Hi Davit
I completely agree with you about thought and emotions. The point I was trying to make is that if a situation causes panic you cannot change your emotion of panic to happiness just by will. It requires a thought change just as you said they are interlinked. To change an emotion to an event you have to change your thought about it.
Dizzy
Hi Davit
I can hear what you are saying and it makes sense to me. However, I believe that you cannot manipulate emotions from on feeling to another in fact the two things we cannot do is not have an emotion and not have the sensation that go with it. The things we can do are to change our thoughts, impulses, and behaviours. What CBT teaches us are thoughts, impulses, and behaviours can be changed. The unreality sensation comes from the everyday panic attacks that I have in the morning I was not trying to say that my anger at my brother causes unreality. Although I believe that anger is one of the emotions that can cause the same sensations as anxiety. For me I am not suppressing the anger in the thought experiment I did I said "is he doing this too purposely (ignore me) annoy me”, after I felt the anger and analyzed it. The reason is use this saying is that help me believe that my anger is unfounded and that it may be a core belief or instant reaction of how I think other people should react. It also gives my mind an opportunity to think up of other reason why he has not replied to my offer. By defusing the anger, I can instantly think of secure thoughts. The thought could be, it a hard decision for him to make, maybe he has not had time to discuss it with his wife, maybe he I afraid of my proposal, and maybe his hole phone system is not working or computer and is unable to talk to me. I know the last one seems ridicules but it shows me how ridicules my anger is. The last thing I know about anger is that it usually there because you did not get what you wanted, which is my expectation of how long it should take him to make a decision. Know I have realized that I did not get what I felt was a suitable time for him to reply. However, I now I realize I am improvising my belief system on his. as the panic center says we may be experiencing the same problems but no one can know how I feel and no one can know how you feel even is we have the same false belief and emotion and sensation we are going to have a different experience.
Dizzy