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10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 100

Hi Honey Badger and welcome!

To post a blog: log in, click on Forums and scroll down to where the forum posts actually start.

Just above the blue headers there's a link to My Blog and an orange Launch button.

Hope that helps...

10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 72

Rob9? I am new today to this group. I'd like to post a blog on my profile, but I can't figure out how to do it. any advice as I start on a new journey?

10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 72

there is actually someone out there? I've been wandering this site for hours trying to connect!

10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 6

Day 1 is huge. The day I poured out all of the alcohol in my house was my day 1. By the end of the day, it felt like a lifetime.

Admitting there is a problem is the hardest thing, and you have gone so far by just doing that. Be proud of yourself. I am trying to do the same every minute.

10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 72

if I could figure out how to post a blog, I would add that to my profile. I have a story to tell, but don't know how to use this site just yet. All I get is a blank box with no where to type up my introduction and story.

10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 72

day 4!!! I am just at day one. just ashamed of my behaviour and that it was pointed out to me again. My family is all I've got at this point and if I don't turn this around, I will have lost everything. I'm hoping I can get somewhere, a starting point. and hope I can say, its been four days!!

10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 6

Thank you both for posting.

I'm on day 4 without alcohol. This is the first really emotional day I have had. I am finding myself feeling like if I can just get through the day...

This stemmed from a lot of events in the past, including my last relationship. My boyfriend ended our relationship because of my drinking habits. I seem to start drinking and do well for awhile. At some point, I just cross over into someone else. I become an unpredictable drunk. I would pick fights with him and my friends for no apparent reason. This past Saturday was the eye opener for me, though. I promised my best friend I would not drink much at her birthday party, which of course, I broke that promise. I made a fool of myself, and I ruined her birthday party. The next morning, I went home, threw out every bit of alcohol I kept at home, and I made a promise to myself that I would not drink anymore. I have reached out to my close friends and family, and I have told them that I am serious about my decision. They are all being supportive, but I'm sure at this point they don't know what to expect. I don't blame them. I am 4 days sober, and it feels like a lifetime.

I agree that getting through this first week will be huge, but I feel like I am going day by day at this point. My emotions are getting the best of me, and I am going through so many scenarios in my head right now of all of the times I acted out or had to apologize to someone because I had too many drinks. I hope this is normal. The guilt is eating me away, and being sober the past few days has my head messing with me.

Mental hangover. That seems like a good term for what I am feeling right now.

My goal right now is to stay sober completely, at least until I feel like I have a handle on my life as a sober person. Eventually I would like to be able to have 1 glass of wine or 1 drink, and I would like to be happy with that. For now, I don't think I have enough self control to do that.

Your words are comforting, and I thank you all. Any uplifting words are greatly appreciated. Especially today.

Sarah

10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 252

Needachange welcome,

I call it the fear, I stop drinking but I am left with a mental hangover for a couple of days, a kind of depression. I am left feeling anxiouos and worried about everything. For me at least this normally passes withing a couple of days and rational perspecitve returns.

Perhaps at this point there is no need to hang a label on yourself (alcholic or not). If drinking causes somone difficuties then by the most basic definition, that is a drink problem.

There is enough on the forum here to allow someone to work on with and start to address the problem. It is also very good for dealing with isolation on this issues. We are all in the same boat here delaing with this issue at the different stages.

Keep on reaching out and I look forward to your next post

Rob

PS What is you goal?

10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1009

Hi needachange,

Thye first week can be really tough, both physically and emotionally. You remind me of myself a few months back when I decided to quit. I didn't believe I was an alcoholic then and I don't believe I am one now, although that is a completely personal decision that can only be determined by the individual. I definitely abused alcohol, for many years, and I knew I had to make a change. I quit back in July and I feel so much better, both mentally and physically. It's a challenge, especially when your friends are drinkers, as all of mine are but it was a lot easier than I thought it would be. The important thing is to give yourself the time right now to detox and get the alcohol out of your system so you can think things though with a clear head. Don't get all stressed out about not drinking or quitting forever. Just get through this week and weekend and you'll start to feel a lot better.

Take the time to write in your diary and post a lot. You will get a lot of different perspectives and you will find you will get a lot of positive support and and immediate feedback.

3 days is a great start so keep it up and give yourself some breathing space. Stay hydrated and take lot's of vitamins to reload your depleted body. And stay focused! That being said, do you have any specific goals? Moderation? Quit altogether? What is the catalyst that has brought to address your drinking?

All the best,

Dave

10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 6

I found this website randomly, but I have been writing in my diary for 3 days. I am 3 days sober, and I'm feeling anxious. I feel fine physically. Emotionally, I feel wrecked. I am scared, but I know this is a step I need to take.

While I do not believe I am an alcoholic after much reading and studying, I know I abuse alcohol. Maybe alcoholism is the same thing. I'm looking for anyone out there to talk to. This has been a lonely few days. Because my friends are drinkers, I'm not sure how to reach out or where to start.

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