mean personally, but thoughts, likes, attitude. You are a chameleon changing.

You say you have never felt like you fit in. Is it because you don't know who you are? You are too many people? You try too hard? (I don't mean multiple personalities)

You could start by telling us how your day is going, what you are doing. How it effects you. And you need a personal opinion. Some thing that makes you real. If you look at the others here you will see they do it. (do you have a core belief that won't let you do this?)

You can be a very private person and still give the world a sense that you exist. Existing is the first step to being part of any thing or group.

Who is hugs? What are Hugs4U's likes and dislikes, what causes joy, what causes stress?How do we get to know this person?

I think I know some of your core beliefs and blocks, but I'd like you to say them so I don't get the wrong Idea. Because right now I'm guessing who you are and that is not a good thing to do. You can say anything you want here because it is the internet and can't come back to bite you. First step to fitting in with a live group is fitting in with a virtual one, then the live one will just come natural. One thing though, some groups are cliquey and hard to get into. Some aren't worth the trouble if they really are not you.

I'm having a good day, and hope you are too.

Davit.

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1665

Gee Hugs, 25 yrs. is a long time to not connect somewhere. It makes me curious as to why, I can only imagine how you are feeling about it. I know for myself, I have different circles of friends. I think of it as a pebble tossed into the water, the ripple effect. The smallest circles are the close ones, family and maybe one or two close friends, the next circle maybe aunts and uncles, cousins whom I don't see often but are family, then work mates, next circle, those I see regularly such as neighbours on my street, then church, postman, store clerks in my life who I might joke with or say hello to on a regular basis. The last circle might be acquaintances and lastly, those I meet and just say hello to. There are many levels of connectedness. Just wondering if you can appreciate the differences and see that you have different layers too. I bet you will find you are connected in some way. What do you think? Hope this idea helps you a little.

Your friend, Sunny

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