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14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 81

Thanks Davit. It does help knowing that I am not the only one going through this! lol I will definitely give her an apology!

I am on my way to my Appt!

Lisa

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 6252

Hi Lisa

That is so funny, because I too have been there.

I agree that you owe her an apology because of the way you handled it even though you were right and you will find that this might not be the last time the withdrawal gets the better of you. Just tell her you have been under a lot of strain lately and you are sorry for taking it out on her. This you need to do so it doesn't start to eat at you. It will get better the farther you get into the withdrawal. Also if you are with your mom you could get her to point out when you are getting rude so it doesn't get to far. And if it does you can always apologies. Remember it is the chemical change in your body doing this not you. It is good that you can write this so that others know there not the only one it happens to.

Davit.

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 81

Thank you Davit! I am doing ok right now thinking about tomorrow. I am very excited that I am able to start weaning off the Xanax...last time I tried I couldn't do it! So I am making progress getting this far already! I was very rude to a cashier today at the pharmacy when I went with my Mom. Apparently I was so bad that I embarassed my Mom which never happens! I am always the upbeat, happy, friendly, outgoing, optimistic girl and today I turned into instant *****. The lady told my Mom that the total was over 200 dollars for 2 prescriptions and I told the lady that it can't be right and she said why can't it? - That instantly set me off because any other time when the insurance doesn't cover so much, they always say before they ring it up that it will be this much and she didn't even care that my Mom had to pay that much money. Well, I told her to check the insurance because she had gotten it there before and her copay was 20 dollars. I continued to argue with her and finally I put hand up and shooshed her away and said just go do what you need to do to fix this. It took the lady probably 15 more minutes to get it taken care of the new total was her normal co-pay by the time we were done. My Mom whispered to me that I needed to read her name tag and it said Beauty consultant/advisor. I felt bad that I was rude but at the same time she made me mad that way she responded. I don't think I would have been so hard on her if I would have known that she had no idea what she was doing when it came to pharmacy. I think I owe her an apology though the next time I go there. :)

Lisa

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 6252

Lisa'

I believe the irritability is normal with xanax withdrawal. Pillow punching works or throwing one of those foam nerf balls. I chase my cat with one and laugh my head off. It looks silly but it works. It is good to release aggression as long as it isn't against people. (unless like your bowling team they deserve it). Keep the withdrawal slow I would hate to see you relapse. It is normal to be anxious about tomorrow. Telling yourself this is normal is a positive thought. Obsessing is a negative one. A fine line here. Good luck with the procedure.

Davit

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 81

Thank you Samantha, Davit and Red! I also tried weaning off my Xanax yet again. I so far have made it off one day, on one day, off one day and now tonight will be my on day. I can feel some of the physical symptoms coming back, but not full force. I am more irritable though I have noticed. I feel like I am in a good mood, then BAM someone sets me off! Is this normal for coming off the Xanax? I am also very nervous because tomorrow I am having the Mirena put in to help control my hormones. I keep telling myself that it is something that will help me and improve things a lot! Hard to convince the anxiety though! :) I think I am doing ok getting off the Xanax so far. I also started a daily vitamin today and am continuing my Iron pill as well. I am also doing exercise a lot more and deep breathing. I am hoping to get more physically fit and at the same time mentally fit! I guess those are 2 of my goals.

Lisa

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 420

Lisamarie,

Congratulations on standing your ground and doing whats best for you. You should be very proud of yourself.

Also I am going to try to do some deep breathing and thinking positive thoughts and see if it works for me too.

Red

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 6252

Hello Lisa.

Congratulations on letting go of the pressure. (bowling) Did you notice the almost instant reduction in stress? We have a lot of hidden stress builders that we think are normal and just have to be accepted but they don't. Don't be surprised if the negative thoughts try to get back in, they have had free run for a long time. The more positive you get the less hold they will have. You are not the only one who believed you couldn't control panic with thought alone. There are still a lot of people who need to hear this. Of course positive thought is only part of it but it is a major part. You still need relaxation, plenty of sleep and proper food. Keep posting, this is a great opportunity for you to help others. I would love to hear any other negativity you overcame and how you did it. And I'm sure others would too even if they don't answer.

I see a much more assertive, confident and positive Lisa than I did months ago. This is good, very good.

Davit.

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 2606

Lisa,

It is so great to read this post and hear how you overcame your negative thoughts! Good on ya! You deserve to be very excited about it! You may even want to consider writing a journal entry about the experience and how you overcame the negative thoughts to reference later on. It is also great to hear that you quit the bowling team, it can be really difficult to stop participating in something that you've been doing for a while. You know what you need to do for yourself, and being surrounded by negativity is not going to help you overcome negative thoughts. It took a lot of courage to stand up and say no to your team, good for you for doing it! What other thoughts did you have about it?

Keep us posted, this is great!

Samantha, Health Educator

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 81

I overcame my negative thoughts this morning!!! :) I told myself that I was not going to let the negative thoughts consume my mind anymore and I did some deep breathing and then began to think positive thoughts! I used to think people were crazy when they would say just tell the thoughts to leave and try deep breathing because before it never worked for me. I am very excited about it. Also, wanted to share with everyone that I quit my Bowling league last night for Sundays. That was part of me breaking free from negativity. There was always Drama, arguing and gossiping going on and after my teammate walked out on us in the middle of a game a few weeks ago, he was allowed to come back the last 2 weeks and bowl and has treated me like crap. Last night I got to Bowling and my teammates and him were there along with 3 other people that don't even bowl! They all sit at the table week after week which makes it crowded and they all smoke with totally sucks. Anyways, there was no place for me to sit and I had to sit with the opposite team at their table. I finally had enough and told my team captain that I would finish out the night and then I was done. She even had the nerve to ask why! I was up front with her told her this all was B.S. and I wasn't dealing with it anymore. Well, the timing worked out well, because the team I sat with asked me if I would start bowling with them until their Mom came back from her heart attack. So I still get to do what I love, just with another team! ~ also, I was more in my comfort zone last night with the other team than I have ever been with my own! :)

Lisa

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11213

Members,

Today will be our last discussion on negative thought patterns. Over the last two weeks we have reflected on our individual negative thoughts, tracked and learned more about them and created a plan to decrease them.

Continue to focus on this topic working towards achieving your goal and keep tracking your progress. You may see improvements in some areas but not in others. Keep your plan updated and modify as you need to along the way.

If you are encountering difficulties, please feel free to ask questions.

Ashley, Health Educator

Here to help :)

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